Anal Play for the Novice Arse Enthusiast
Eva Sless
on 19 November 2019
15 comments
Butts! How good are they! We love a good arse and we’ve noticed, from reading your profiles and seeing your comments on our blog, so do all of you!
Thankfully these days the subject of anal sex and anal play is becoming less of a taboo, and more of curiosity and embracing of pleasure, and more and more people are coming out of the woodwork and proudly taking ownership of their love of all things butt play. Because anal play is far more than just anal sex, we thought we’d put together a list of all the terms and phrases etc associated with butts and butt play so you are more informed and therefore have more understanding of what it is you like, what you’d like to try, and also what others you play with are into.
Anal Sex
In the most basic of terms, anal sex is the act of a penis entering, and having sex with, the anal passage of their partner. It can be a woman’s butt or a man’s butt and it really only makes you gay if you’re already gay. So put away that silly homophobia and get butt fucking!
Anal Fingering
Using your fingers to stimulate the anal passage. Often done at the same time as something else (perhaps during a blowjob or maybe doggy style) and can be a great way to prepare and train yourself for actual anal sex with a penis or toy.
Anal Fisting
Again, this is pretty much what it sounds like. The act of using one’s entire hand or fist to penetrate and fuck someone’s butt hole. It can take a LOT of practise and easing, and if not done properly can cause a bit of damage to the very sensitive and pretty non-elastic skin. So please use lots of lube and communication when playing this way.
Eating Ass
This is oral sex on the butt hole. It can consist of licking, sucking, kissing, tonguing and even biting. Because there are thousands of little nerve endings in that area the use of one’s mouth, and the softness, wetness, and overall gentleness of the feeling can really create some intense and pleasurable sensations.
Rimming
Similar to eating ass, although rimming is usually just concentrated on the outside of the butt-hole and doesn’t necessarily include any penetration of the passage. Like above, there are some incredibly unique and enjoyable feelings that can come from rimming and is enjoyed by people of all genders and sexualities.
Figging
For the more adventurous and kinky of the world, figging is the act of using a root of ginger to fuck or plug the anal passage. The chemical makeup of the ginger releases a hot, burning sensation to the area and, for those who are into it, incredible pleasure/pain experiences.
Giving
This means a person is into giving anal pleasure, but may not necessarily be into the receiving of it as well.
Receiving
Like above but the opposite. This is a person who is into receiving anal pleasure from a partner.
Prostate Massage
This is the act of using a finger or toy to stimulate the male prostate, located at the back of the anal passage. While it can take a bit of working out angles and the best implements to use, men who have discovered and employ the technique in their lives report stronger, more pleasurable, more intense orgasms than from when they didn't.
Prostate Milking
Pretty much the same as prostate massage, but is often the term used in more kinky circles, prostate milking is the act of stimulating the prostate until ejaculation occurs. As a healthy aside, studies show that prostate milking around once a month can help in the prevention of prostate cancer by as much as 30%.
Pegging
Pegging is the act of anal sex performed on a man by a woman wearing a strap on. Again, no, it doesn’t make you gay… It will just make you have intense, awesome orgasms and could even, like stated above, help you prevent cancer!
Butt Plugs
These are sex toys designed specifically to sit in your butt and stimulate the anal passage either just by being there, or by the use of a vibrating core. They range in sizes from almost as small as a finger to over the size of a traffic cone, and can be a great accessory for all genders of all level of anal play experience and desire.
Butt Tails
These butt plugs are super cute and often seen in cosplay, pony and puppy play scenes, and other cute or costumed sexual lifestyle groups. Basically they are a butt plug with a tail attached so the wearer looks like they have a tail. They can come in all shapes, sizes, and ranges from fluffy bunny pom-poms to long cat, horse, or even unicorn tails and they really do take costume and role-play games to a whole new and fun level.
Anal Beads
A string of beads (usually about the size of a marble) that is pushed up into the anal passage and then slowly pulled out, creating little pops of sensation and eroticism as each is pulled out. These days most anal beads come in a whole, moulded silicone style rather than beads threaded through a string and this makes them far safer and more hygienic and able to be cleaned.
Enema/Douching
These two things are fairly similar - the cleaning out of the anal passage – but the big difference is the reason for doing them. Douching is usually a quick means to an end in preparing for anal play and the peace of mind of cleanliness, whereas on the other hand, the actual process of giving or receiving an enema is the sexual and pleasurable act itself. It even has a name. Klismaphilia: Sexual arousal from introducing liquids anally via an enema or douche.
