Stroke Her like a Pussy Cat

If you've ever been on the internet, I'm pretty sure you'll have come across those "hilarious" memes and pics that show the difference between men and women's pleasure with juxtaposed images of a simple one-button push to represent men and a series of complicated dials and buttons and maths equations to represent women.  While on the surface it may be amusing it's actually a rather insulting way of looking at sex for all involved. 

For men it's insulting because not only are men far more deserving of erotic and changeable actions beyond the basic rub-n-tug, thank ya ma'am, blow and go, they are also made to look both lazy and stupid and uninterested in women's pleasure which is, for the most part, a big old lie. And it's insulting to women because it makes us look like we're far too complicated to be bothered figuring out which can lead to all sorts of hang-ups and personal anxieties about our own pleasure and can even lead to us wondering if it's even worth asking for... Creating unsatisfactory sex all around.

I mean I do get it. Women's bodies are very different to men's and, due to a bunch of moral, religious, and just plain bullshit oppression of women over the centuries, there has always very little information and education surrounding it (I mean women used to be locked up in institutions for being sexual creatures so there's also that) which means that it's no wonder people often think women are creatures from another planet when it comes to their pleasure. 

Well I'm here to tell you that it's really not that hard. Yeah it might take a bit of time and patience to work it all out, but it's absolutely worth it in the end.

I like to think of it like making friends with a pussy cat... They may be a bit confusing and aloof at first... But once you've created that bond they'll be purring on your lap in no time at all.

Softly Does It

While cats totally love a good, hard scratch that causes them to do that tense, hypnotic butt raise to push deeply into your fingers, you'll often find if you go straight for that they'll most likely run off. No,  you have to start nice and slowly with long, gentle strokes down their back to get them comfortable and feeling safe, and women are very similar. Go straight for the money box and it can be a bit too much too soon. Women need to be warmed up and relaxed before diving into the down n dirty, so take your time to warm her up a bit.

Pet Her Gently

Touch her back with long, loving strokes, trailing your fingers down her spine, over her butt cheeks, down her thighs. Combine soft strokes with gentle squeezes and feel her body start to relax and melt into your touch. Watch her movements and let them guide you.

Enhance Kissing

How good is a long, deep, intimate kiss. That delicious hunger that comes from lips and tongues entwined... Well I'm going to let you in on a little secret that can make that deep kissing even more pleasurable and sexy... Stroke her face and hair while you kiss her. Seriously,  there's something incredibly erotic about having a man cup your face in his hands as he kisses. His fingers stroking her cheeks, pulling her gently into him. His fingertips lightly tangled in her hair, brushing her head and the nape of her neck... You know that look that cats get when you stroke them under the chin? That trance-like intensity of pleasure? Yeah. That.

Follow Her Movements 

When you get that special spot on your cat you know it. They push into you. They move their bodies to be positioned just right. They purr and sigh and could stay there for hours... Well women are very similar.  If you pay attention and take the time to listen you'll find that her breath, her noises, and her movements will all respond to the way you touch her. Her hip raise to meet you. Her back arches under your hands. Her breathing gets shallow and involuntary noises escape her lips. She is purring and curling and putty in your hands.

Sleek And Smooth

One thing a cat really doesn't like is having it’s fur stroked the wrong way. If you brush them from tail to head you can be pretty much guaranteed they'll run away and not be interested in being touched as it's just not comfortable or nice to feel. Women are similar in so far as they need their pussies be stroked smoothly and comfortably, and for that you need lube. There is nothing more unpleasant than a rough, dry finger scraping along your most delicate areas, but a nice drizzle of slippery lube can change all of that to a sleek and slippery sensation of pleasure and sexiness. Whether she likes it soft and gentle or rougher and harder, lube is a necessity for keeping it enjoyable and rewarding for everyone involved. 

Pet Me, Feed Me, And Tell Me I'm Pretty

For many women, just like cats, trust is a huge factor in them being intimate and comfortable around you. The more open and honest you are, the more likely they are to stick around and, and the more care you show in them, the more likely they are to open up themselves and enjoy the intimacy and eroticism of a good sex session.

Being a kind, respectful, and conscientious lover is half the battle, and listening, watching, and learning all about her pleasure will have you winning the war. Compliments and affirmations and little saucers of milk (actually, she may prefer wine or chocolates) will add to that trust and comfort and lead to even more exciting and purr-fect sex, and you'll feel just like the cat who got the cream.