Learn how to love your vagina
Eva Sless
on 11 February 2021
27 comments
Even if you've never seen one in the flesh before, most of us know what a dick looks like. We know because if you've ever sat at a wooden desk in high school, or have ventured into a public toilet or walked past a graffiti scrawled wall you've seen a picture of one. We know because of eggplant emojis and man-made phallic monuments and, of course, sex toys. We know because dicks are, for the most part, an acceptable body bit to talk about, look at, and understand.
Their counterpart though? The humble vagina and vulva and all their associated bits? Not so much. Partly because they're all tucked up and hidden away and not waving about in the wind like penises are, but mostly because, for the better part of history, they've been deemed as "rude" or "pornographic" and an unmentionable topic of conversation, sometimes even in sex education!
Well I think that's bullshit. The vag, and all the flaps and folds and fun bits surrounding it, is an amazing organ. It brings life and pleasure into this world and, like fingerprints, is absolutely beautiful and unique to every person who owns one.
Who Doesn't Love Flowers?
Forget about comparisons to oysters and mussels and other briney molluscs. While they are absolutely correct and I have no qualms comparing them to their uncanny doppelgangers of the sea, unfortunately the connotations of "gross, smelly fish" has made it so that the average person, when confronted with these images or comments, usually goes to the "Ew, gross" side of things. Which is crap, but understandable in the great scheme of things... But what about flowers?
Have you ever looked up close at a lily or orchid as it blooms? Or at the centre of a rose in all its unfolded, petalled beauty? Soft and sweet and oh so touchable... Yes, there is a reason some people call it their "flower", and even though I have a big issue with people not calling their body parts by their proper names, I have to admit it's definitely one of the nicer terms used. Don't be fooled, though. No matter what anyone says, that area, while fine to look a bit like one, is NOT supposed to smell like a flower. It is supposed to smell like a vagina and anyone trying to sell you something to make it smell un-vagina-ish is conning you and definitely does not have your vagina's best interests at heart.
Vulva Is Not A Dirty Word
Back in the old days, you know, the heady days of the early 90s, my sex education teacher (who I've spoken about before in these blogs) was absolutely amazing and super progressive for the time. She taught me about things I didn't hear about again until I was much older and doing my own research. About things like the different kinds of discharge and vaginal lubrication. And about how shit it was that she was required to teach us the "rhythm method" even though it didn't work and was very risky to use as a form of contraception. And I also remember her getting into a bit of strife with the principal because she had dared utter the word "vulva" to our year nine science class. There we were, literally learning about certain parts of the body, and she was told off for using a proper name. It wasn't like she said cunt or something! All she had said was that the vagina was the inside bit and the vulva was the outside bit but someone must have gone home and told their parents, who then complained to the school.
Insanity! But, would you believe, this is something that still happens to this day! The thing is "vulva" is not only a perfectly normal word to say to anyone of any age, it truly is a completely different part to the vagina and needs to be differentiated. What happens, for example, if you go to a doctor telling him you have a sore vagina when you mean vulva? You may not get the right advice or treatment which could lead to a whole lot of other issues down the road. And regardless of that, IT'S LITERALLY WHAT IT'S CALLED!
Mirror Mirror
For millions of cis, heterosexual women out there the VJ (which I shall use henceforth as a phrase to incorporate the entire area) is a mystery. They have one, yes they also touch it daily with either wiping, or cleaning, or dealing with periods, or yes, even masturbating, but it is still a mystery.
Like men, it's not uncommon for women to be naked in a room together (Calm down, I'm talking locker rooms and stuff, not porn-esque sleepovers with pillow fights and truth or dare) but, unlike men, it's not like we can easily see what other people's bits look like. We can't just casually glance over at the urinal or see it as they walk past us on the way to the showers. In fact, unless we watch porn or something, its unlikely that we get a good look at what it's all about and, for the most part, mainstream porn isn't really known for its portrayal of anything but one "neatly tucked up and trim" VJ aesthetic.
Well now it's time to change that. Every vagina owner needs a good hand held mirror at their disposal, and a nice private spot to get their pants off and have a good ol' look and explore with the mirror.
Same Same But Different
Like mentioned above, each VJ is completely different and unique to its owner, and while there are certain similarities you'll never find two that are identical.
You may have fleshy vulva lips and thin, tucked away labia, or maybe your vulva is thinner but the labia hang down. Is it long? Short? How does it look shaved versus unshaved? What about your clitoris? Can you see it or does it mostly hide away until stimulated? Does the area change colour or shape as your get turned on? Do you know where your urethra is?
Have you had a baby? Does it look different now?
Getting to know the what, where and how of your bits is so important for a bunch of reasons, both health and pleasure wise. Knowing what it looks like and recognising any changes in look, odour or sensations is important for knowing things like the difference between thrush and general itchiness or something even more serious. About knowing your menstrual cycle. About knowing what it likes and wants sex wise so you can enjoy shared sexual experiences with as much satisfaction as possible
Just as you know about all the things your mouth needs and wants, from food to hygiene and when you need to go to the dentist, so should you know the same about your VJ.
VJ BFF
Basically what I'm saying is that you should love your VJ like you love your bestest friend in the world. You should honour and protect it by making sure it is clean, healthy, happy and content. You don't need to douche or spritz or add anything to it to make it "better" or "nicer" or "prettier" (piercings excluded, you can totally pierce it if you wanna). You should know what it likes and treat it frequently and never, ever feel shamed or ashamed of it.
We are often told in this world of commercialism, with the constant barrage of "not good enough" vibes thrown our way, that loving yourself is a revolutionary act... Well let's take that to a whole new level and embrace every single bit, and fold and flap and hole.... In other words VJ La Revolution, baby, VJ La Revolution!
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