Create a Profile that gets Attention

Chantelle Austin Chantelle Austin on 29 December 2015    90 comments
Attractive young woman wearing glasses using her laptop to create her dating profile

With the thousands of profiles out there you want to stand out and attract the attention of the sexy playmates you wish to get naked and… well, do what comes naturally with. Here is some advice for ladies and couples.

Pretty much every online adult dating website gives you the option to create a profile of some description; it’s your advertisement to draw in your ideal playmates, as well as a way of filtering out the not-so-ideal playmates (trust me, you want that)! Be warned, there is a tidal wave of ultra-horny single guys that you are going to come across on these sites. Your profile is your first tool in cutting through it!

So what makes a good profile?

The attention is in the detail

Fill in as many details as possible, and don’t be shy! Details that aren’t filled in are often read as “too embarrassed to put it down”. So if it’s penis or breast size, many people assume that you haven’t answered because it/they are really small so don’t let them think that or just be upfront about it and you’ll attract people that are ok with it. It can also come across as “couldn’t be bothered” which is not attractive either. Oh and guys, measure it (by “it”, I mean your penis!), don’t sell yourself short or falsely advertise how big you aren’t! As much as you’d like to think it doesn’t happen, people talk and sometimes your reputation can precede you so under promise (a little) – over deliver!

Add some photos

This one addition can mean the difference between 1 wink a week and 10 winks or messages a day. Men are visual creatures for a start so if you are looking for some sexy men, then put your best sexy pictures up and if you don’t have any, get a girlfriend or your partner to take some! Have fun with it. If you’re seeking another lady, then you definitely need pictures; women need lots of words, details and pictures to create attraction. For couples, make sure you put pictures up of both of you and try to avoid using pictures with other people in them. It’s easy to think that the sexy man with a girl wrapped around him is her partner… And as much fun as that picture was to be in, it’s misleading.

This is your billboard so make it impressive but use recent photos. There is nothing worse than meeting someone who you thought looked awesome only to find out that they are 10 years older, 15kgs heavier and aren’t attractive at all! Yes, this happened to us so I kid you not!

Choose photos that will resonate with the kind of person you want to attract. If you like BDSM and more of the kinkier stuff, use pictures that depict that. If you are more conservative then use pictures that shows your body but with your private parts covered so it’s a tasteful tease… If you are into being nude and love your hard and fast, dirty sex then have some pictures that give you that impression. It’s entirely up to you, and as you evolve, you may want to change your pictures to attract some different people to play with.

Most people use body pictures for the public gallery and reserve face shots for the private or restricted gallery. One of the first things you’ll want to see after you’ve decided you like someone’s profile, is to see their face so be sure to put one of your lovely self in your private gallery. People who refuse to show face pictures can come across as potential fakes so be aware that no face pictures could land you with that label.

A good blurb “About Myself”

Describe yourselves in detail and I mean detail, “less is more” does not apply here! Describe your interests, hobbies, life, and inject some personality into it by writing as you’d speak. The more creative the more it stands out, I’ve seen people write their profile like a fine dining menu or car brochure feature list, entertaining is good! The people who connect with what you write will also likely be good connections for you. Try to use actual words and spelling where possible, a profile full of acronyms and short hand alternate spelling can be dificlt 2 rEd n ppl wl giv up qkly (translation: difficult to read and people will give up quickly).

Your ideal partner?

If you are just looking for a single guy or gal for threesome sex, write it. If you want more group action or just couples, write it. If you are “bi-curious” and want to experiment, write it! Don’t be shy, just write what you want to play with or experience!

This is also the area you can write about what you don’t want. I’ve seen this done effectively, sometimes it’s quite stern and to the point (basically because some guys really just don’t get it!).

For example: “Please don’t message us if athletic to you means a beer gut is still ok, over 40 in looks or age, hairy (ewww), pushy or over keen to jump straight into bed, or if you meet any one of the “we don’t want” criteria. If that’s you then you can just click on the back button to move on buddy and no, we don’t want to see a picture of your cock “just in case” so if that’s all you have to offer, you aren’t for us.” Some guys apparently can’t read so you’ll still get some that will try but give them a break, they really do have a huge amount of competition…

Handy Hint!

