Beginning Your Journey as a Hot Wife Bull

Eva Sless Eva Sless on 2 October 2020    48 comments
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Being a Bull in a hot wife situation isn't just a matter of going in and fucking some other dude's wife. It's a privileged, lucky, and incredibly nuanced position to be allowed into and, as such, comes with a few rules and understandings, as well as skills and knowledge that, if done well and properly, can be an incredibly hot and rewarding affair for everyone involved.

No Bull, Hotwifing is not Easy

The first thing to really understand is that while "every guy" (#NotAllMen) thinks he could totally be a Bull, it really does take a special sort of person to be able to carry it out in a satisfying way for everyone (themselves included). This is because there are often a number of different dynamics or "roles" the Bull needs to play all at the same time in order to carry out a successful session, and it can be a bit of a struggle to blend them all together in a way that is natural and comfortable to perform. 

One Bull, Many Horns

He needs to be sensual and attentive and passionate to the Hotwife, while at the same time taking a dominating, usually humiliating, approach towards the cuckold husband, while also respecting the dynamics of their relationship and understanding the importance of the bond the couple he is "Bulling" for has. It can be a bit of a mix of emotions and "personalities" and really does take a certain kind of man to be able to pull it off. 

While you may be a brilliant lover, your humiliation skills, especially when put to the real test of having someone right in front of you (or sitting naked in the corner in a gimp mask and a chastity cock cage) might not be as easy to muster up as you think. Could you really enjoy and maintain fucking someone while not only another guy watches, but a guy that you also have to be mean to about his dick and other traits that men usually hold very close to their masculine identity? It's not easy and can often have the opposite effect it's supposed to be having, making you feel a bit shit rather than sexy and powerful. 

Understand the Couple and their Dynamics 

This is really important and something that should be discussed at length before any sort of session takes place. What sort of "cuckold" is he? Will there be any interaction with him during? Are you to speak to him directly, speak about him like he's not there, or ignore him completely? What is the language of their cuckold fetish? What is the Hotwife needing to be fully satisfied and looked after? Are you required to stay? Or do you just come in, fuck and go? Like all sexual lifestyles the way couples experience and indulge in it can be anything from a full-time arrangement in their marriage, to a once in a blue moon kind of thing, and anything in between, so it really is important to get to know the couple and what they need your role to be so you can be the best Bull for them.

Be Respectful - Know Your Place

While this may sound like a rather "dominant" instruction to you, who will essentially be performing a very dominant role in the play, it's pretty much the same as talked about in any D/s dynamic and that is, for the most part, the submissive drives the play and the limits to which the dominant can go. 

Not only that, but you have to also remember you are the "third" and you are there for a specific purpose... To perform deliciously debauched acts of sensual orgasmic bliss on an incredibly delicious and sensual woman who happens to be married to a pathetic, tiny worm-cocked little man who could never satisfy her... But that is the only reason you are there. Because you're a good fuck. While this might seem like the ideal arrangement on paper, being purely objectified in that way (especially when intense intimacy is involved like it is in Hotwifing and cuckolding) can actually be a little hard on you after a while so it's important to look after your heart and head. Even Doms need a cuddle and a jellybaby every now and again.

Have fun with it!

In saying all of that, if you are the right Bull for the right Hotwife this could become one of the most fun and empowering experiences of your sexual life giving you not only an incredibly horny and erotic repertoire of moves, skills, words, and wank-bank flashbacks, but also can be a pretty great confidence grower and self esteem enhancer. 

If you’re a hotwife or a hotwife couple we’d love to hear from you about what qualities you look for in a Bull and any advice you would like to offer men who want to explore this aspect of the lifestyle.  

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Comments (48)

  • Hightimeforlove

    Hightimeforlove
    58M Henley Beach, SA,
     AU

    It is a total privilege to be admitted into a couple's circle of love. It involves recognising and respecting that they are the lovers and I am just the entertainment. In my experience there is absolutely zero element of humiliating him or her. On the contrary the couples I see expect and deserve honour and friendship towards both, and I give it to them!
    >4w
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  • Brendanforfun

    Brendanforfun
    49M NSW,
     AU

    Nothing better than being the 3rd wheel with a hot wife. Seeing her pleasures and fantasies become real and knowing my place is important. It’s not just about her but knowing that I’m different to most guys and ensuring that he goes first as it will warm her up for seconds and give him pleasure too
    >4w
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  • QoS4MrMandingo

    QoS4MrMandingo
    45M 38F NSW,
     AU

    Awesome article!!!
    >4w
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  • Hornybeaches

    Hornybeaches
    32M Warriewood, NSW,
     AU

    Have been very priviledged to fill this role with a few couples. And have loved every minute
    >4w
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  • FullMast