Anal Gaping
Super popular in anal porn, anal gaping is the practice of inserting toys or fingers into the anal passage, and moving it around in a circular motion as you pull in and out. This sort of tricks the sphincter into thinking there is still an object inside it even when there isn’t, and it will open up widely to accommodate it, creating a large gaping hole which is an incredible turn on for both the giver and the receiver. Because of the delicate and non-elastic nature of the anus, it takes quite a bit of time, effort, concentration and patience to get the butt hole to this stage, but for those who enjoy and want to indulge, it’s worth doing it in this slow and careful way and to avoid any permanent damage to the area. Usually the “gape” will last anything up to an hour and should relax back to its regular and normal tightness again afterwards.
Remember, when it comes to anal play, lubricant is your absolute best friend and you can never apply too much! Also always remember to swap condoms between anal and vaginal play (anal germs inside the vagina will cause all sorts of nasty infections and imbalances) including on any sex toys you may be using, or, if you’re just using your hands, make sure you have gloves and/or sanitised wipes so you don’t cross contaminate that way either.
Make sure you check out our Top 5 Sex Positions for Anal Sex.
Comments (15)
BareNakedLady73
More than a month agoI don't believe that just because, as a female, if I engage in anal play, then it is expected of my male partner.
To put it bluntly, I don't agree with 'If I'm going to take it up the arse then so are you'
That completely destroys the entire concept of being comfortable.
I have some gorgeous butt plugs and a butt tail that's fluffy and cute and they are a bit of fun as well as giving all different kinds of sensations.
In my experience - both talking to men as well as a couple of partners I've had in recent years and as mentioned at the beginning of the article, the topic is becoming less taboo, it's still something that makes a lot of men (in particular) uncomfortable it seems. Both talking about it and practising/participating.
As one man mentioned here already, he was made to feel ashamed. All I have to say to that is that the other person is ignorant. A bit of fun education and discussion can sometimes help here.
For a man, in particular, this is like hitting the jackpot if you do enjoy anal play and indulge. I absolutely believe you are opening yourself to so many more options and experiences.
There are also SO many products out there these days. The world's your oyster lol
I'm not full-on into anal penetration but I really enjoy anal play with the right person.
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More than a month agoAgree
SweetDesire26
More than a month agoGreat article glad to see it , but I must agree lube must be your best friend in anal . Love a good Rim, anal beads, anal sex, Ass eating if its all done correctly .
Agrotaz
More than a month agoThat’s all so true. Teasing and making the female feel comfortable is the main thing for any sort off anal play
qick-e
More than a month agorimming a lady is quite a turn on for me ,, even though some dont like anal penetration with the cock
all i have been with really liked being rimmed
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More than a month agoI loved it my first time..Mmm wanting more!!
xpac1954
More than a month agoWow so many ideas in the article. Only been rimmed once and was enjoyable. Only had the prostrate milked once and must say it was something I have never experienced again .Had my prostrate massage twice more since then, and when ive asked for it again im told Quote
You must want a cock up inside your arse.
Ive never asked her for it again.
DeliciousEva
More than a month agoOh that sucks
Im sorry you had that experience. I really hope you find someone to play with that understands the whole thing a little more and doesn't make you feel uncomfortable for expressing your needs.
Good luck!
xx
Kabooom.
More than a month agoMost females that I've been with were all into anal play.
zamale
More than a month agoI've had a few partners who enjoyed Anal Fingering while having sex. It heightens her pleasure and her with stronger climax.
I've also had a partner who Prostrate Massage and Milking - I must say I enjoyed it and it certainly enhanced our sex life - The added benefit was that she would suck me and take my cum in her mouth as well.
I recommend that you keep an open mind and speak up if u're uncomfortable.
This may be cheeky - but happy to meet and play with any lady wanted to experience this pleasure.
Ranga6969
More than a month agoSome of this sounds quite interesting, just have to find someone to do it with.
Kirra1981
More than a month agoSome of the names I had never heard of, an I thought I knew a few things lol
I find these articles great!
Thanx Dr Sex
justme197692
More than a month agoVery interesting information ,thank you !!!
qick-e
More than a month agoprostate massage while being given a handjob is soooooooo sexy
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More than a month agoNever been there.but sounds very sexy