One way you can work out what you want to put in your profile is to look at other profiles and find ones you like, ones you don’t and then ask yourself why you like or don’t like them, this will assist you in determining what you want on yours. Plagiarism is allowed but I’d suggest changing words to suit who you both are.

So now you have your profile up, what next? Set the “advanced search” criteria with all of your ideal options; go through the profiles and send a wink or message to the ones you like. Happy hunting!

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  • Stacey4444

    Stacey4444
    50F Victor Harbor, SA,
     AU

    My personal opinions- dick pics are "not all that". A couple at most is maximum. 20+ pics of your genetalia is overkill and a little concerning. - similarly 20+ face pics of male on a "couple" profile raises questions - quirky and interesting is good, but obscure is a waste of everyones time. - please fill out basic info....I dislike wasting data to read a profile full of "not specified"
    >4w
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  • Kizza73

    Kizza73
    Account closed

    I have come to the conclusion AMM is Not for single guys!
    Your title heading is "Create a Profile that gets attention"
    Then you go on to say in your first line ..."Here is some advice for ladies and couples!"
    Single men on here are only good for Moving a fridge !
    >4w
    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor
      Staff Account

      The reason for this article being aimed at women & couples is that almost all of our earlier articles in this section were aimed at men. So you should read:
      - Crucial Online Dating Tips for Newbies
      - How to Get More Sex Using Adult Dating Sites
      - Meet More Women Online by Changing Your Approach
      - Kink to Vanilla: It's all on offer in the world of Adult Dating!
      which ALL offer advice to the guys on this site.
      Happy reading!
      >4w
    • Hrbstr

      Hrbstr
      50M VIC,
       AU

      Hey there Kizzza, agree with you view that this site makes life difficult for single men. I have been on this website for over 12mths now since my marriage separation, and constantly feel that as a single male the odds are against you. My profile is detailed and respectable, have pictures in my PG which I'm happy to share, yet everytime you send a message to a female, they either don't give you the courtesy of responding or can't be bothered for some reason. I have been lucky enough to meet a select few ladies on here who are great people to play with, but they are few and far between. If you look at most of the swingers/group pages they exclude single males from joining and as a result you're behind the 8 ball already. Thinking of ditching my gold membership as well, because at the end of the day the value isn't just there !!!
      >4w
    • AMM.Events

      AMM.Events
      53F NSW,
       AU

      @Hrbstr we promote more parties which allow single males than parties which are couples only. In Melbourne we promote ThePussyKats, Femme Fantaisie, Stilettos & Blondeez who all invite single males to their parties.
      >4w
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  • feeltinytits61

    feeltinytits61
    Account closed

    I have found that a good nickname is catchy.
    >4w
    Reply
  • ScubaSmurf69XXX

    ScubaSmurf69XXX
    Account closed

    I have a great profile 100% Genuine nice guy with nothing to hide very up front but never get reply's to all the messages I have sent as they are all hiding something like no photo's not filling there profiles or don't want to meet play games don't respond this whole site needs a big shake up been a gold member on and off but this will be the last time once it expires will be deleting way to many fake people on hear that have no intrest in meeting the real deal and AMM dose nothing to fix the problems. I am a tall slim fit guy and am not interested in over weight females, time wasters that want to talk online instead of meeting face to face or talking on the phone or can't put up photo's or information about them self's and the list goes on and on absolute joke.
    >4w
    • Pandhforfun

      Pandhforfun
      Account closed

      You might not still be a member on here Scubasmurf69xxx, but on a site like this a normally astute person will be looking for that one indicator that spells stay clear, your post has one line that says," give him a miss", and you will probably never know what it is.
      >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
      Account closed

      I agree, pandh - not to mention the atrocious spelling!
      >4w
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  • Piconly

    Piconly
    Account closed

    The amount of females that even reply to a well worded and polite message is a single digit percentage. I know they get bombarded and overloaded with messages and winks, but the courtesy of a reply is almost non-existent here.
    >4w
    • Sexierin

      Sexierin
      37F Scarborough, QLD,
       AU

      It really depends on whether you read their profile. If you aren't what I am looking for (wrong age, location) then I will ignore and sometimes block that person. We have profiles with what we want on them for a reason, if you don't take the time to read it, then I won't take the time to respond to your message, simple!
      >4w
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  • Virtuosity73

