Our five senses of sight, sound, smell, taste and touch are wonderful tools to explore sensuality and eroticism. Here are some suggestions to inspire you in your own sensual adventures.

A threesome may seem like a word everyone knows the definition of but do you really? There are various flavours of threesome and what you think a threesome entails versus what I think it entails could be two completely different things.

Do you love unconditionally, or are there conditions to your love? The inability to validate yourself creates a need to have the other validate you, to make you feel ok about yourself and your own values, beliefs and world view.

Becoming a sensual man is not about becoming an insipid new age guy. To be truly sensual, a man needs to be strong, he needs to be able to hold his woman with exquisite tenderness and take her to magical places.

Fortunately this big brain of ours has a dual function - not only has it necessitated us to have good sex, it has also equipped us to have good sex. Our brain capacity allows us to plan and fantasize and be creative - all required for good sex!

So many women hold themselves back from experiencing pleasure. So many women hold back from allowing themselves the indulgence of letting their partner give them that pleasure.

Embrace the sensual and you’ll connect with your body at a deep level and increase your energy, both of which will heighten your desire for sex and your enjoyment of it.

When your lover is in absentia, it opens up wonderful possibilities for ‘distance sex’ via video or phone sex. In fact, absence can not only make the heart grow fonder, it can make the loins grow hotter!

Sex is playtime for grown-ups. Sex is about sharing pleasure. That means being creative and experimental and generally having fun. One element of playtime is…toys! Yes, just as kids can play with toys, so can we grown-ups.

Sex is the one thing in life we seem to think should just happen ‘naturally’ without any focused attention and study. Which is completely absurd, and one of the reasons why people don’t have good sex lives!