Swinging is for Every Body
Eva Sless
on 3 June 2021
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Stepping into the swinging lifestyle can be a little daunting at first, especially if you're not confident you belong, but the thing is, when it comes to swinging, almost everyone belongs and has a place, and it can absolutely change your life and your self image in the best ways possible! Yes, even if you're fat, because fat is not a bad thing nor is it anything to be ashamed of and it's time we started talking about that more.
Swing Out Of The Box
You see, swinging and other sexual lifestyles are full of people who step outside of the "normal" box society tries to put us in. The very rigid, cis-hetero box where everyone is monogamous and thin, and all the men have 4WDs and go fishing and all the women drink wine and laugh at salad ... Yeah, nah.
Not that there's anything inherently wrong with fishing or drinking wine, but real life is actually far more diverse and interesting and, if you're so inclined, one of the best places to go and meet and find the sort of people who will accept you is a swingers party.
But I'm Too Fat To Swing
Nope. Stop. Fake news! When it comes to sex, sexuality, sexy times, and sexual fantasies there is no size limit. Forget what those magazines and TV shows tell you. Seriously. Every single person in the world is different and likes different things and you, no matter who you are or what you look like, will be someone's cup of tea. The thing is, big bodies are gorgeous. They truly are! There's butts and boobs and bellies and jiggly thighs and all the good things that make humans sexy and fun and delicious, and there are plenty of people out there who desire it. Just jump onto something like Instagram and search BBW or BBW Swingers and you'll see just how gorgeously popular and delicious larger women are.
Not Just Fetishism
Yes, I know. There are definitely people out there who fetishise certain body types and nationalities etc and it can be a little uncomfortable for people just wanting to be accepted for who they are and not placed in some sort of "porn expectation" bubble where the only thing interesting or desirable about them is their shape. For the most part, however, this sort of attitude doesn't come into the swinging scene as much as outsiders may think it does because open-minded, sexually free people see humans as far more than holes and status symbols, and are far more accepting of the differences we all have. I also understand that so many women on the larger side of body shape have spent their lives being the butt of a joke. The fat friend. The fatogram. The "take one for your mate" choice... But again, this commercialised, glossy magazine, cis-het "no fat chicks" bullshit is not at all representative of the swinging (or indeed almost any other sexually open lifestyle) world.
Check Out the Swing Lifestyle For Yourself
If you're a bit sceptical I get it. It can be incredibly hard to unlearn the ingrained lessons we never realised we'd been taught, but I absolutely guarantee you, if you take the step and start your journey into "Swing Land" you will be surprised at what you thought it would be like compared to what it actually is, and I dont mean jumping straight into a full play party either. Check out member hosted meet and greet events for Adult Match Maker members and Newbie Nights a lot of the clubs and parties offer. These are mostly fully clothed, non sex, non play events that cater to newbies like you. The "not too sure but curious about it all" person who wants to know what it's all about, meet some people who are into the same stuff as you, but who doesn't necessarily want to get right into it straight away. (Some of the Newbie Nights can start off as non sex with a view to play later, which gives you the choice of whether you'd like to stay and play or go home and come back another time).
I promise you there will be fat and thin, old and young, black and white, trans and cis and everything in between, and you will start to realise that so much of your self consciousness and resistance has everything to do with how other people have made you feel, and actually nothing at all to do with anything about you whatsoever.
You're Sexy Because You're You!
It really is important to remember and know that you are sexy because you are you. Because of your body, mind, and soul. Because of that sexy squishy bit of thigh that pops out of the top of your stocking. Because of your laugh. Because of the way your eyes glint wickedly when you speak of naughty things. Because of so many things. Everything about you is desirable not in spite of, but because of everything you are, which includes, but is not limited to, your shape and size.
Trust me. I know. I've been in and around the swing lifestyle scene for over twenty years. I have been both BBW and not so BBW in that time, and have also played with and dated plenty of BBW in my life, and I've always had a great time, a sexy time, and a boost in confidence I would sell in a bottle and become a millionaire if I could.
Swinging isn't a body type, it's a way of life, and one that incorporates and accepts all of us, no matter how big or small or anything we are. Swinging really is for every body!
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