    Virtuosity73
    52M Geelong, VIC,
     AU

    Photos are a must ... All of my photos were originally in my private gallery and I got the occasional wink (here and there), but once I shifted some photos over to public gallery, I started receiving a lot more winks and messages.
    >4w
    Reply
  • abcplus1

    abcplus1
    55F 58M North Lakes, QLD,
     AU

    The sheer ratio of men+couples compared to single females is staggering. If AMM really want to make the site better they need to entice more women to be here, whether that be by free membership for validated female profiles, targeted advertising in women's magazines etc I don't know, but the more females you attract the more the site will work and the more chance people will have of finding what they are looking for.
    >4w
    • aussieitalian25

      aussieitalian25
      Account closed

      100% correct........
      >4w
    • GenGuy73

      GenGuy73
      Account closed

      100% agree...
      >4w
    • Matt K.

      Matt K.
      40M Cleveland, QLD,
       AU

      It's perhaps true there would be an improvement, but the 80/20 rule (or is it the 99/1 rule in this case...?) still applies.
      A small portion of guys who dedicate time to the site will always be the ones seeing activity. I am not one of those guys, and I'm ok with that. But some common courtesy certainly wouldn't go astray.
      >4w
    • Clickable

      Clickable
      53M Carlton North, VIC,
       AU

      I would agree with this, the ratio of M-F is ridiculous and its got worse, so guys shouldn't expect too much, despite ones expectations being raised by the numbers of members AMM claim to have.
      The focus of this blog post by CH(Rach) is for 'ladies and couples' and to emphasise that a little more information is better than less whether you are verified of not. The same advice can be given to everyone.
      >4w
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  • soapinmyeyes

    soapinmyeyes
    Account closed

    Is there any way to find out why edits to"ideal partner" have not been approved? I/we are seeking a female Nigerian nude midget mud wrestler with tennis playing abilities, or similar. Just joking but I have had edits rejected and simply cant figure out why.
    thanks
    >4w
    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor
      Staff Account

      I've referred this to our Support Manager for you. At a guess did you include contact details by accident?
      >4w
    • soapinmyeyes

      soapinmyeyes
      Account closed

      Hi AMM Editor.
      no I didnt include contact details. I thought I might include a note with the edit for the editor asking that the offending material be identified so I can change just that section and resubmit. Thanks for the reply. If there is any other way I'd be glad to hear.
      regards
      soapinmyeyes
      >4w
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  • bouncingsoulism

    bouncingsoulism
    54F Brisbane, QLD,
     AU

    I hope lots of men read this article. Most have horrid profiles expecting woman to ask questions like a Spanish Inquisition. Plus expect to attract what they are seeking. How can you attract anyone (other than those who like anon sex) with much info?
    As for photos - they don't need to be R rated.If your concerned about privacy, you can still take some pics...
    I always read men's profile.
    >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
      Account closed

      I SO agree with this. Guys need to put some information in a profile. If I see a profile and it's like "blah, blah, can't be bothered writing anything" I immediately think "do you put that much effort into sex?
      >4w
    • GenGuy73

      GenGuy73
      Account closed

      I would suggest this also applies to a LOT of female profiles!
      >4w
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  • AtomicCouple

    AtomicCouple
    48M 47F Ferntree Gully, VIC,
     AU

    Have recent pics! Yes, you look lovely in your old pics... But seriously you just don't look like that any more. Nothing worse than meeting someone who does not live up to expectation. You are not doing yourself any favours by posting your thinner/younger pics. Just leads to disappointment and a waste of time for everyone.
    >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
      Account closed

      Oh yeah - I met a guy on here whose pics would have been at least 15 years old - he had a lot less hair and a lot more weight!
      Not saying I'm perfect, but at least my pictures are recent!
      >4w
    • GenGuy73

      GenGuy73
      Account closed

      Agree....too many profiles with out of date pics! When you meet them it's a shock!
      >4w
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  • Leolady727

