5 Essential Items to Pack for a Hookup
Eva Sless
on 15 September 2017
26 comments
One Night Stands and Hook Ups can be awesome! A great way to get a bit of mutual orgasmic fun with no or few strings attached. It’s important to make sure you have everything you need though, and while you may think that’s a pretty obvious list, we’ve come up with a few more items that some people just don’t think of when heading out for a bit of nookie. So next time that cute AMM girl or that dude you met at the pub sends you a “Netflix and Chill?” text, have a quick look over our checklist to make sure you’ve got everything you need to have a good, fun and, most importantly, safe time.
1. Condoms/Dams/Lube/Baby Wipes
The sex-entials. Seriously. Do not have sex without these items handy. It may seem self explanatory, but you’d be surprised the number of times I’ve heard people rocking up to a playmate’s house for a bit of a roll in the hay, and there are no condoms in the house! It’s a really good idea to carry more than a couple on you, and it’s also a good idea to carry a mix of latex and non-latex ones, just in case the person you’re intimate with has a sensitivity. Dams (a thin square of latex used for oral sex on women and rimming) are slowly becoming more commonly used and although not heaps of girls use them or want them used on them, it’s still a really good idea to have a couple just in case. It won’t hurt, and it could be the difference between some good licking, and none at all.
Lube too is an essential part of sex and can turn a not-so-comfortable moment into one of slippery-slidey goodness and fun. The best and most versatile option is water-based as these are usually non-staining and less chemical heavy than some silicone ones. Water-based is also a LOT easier to clean up if it gets on clothes or bedsheets. Baby Wipes are pretty obvious, but often forgotten! It’s just a really quick way to give yourself a surface clean if you need to freshen up after the fun.
2. Mints and Breath Freshener
Again, pretty self explanatory, but it’s a good quick fix way to make sure the garlic prawns you had at dinner before they texted don’t make too much of an appearance during your time together. They’re also appreciated for that initial morning greeting if you happen to stay the night, and a little bit of a sugar fix is always good in high energy situations. I’ve seen a few of these lists around and they often mention packing a travel toothbrush and toothpaste, but I disagree with this for a couple of reasons. One, mints and chewy you can just chuck in your bag and not worry too much if the pack breaks and the contents spill (a few loose mints versus a splodge of toothpaste…. I know what I’d rather) and two, and perhaps most importantly, while brushing your teeth is a brilliant way to get fresh breath, it’s also a fast way to create a bunch of tiny open wounds in your mouth. Like some so small you don’t even notice them… But the perfect size for an STI to slip through into your bloodstream… And while all uncovered oral sex comes with risk, the risk is far greater if access to the bloodstream is possible.
3. Spare Money/Transport Ticket to get Home
Whether it’s a train or a cab, sometimes the Stride of Pride home costs a bit of money and you don’t want to end up stuck on the other side of town with no way of getting home. Having an Uber account can be a good, cashless way to always be able to get a ride, but that doesn’t work for everyone, and sometimes the good ol’ PT way is the best and most effective way to travel. Always make sure you have enough change to get a ticket home and try not to rely on your hook-up friend to give you a lift or pay for your transport. If you’re a regular traveller on public transport, make sure you have your Myki/Opal/Equivalent card and that it’s topped up with enough $ so you don’t end up stranded.
4. Phone Charger
It’s super important you’re able to communicate with people, call cabs, text your check-in buddy (you should always have a check in buddy, especially if you’re hooking up with someone you don’t know all that well), and basically have access to the outside world. Make sure you have a phone charger with you that fits your phone because you can’t always rely on other people to have the same phone connections as you. You can also get portable battery packs that can charge your phone while you’re away from a power source and they’re a really good idea. I have a spare charger that stays in my bag wherever I go so I am never caught short, regardless of if I am at work, at the shops, or with friends… wherever.
5. Fresh Undies
Up until very recently, almost everywhere I went, no matter where or what time it was, I had a spare pair of knickers in a zip lock bag in my bag. There is a rather long and funny story attached to the reasoning (cut short, I once had my knickers, bra and stocking absolutely ruined by a client’s dog at a sex work job) but I was surprised at the number of times I actually ended up using them! Hook-ups and one-night-stands, as well as just random sleep-overs at friend’s houses, and the unfortunate moments my cycle decided to show it’s face when I wasn’t expecting it. It really was a godsend so many times. I also think, along with the baby wipes, that a clean, fresh pair of undies, is the best way to deceive yourself into “freshness” and “definitely not seedy” at least until you can get home and freshen up properly.
So there’s our checklist. Designed to make sure you have fun, stay safe, and get home without too much hassle. Remember to always practice safe sex, and always tell a friend where you’re going and who you will be with. Check you have all our essential items and then all that’s left is to head out, meet your hook-up, and have fun!
