How to know if your date will be good in bed
Hooking up can be rewarding, but it takes effort. We scroll through profiles on adult dating websites, check out photos, and agonise over what to say in our first message. Then there’s the date itself; by the time we’ve chosen our outfit, turned up to the venue, and spent money on drinks, we’ve already invested a lot of time and energy.
After all this work, there’s nothing worse than going home with your new catch only to discover that they’re terrible in bed. It’s an awkward situation; should you stop mid-coitus and send them home? Let them sleep over, and break the news to them in the morning that there won’t be a second play session?
When you invite someone into your sex life, you want to be sure that it’s worth it. By watching out for the signs, you can ensure you’re in for a fun ride – or simply call it off before the bar calls for last drinks. Here’s how to work out if your date will be a sexual superstar.
Do they care about you as a person?
Nobody likes a selfish lover. Luckily, those personality traits that lead someone to give great head are often the same that motivate them to buy you a drink. Generosity and consideration aren’t just about sex; they’re evident in every interaction. If your potential partner shows interest in what you have to say, it’s likely they’ll also care about your needs in the bedroom.
Is there sexual chemistry?
How well you connect with your date makes a difference. Connection is the process of getting to know someone, and it's crucial to great sex - when you’re both on the same wavelength, it’s easier to pick up on the subtle signals that help you satisfy each other in bed.
If you’re leaning towards each other, making eye contact, and having comfortable, intimate silences, that’s a good sign. If one or both of you is feeling distracted, staring into the distance, or turning away … not so much.
Do you have the same kinks, desires, and expectations?
You and your partner both need to want the same things in bed. It doesn’t matter how well you get along, if one of you is into heavy kink and the other is hoping for a romantic make-out session. Similarly, relationship expectations can sour the mood – if you’re looking for a hook-up and your date wants an ongoing partner, those competing priorities are going to get in the way of having good sex.
Meeting someone for drinks or coffee is a great opportunity to talk about what you’re both hoping to get up to in the bedroom. I like to ask, “What are you into?” or “What sort of connection are you looking for?” If you take them home and discover they want a sexual activity that you’re just not interested in, that’s a mighty awkward situation.
Are they a good kisser?
At the end of the night, you may be ready to hop in a cab and head back to their place….but I always recommend a pre-Uber make-out session first. A good kisser is often also a good playmate! Kissing uses the same skills as great sex – the ability to slow down, tune in, and respond to your partner. If you have good chemistry, kissing should feel natural – if the connection isn’t there, going in for a pash will make it painfully obvious. If their kissing isn’t working for you, there’s a good chance that the sex will also leave you cold.
When it comes to a good hook-up, it’s worth finding the right people. By paying attention to these details during your date, you’ll be able to predict the likelihood of sexual fireworks. And if you feel there’s no chance you can call it a night, rather than wasting your time and energy.
There’s always another day, another date! By watching out for the signs, you’re much more likely to have an incredible experience.
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