    Leolady727
    Account closed

    On the subject of pictures - PLEASE, no "dick pics" in your public gallery. Save those (and the "pussy shots") for your Private Gallery.
    Also - think carefully about your profile name - a stupid or tasteless profile name can be a deal-breaker for me! Having "69" in you name is NOT inventive or witty!
    >4w
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  • VICTA6975

    VICTA6975
    Account closed

    There are a record amount of time wasters on this site, I can't win with the women honestly! if I write a long detailed and complimentary message I am assumed as being desperate or ignored and if I write a short message I am considered boring. Single guys are the most available but also the most rejected, this is absolutely ridiculous. There are so many women on AMM advertising their sexy body parts and advertising sex but when I compliment them on how nice their bum is etc they show little to NO gratitude whatsoever, WHY? I strongly believe that the bad boy image wins every time and that's a real shame, more like a disgrace because there are so many bad, abusive and dominating males out there it's not funny. Why women prefer that is a mystery? As soon as a single guy gives a woman the idea that he wants something from her it is all over before it even starts. Oh he is single there must be something wrong with him, give me a break! women always chase attached males like footballers etc because women want more of something that they can't have but when a guy is single and available then you are NOT wanted. I am NOT putting women down, I love women with a passion I am just telling people what they do and for the love of god I just DON'T understand them. Whatever a guy says, wants or does women just go the complete opposite for the sheer sake of it! Give me a chance PLEASE anybody!
    >4w
    • GenGuy73

      GenGuy73
      Account closed

      Victa - calm down, this is not 'girls looking for nice guys' this is adult matchmaker - a sex site. Get out in the real world and meet real ladies.
      You have 69 in your username and according to Leolady below, "it's not inventive or witty". lol
      Don't rely on this site to meet girls...get out there!
      >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
      Account closed

      You say nothing about yourself really, you expect women to ask - read Bouncingsoulism's comment - I agree with her 100%
      >4w
    • allinmymind

      allinmymind
      61F Wodonga, VIC,
       AU

      Because it is a sex site it is not unreasonable for a guy to compliment the sexy pictures and body parts, at all.
      >4w
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  • GenGuy73

    GenGuy73
    Account closed

    It's annoying how this article is directed at FEMALES & COUPLES and on come the females preaching how men need to do this or that or not do this or that on their profiles! Did these females ACTUALLY read this blog?
    >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
      Account closed

      Where do you get the idea that it's only directed at females and couples? A large proportion of men's profiles on this site are desperately awful.
      As you don't seem to actually LIKE or respect women, what are you looking for?
      >4w
    • GenGuy73

      GenGuy73
      Account closed

      Leolady727, pop your glasses on and read the last sentence in the first paragraph.
      I don't like or respect women you say? Gee wiz, thanks for your expert opinion.
      I would suggest it is YOU who has the problem(s) with the opposite sex. But what would I know? After all, according to you, I'm a woman hater.
      >4w
    • allinmymind

      allinmymind
      61F Wodonga, VIC,
       AU

      It is like the saints and sinners ads with girls kissing.
      >4w
    Reply
  • quivertouch99

    quivertouch99
    Account closed

    I think the reality is somewhere in between all of these posts. From what I hear, men often put up tasteless profiles and women seldom reply to winks and messages. I get suspicious when I get a notification that some new ladies have joined the site, when I go to look at them, 95% of the profile remains "unspecified" this makes me think that they are fake and put there to give men the impression that the site has more female members than it actually does. Marketing properly to females to attract them to the site would be more beneficial.
    >4w
    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor
      Staff Account

      We can assure you that AMM has never, and will never, create profiles to "populate" our sites. It serves no purpose. If people are not on there to interact and hook up people won't remain members. And we spend A LOT of time and money to attract females to the site. The issue is that new female members get overwhelmed by the number of messages and the tone and rudeness of many messages so many leave the site after only a short time.
      >4w
    • allinmymind

      allinmymind
      61F Wodonga, VIC,
       AU

      The issue should be addressed with new females being bullied by some of the females in chat.
      It should also be assumed that there are less females as females get less out of the casual sex equation, despite what everyone thinks. Quiver don't listen to what you hear I think some just say those things. On the other hand I prefer to reply to messages than winks. I am a trial member, and someone upgrading to talk to me, well that puts a lot of pressure on me to be worth it.
      >4w
    • StandHardMember

