If you are in a long-term relationship, chances are you are running about average! If you introduce a little friendly competition into the mix, large holes of ‘us’ time might suddenly start appearing in your diaries.

Communing is enjoyable and relaxing and connecting. Beforeplay is at least as important as the Foreplay. It’s the way you relate and feel about each other (and therefore about yourself) before you even get to the bedroom.

We love our boxes. We have them around our work, our gender, our ethic grouping, our age, our relationship status. For so many people, their lives are boxes within boxes, constraints within constraints, limitations within limitations.

What are the small things that mean a lot to you and your partner? How can you keep the connection strong through frequent acts of kindness and affection? It can be words, it can be touch, it can be actions, or simply spending time together.

Yes, it’s a play on words, but it’s also an extremely important point. A couple can only have good on-going sex if they both agree to make it good. You both need to agree to ditch the monotony!

Our sexuality is one area where many people aren’t open and honest and true to themselves. No matter how much personal development work they’ve done, if they’ve missed out this crucial part of themselves, then they’re never going to be whole and real.

Are you treating your partner like your lover? Your bedroom is the practice ground for love. Allow the love in to yourself and allow it to flow out of yourself.

Solo sex is a healthy part of everyone’s sex life. People often think it’s only something you’d do if you weren’t getting ‘the real thing’. But solo sex is fabulous in its own right, and can enhance your ability to have better partnered sex.

It doesn’t matter what size you are. Full-figured, voluptuous people can be far more luscious than skinny twigs. All that flesh and softness and roundness – just like a juicy peach.

“Sex is a paradox. It needs the difference between man and woman, yet it reminds them that they are not different at all. In this way pleasure is the world’s great equalizer.”