Comments (26)
OMGTarzan
More than a month agoCheers Thanks Eva Sless for the tips plan on reading more mwa x
Kelo14u2get
More than a month agoHey its dead right the list right on the money! As there say.
GetYouPregnant
More than a month agoI'm always packing Condoms.. In the Bin !!.. If it's on, then it's not on !!.......
Megz85g
More than a month agoI always have a few condoms in my purse, then generally chuck a few in my handbag on the way out the door, along with fresh undies. I buy the 20 packs!
Utetopia0202
More than a month agoI'm always packin'
Keep the condoms in the car (be careful in Summer, heat can deteriorate them), and have them at home.
I once had a meet up take place at my home, and made sure there were some in the lounge room, as well as the bedroom! And within easy reach! You should never have to go searching for them.
Girls, if we have to provide the rubbers, you have to provide the dams if thats what you want.
Personal opinion? If she needs lube, he's not got her going enough. Either that, or she's not drinking enough water!
Casuallover17
More than a month agoThanks for the ideas can’t wait to find a woman to do it with
justforfun558
More than a month agoI agree with the three essentials, but I'm considering a fourth - men's underarm deodorant lol. I have met a few men who don't use deodorant and let me tell you guys, it is not a pleasant smell. I met a man last week who drove two hours to meet me. When he came to say hello his body odor was so bad from underarm smell and he didn't even take his clothes off yet. I didn't enjoy our encounter and cut it short just cause of the smell. Please guys, use underarm deodorant.
LovingFunAlot
More than a month agoSounds very informative.
Redandblack45
More than a month agoAlways have a couple of condoms in the wallet. I don't know if it looks presumptuous, but safety comes first.
Mandy12121
More than a month agoWhere do you purchase the 'dams" I've searched previously & could find them
AMM.Editor
More than a month agoAccording to Google The Cruelty Free Shop in Fitzroy should stock them but you could also contact Glyde Health and check with them. You can also purchase them online. In Sydney we have a lot of retailers, just find the suppliers and ask who stock them.
DeliciousEva
More than a month agoDams aren't easy to source, but they're getting better.
Sexual health clinics definitely provide them, and usually for free. And a few adult shops, especially smaller, more boutique ones.
As the editor mentioned, Glyde Health are a great resource for these as well.
Good luck!
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More than a month agoClub X stores frequently stock them. Just call before you drop in to make sure they have them.
ApheliaButtmore
More than a month agoCondoms, mints and baby wipes are my essential three. Coffee is awesome, coffee breath is not. Baby wipes are essential for cleanliness. Maybe Im just too organised. lol
A security tip for the girls. If getting in a mans car, take a pic of the back of the car and clearly show the numberplate and send it to a friend with the mans first name.
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More than a month agoThank you very much for your advice re the number plate of the car.
xFunlovingx
More than a month agoI do find that most blokes don't carry condoms. I understand married/attached men not carrying but single guys have no excuse at all.
Mints - Always have mints! I really don't want your stinky breath on any of my bits. I always am chewing on a mint when meeting or catching up.
Great article. Thanks.
countrytouch82
More than a month agoGenerally the excuse is not having anyone to have sex with. I've never seen the point of carrying condoms around ALL the time. I had never even bought a condom for years until I had my first partner. Sure, if you manage to make a date, and have some prospect of such "success" perhaps, or heading to an adult party or event (often provided anyway), but how often does a single guy get sex at all and certainly at random, unexpected times, and at such quick notice he can't go past any type of shop? Don't confuse this with guys that are deliberately "forgetful" in the hopes they won't have to use it...
SvelteBrunette
More than a month agocondoms optional here
striker306
More than a month agook sounds awesome xxxx
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More than a month agoHey Svelte, you're my kind of girl.. Condoms forbidden here..
Gold.Coast.Dude
More than a month agoA great list of essentials Eva . A smile and a nice attitude are also great to bring along.
BadMoodBunny
More than a month agoI have only been having fun for 2 months (late bloomer) but I have to admit I have been carring most of these since the moment I joined the site as you can't garuntee that your partner/playmate is prepared add in the fact that a lot of these things are not that expensive there is no reason not to be prepared.
tonytmw
More than a month agoVery well said i agree with you
BBWmature
More than a month agoGreat advice.......the amount of guys that don't take responsibility for carrying their own protection is astounding!
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More than a month agoAbsolutely mind blowing isn't it how "absent minded" they can be when it comes to protection.
GirlFever
More than a month agoThey don't have the luxury of a large purse and one in the wallet isn't enough. ^.~
Plus women tend to shame men if they find out about it thinking they are seedy, so there is that too. Nothing wrong with swinging past a convenience store to buy 'redbull' and rubber on the way back from a successful date.