    FullMast
    56M Northcote, VIC,
     AU

    I've had many joyous mutually pleasant experience with couples over my lifetime with a wide variety of role play...and that's all this is....role play. For me, it has never been anything other than a mutually beneficial and consensual experience. I've never approached it as me being a 'third'..... everyone in the play should feel equally empowered, equally worthy, and equally entitled to be there. It's not someone providing me with a boon.
    If you are in any sexual or social relationship and you are expected to feel 'privileged' as if you are a lesser person that has somehow been granted an extraordinary benefit , then you may not be thinking about things right.
    The notion that single men must be pathetically grateful and subservient to the whims of women and couples is a terrible position on which to base a respectful relationship.....even if it's only a fleeting encounter.
    >4w
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  • KnightofSin

    KnightofSin
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    I think there are a few points missing or need clarifying here.
    Whilst this is targeting Hotwife and Cuckholding, and there is a belief that humilation is a part of this, this is not always the case and it is determined by the discussion and boundaries set by all involved, including the Hotwife and especially the Cuckhold,
    Whilst the Hotwife may like "another guy", generally it is the Cuckhold's fantasy at the end of the day, to see his wife satisfied by a "bull", so the Cuck is the essential part, and for the Hotwife it is for her to feel safe and enjoyment and that this is all okay and the Cuck is part of the "roleplay", whether Humiliated or not.
    There are other dimensions of this type of lifestyle/roleplay like Stag and Vixen, where the Stag (husband) wants to see his wife (Vixen) satisfied by a third party (Bull) without any humiliation and would he will encourage his wife to enjoy the "roleplay/encounter". The Stag also will get involved with another woman, and therefore it is not "Cuckholding" anymore, however the Wife is stilled referred to as a "Hotwife" or "Vixen".
    But one could argue, how are these things any different from Swinging, or have a threesome, or whatever, I just feel people are interchanging "titles" that may overlapp, which maybe interpreted or percieved as mistakenly something else, another category.
    However when describing Hotwife, the Cuck, Bull and Humiliation, I think there needs to be clarity about the different levels and dimensions, so people fully understand that these others do exist.
    Basically what I am saying there are many dimensions and levels, and there needs to a basic mention of these so others fully understand this.
    >4w
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  • HotwifeB

    HotwifeB
    58M 40F Townsville, QLD,
     AU

    Well we are more of a Stag/Vixen couple, my hubby is not submissive at all. Because he likes me to fuck other guys I guess he is a cuck.
    Good ‘bulls’ are hard to find either on dating sites or Tinder. Many no shows and bullshit excuses. But we have found a few who are worthy
    >4w
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  • Joeydsyd

    Joeydsyd
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    Excellent read!
    >4w
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  • FancyFifties

    FancyFifties
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    Great article. Never understood the Bull dynamics until I read this. Thanks for educating me
    >4w
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  • Zamboon

    Zamboon
    66M Bridgeman Downs, QLD,
     AU

    In a previous life I was the cuck and I loved the humiliation especially hearing my partners cries of ecstacy and the bulls laughing - I always got to clean her up afterwards though and that was great - moved on with a new partner and lost the cuck part - I guess it’s the chemistry that helps ...
    >4w
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  • moore3960

    moore3960
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    Great article.
    It is very difficult for a couple to find the right man who understands.
    >4w
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  • bestperson

    bestperson
    63M Sydney Central Business District, NSW,
     AU

    great article i was asked once
    >4w
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  • nswbull

    nswbull
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    Great article. As an experienced bull the article is spot on. The goal should always be to ensure the couple are both completely satisfied with the encounter including the bull. Knowing boundaries and what the couple are looking absolutely helps. All the couples I've bulled for have always been incredibly loving and trusting.
    >4w
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  • NotJohnnySins

    NotJohnnySins
    39M Brisbane, QLD,
     AU

    My experience has been that no two couples are the same, I take my time to ask a lot of questions to find out exactly what they are into and what they're not into. I need to know my role in their fantasy so it goes well for everyone.
    >4w
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  • Devourist

    Devourist
    49M NSW,
     AU

    Interesting, solid atricle but never mentions that most cucks are bi.
    >4w
    • KinkyGirl101

      KinkyGirl101
      50F QLD,
       AU

      Most lol probably the same percentage as the general population, personally I've never met a bi cuckold
      >4w
    • Devourist

      Devourist
      49M NSW,
       AU

      We have very different experiences...In fact a cuck told me that a cuck that says he isnt at least somewhat bi is lying to himself...
      Google it, there is a good thread on Quora, id post it here but not sure if its allowed.
      >4w
    • KinkyGirl101

      KinkyGirl101
      50F QLD,
       AU

      Quora ... then it must be true lol What does it say about straight guys who insist that sucking another guy's cock doesn't make them gay or bi?
      >4w
    • Devourist

