Honestly, people take it so seriously. It is absolutely vital to a healthy and happy sex life to be able to sit back and laugh and enjoy all the craziness that comes with it.

There are things you need to discuss to make sure your first threesome experience is utterly mind-blowing and not a dramatic blow out. You want to turn that fantasy threesome into a titillating reality!

Ladies, just because he’s erect, it doesn’t mean he has to have an orgasm. He might possibly like one, but that doesn’t mean he has to have one, and it certainly doesn’t mean that you have to drop everything and give him one. 

Plenty of people, male and female, enjoy anal play. It can be great combined with other oral or manual stimulation or when playing when toys.

There's so much diversity around what we think of as 'normal' or 'abnormal' - far more diversity than you'd think if you based it on the media or general opinion. So what is normal? And the answer to that is simply: what is right for you.

One of the key elements of Kink is playing along the borders of pleasure and pain. We all have pain thresholds, and the area around that threshold can be exquisitely delightful - if approached in a safe and relaxed manner.

Good sex is like good food. So what’s missing from your love larder? What can you do individually and as a couple (if you have a partner) to stock it up?

It's obviously not high literature, but then again, it's not trying to be, it’s just a good romance. Ignore the standard 'bodice ripper' elements and you basically have a love story which has important elements that all couples can relate to.

Sensual Kink is not for everybody. But hey, it might be, and wouldn’t it open up a whole range of possibilities? Start with a blindfold at the most basic level, and see where your explorations take you…

Reading erotica alone or together will give you insights into what you and your partner like. Then you can experiment with adding elements to your own sex play.