      StandHardMember
      Account closed

      Why doesn't amm enforce a rule that makes everyone change there pics every 12 months and also everyone has to be verified.I was on here years ago on a different profile and now i still see the same old profiles and pics from 5 years ago(yes I do have a good memory) even the same women sit in the chat room night after night after night,would think they would be out meeting people instead.All in all I don't think the site has changed any in those years and a lot of the female profiles are obvious fakes.So why AMM are you not deleting these fake accounts ?I can point a few out to start you off if you like.
      >4w
    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor
      Staff Account

      @icanseeu7310 Absolutely point them out - that's why we added a Report Member feature which is visible on every profile. We've already banned almost 200 accounts this year and asked another 239 to verify before we would reinstate their profile. We want to keep the site as real as you do. And we do encourage verification - profiles with up to date photos and verified profiles get far more interest.
      >4w
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  • SnoopMate

    SnoopMate
    Account closed

    What we're looking for here is good keywords that the code cutters have included in the search patterns. For the uninitiated look at Google. If they ran an adult site....lookout!!
    Yes filter down to what you want but everyone has to have an understanding of what each component really means. If you say "looking for men" then when we search you for MEN LOOKING for MEN then don't have straight on your profile...dorks! Can't we search for criteria such as education for instance?
    There are a lot of great comments here, but, from what we have found being members for a short time,
    :-P, stop the message/wink tennis, meet ASAP as your time will allow (we all have busy lives) and see how it goes.
    Distance is a killer in any relationship, let alone one where we KNOW what is going to be on the table.....
    So wink us, be close, be ready !!!
    >4w
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  • Mr.MrsSmith360

    Mr.MrsSmith360
    Account closed

    As the female of this couple I am very disappointed with the females on this site. We always read profiles carefully and draft what we believe to be respectful, fun, kind messages and we are lucky to get a response 1:20 times. It's not hard to say "Thanks, but not interested". You can even save this as a response and hit one single button. We've also had some very rude responses, saying we are pic collectors because we ask for a PG. I have found the guys to be mostly respectful. It's really very disappointing and why we are no longer paid members. We've met females elsewhere, but not on this site. Hopefully AMM finds some ways of attracting sexy, respectful women that want to play, not chat.
    >4w
    • Fr33Spirits

      Fr33Spirits
      52M 49F Melbourne, VIC,
       AU

      We agree - never had an issue with males or other couples on this site, but the females on this site......what a misguided sense of superiority.
      >4w
    • Comegetme43

      Comegetme43
      Account closed

      I agree with both comments, so many women here are disrespectful I have sent so many emails and well I know they can read but I think there fingers are stuck somewhere! Also a number are in need of scales and a mirror to work out where they sit in the chain of life lol
      >4w
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  • voetsek

    voetsek
    60M Canberra, ACT,
     AU

    Fuck what a bonus ! Build yourself up for slags that freaked the web site !
    >4w
    Reply
  • SoulDesires

    SoulDesires
    Account closed

    I'm going to add my two cents worth to this .... lol
    I feel for a lot of guys on this site....I really do !!! It really is a "girls" world on here but I'm assuming it's probably the case with the majority of hook up sites.
    I think the points in this article are spot on !!!
    Guys .... I'm telling you ..... stop putting "dick" pictures in your public profile. We are females, and the majority of us know what a dick looks like and most of us aren't the visual creatures you guys are. I know I don't speak for every female out there, but it's the thought of what you can do that turns us girls on the most. I know myself I'm turned on more by other parts of a guys anatomy (strong arms, chest etc) Not so much the dick pic.....lol
    I must be one of the less nasty chicks out there as I will always appreciate somebody that looks at my profile and sends me a half decent message. If I go into a guys profile and it's full of "not specified" and not much information in the section about themselves or what they are after, it's pretty much ignored. Also, the one liner messages where not much effort has been taken get ignored.
    Guys have to understand that on sites like this, girls get pretty much inundated with messages and winks. I like to spend some time looking around the site as opposed to replying to EVERY message and wink so I usually just reply to those who have spent some time with their message and those I'm instantly attracted too (that means face shot guys !!!)
    Like I said, I do feel for a lot of guys on this site .... it can't be easy, but the more effort you put into presenting yourself out there, the more girls will be interested in pursuing you.
    xx
    >4w
    • JustR8ted