      Devourist
      49M NSW,
       AU

      I have no idea but i fail to see the relevance nor do i see any reason to laugh at another discussion on the topic. Do you always have this much difficulty with another person sharing their lived experience?
      >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      And therein lies the problem...
      Lived experience is not necessarily fact.
      It's your experience. It's obviously not all experiences as others are saying different.
      In my research, and the conversations I had with Bulls, cucks, and Hotwifes beforeI wrote this piece, not a single person mentioned the cuck being bi... So it didn't make it into the piece. Purely cos it didn't come up.
      >4w
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  • Maturemilf69

    Maturemilf69
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    We love a well hung bull to pleasure wife thoroughly in the bedroom as it really helps our sex play
    >4w
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  • CnJ1960

    CnJ1960
    65F 65M Joondalup, WA,
     AU

    Read this with gr8 interest & smiled at some of the replies.
    Every couples dynamic is different, a porn sites view on the HW/ cuck relationships is very distorted & a long way from reality in the majority of couples who enjoy this dynamic in their relationship.
    So called "bulls" could come away with a distorted view on their role after reading this.
    Couples who enjoy adding another guy to their fun aren't necessarily looking for dominance, humiliation or bisexuality from him, it might just be because its simply hot fun.
    Just saying :)
    >4w
    • alpikal

      alpikal
      74M 56F NSW,
       AU

      I agree with you. we don't want humiliation, just a good experience with someone who will turn up and service the hot wife so all have a fun experience. not too serious and not complicated.
      >4w
    • Wanttotry111

      Wanttotry111
      47F 47M Miranda, NSW,
       AU

      You have absolutely nailed it!! We are after anyone being humiliated or being made to free like a slut, one enjoys to watch the other enjoys the show. And in this situation the bigger the better. But it’s tough finding that nice bloke who understands the situation with the size for our fantasies.
      >4w
    • KnightofSin

      KnightofSin
      Account closed

      totally agree
      >4w
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  • SweetestSins

    SweetestSins
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    I am not a monogamous person, been there done that = never again.
    I will only enter a relationship if they are open to a hotwife/swinging/open relationship. Not so much cuckold as I prefer more “Alpha” men, but along these lines.
    But god damn it’s hard to find, MOST (note the most before attacking me) men are possessive and jealous, which I can’t deal with... but he’s out there somewhere, I hope lol
    >4w
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  • RazDazCpl

    RazDazCpl
    51M 50F Brisbane, QLD,
     AU

    We look for a guy that can make her laugh. Needs to be some sort of connection before moving to sex. Sending first messages which are over the top such as ‘I’m going to humiliate your hubby’ or ‘let me cream pie you now’ don’t get a look in...
    >4w
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  • gunnabhot1

    gunnabhot1
    Account closed

    Like the others we look for a guy that understands this is a dynamic that involves both members of the couple. He has to be able work with us for all of us to enjoy and get out of it what we all wanted.
    We look for his personality but we prefer them to be gym fit. Penis size isn’t even part of the selection criteria for us. The guy also has to be looking for ongoing meets as this works best as an ongoing regular thing for us. Again no humiliation stuff needed he enjoys seeing her enjoying it.
    >4w
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  • Hedotoday

    Hedotoday
    55M Central Coast, NSW,
     AU

    Great article, first and foremost it’s all about communication and trust once that’s achieved it’s a great dynamic.
    For me it’s lead to some great long term friends and playmates plus plenty of late night booty calls.
    Every couple is unique in their needs and fantasy’s, the way they play.
    >4w
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  • SydSensualLover

    SydSensualLover
    Account closed

    Hi i just find it hard to find a woman who likes this sort of thing. I am a bi submissive cuckold looking for a lady who would like to have this sort of a relationship.
    >4w
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  • sexyfuntime4u

    sexyfuntime4u
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    Bulls should never try to grass cut, unless they want their testicles removed. That is all.
    >4w
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  • luvchicks69

    luvchicks69
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    I am currently living this scenario. The article is right. It can be tough at times. The husband and I have become friends outside the bedroom. However, include I am expected to be the bull. We have taken it to the extreme in some ways. She spends 2 nights a week with me. She comes to mine after work and stays the night. Sometimes I visit them and bring her back with me, after we are done. The tough part is, you are expected to perform. While he watches in person or on FaceTime with all the lights on. This can be fun, but emotionally and physically draining sometimes. I know this couple well enough that last night for the first time, I had her alone at my place in my bed. No camera. No lights. Just the two of us. This I found re-charged my batteries and I am ready to go again.
    For those that are wondering, I live half of my life in the US and I am in the US at the moment. So this is possible.
    >4w
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  • cman01

    cman01
    Account closed

    I have been a bull for close to 15 years now. This is a great article. I like to actually spend time understanding the dynamic between the couple and my place in it.
    >4w
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