      JustR8ted
      Account closed

      Girls world?Get off your high horse,it's only those that think with a groin.Dick pics,girls do the same with there anatomy.Then you have woman,check out the profiles lol,that label themselves as a 'attractive',where's the option,'in the eye of the beholder'.As much as to your allude and trying advise,it's about the mind,by all accounts,your unsure yourself.Think,before you post.
      >4w
    • SoulDesires

      SoulDesires
      Account closed

      Wow JustR8ted ....
      That's a bit rough ..... obviously you've perceived what I have put down as being arrogant in some way which is not how it was intended !!!
      I'm in NO WAY unsure of what I'm seeking or who I am in this kinky world and have actually helped out a few guy friends with their profiles so they can attract more chicks......and low behold.....it's worked !!!!
      Of course attraction is in the eye of the beholder ..... hence my advice to provide face pics to save a lot of time. I don't claim to be attractive to the world ..... I have a kind heart, great personality and if somebody finds my face pics attractive then they'll hit me up. Trust me, no shortage there.
      I wish you luck with your own journey here and hope you find what you are seeking ...... maybe lose a tad of the nastiness and you might just find it !!!
      Oh, and as far as thinking before I post ...... I'm blonde ..... we don't have a brain remember ??!!! :)
      >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
      Account closed

      Well said, SoulDesires - if I see a dick pic, that person is automatically blocked!
      >4w
    • SoulDesires

      SoulDesires
      Account closed

      Thanks Leolady727 ..... although, I wouldn't block anyone that has a dick pic as their profile. You must be blocking everybody .... lol. This is predominantly a sex site so dick pics are fine with me, but not the only thing I look at in a potential playmate.
      I just think it shouldn't be ALL guys have in their profile .... there's a lot more to a good fuck buddy than just his dick !!! :)
      >4w
    • Lfman22

      Lfman22
      53M Charmhaven, NSW,
       AU

      Are you serious, most of are players eg married, attached etc. You girls think every guy thats messages you are available huh. From what I've heard its lucky to be 10 percent at the very very most, been told from good sources too.
      >4w
    • SoulDesires

      SoulDesires
      Account closed

      Yeah, I am actually serious !!! Believe it or not, I've actually made some pretty nice friends from this site. Yes, of course there are those that are married, attached, etc and are players, but from my experience, it's pretty easy to work out quickly who those ones are (if they haven't already got it in their profile)
      I certainly don't believe every guy that messages me is available ..... this is a SEX site ..... if I want a full on relationship with somebody, the chances are I won't find it here....lol. With that said though, I HAVE found some pretty decent guys I've developed a FWB relationship with so it is possible to do !!! :)
      >4w
    • 1thatlikesthat

      1thatlikesthat
      Account closed

      Its quite clear that someone that puts up a penis photo is just after a roll in the hay only any woman that falls for that deserves what she gets online.
      Naivety online is a rule and not an exception. If you've met more than one person, you know how to weed out the fluff balls from the genuine types.
      Yes its true that every woman over the age of 18 and some others have see a penis, but not every woman under the age of 70 knows how to tell a genuine person male or female from a not so genuine person.
      I like to think of the internet, dating whatever as a bar, everyone can go to a bar, everyone that wants to with friends, but not everyone can jump online and find someone they care about, yes, man and woman both lie about their assets positive and negative, people don't put face photos online for various reasons, why they use appendage photos instead because some times a face photo just doesnt get you that person at a bar like it does on the internet, there are a lot of predators preying on vulnerable people that want something they probably shouldn't have if they can't find it in a bar for whatever reason.
      Caution is the operative word for anyone willing to be brave enough to post a profile online and meet anyone in real life, otherwise stick to the bar.
      >4w
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  • Lfman22

    Lfman22
    53M Charmhaven, NSW,
     AU

    I'm not saying every man is a player attached or otherwise, but a lot give lower age, ethnicity and d*** picks are pretty common from what other members have told me, so there is some truth in what you are saying.
    >4w
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  • Lfman22

    Lfman22
    53M Charmhaven, NSW,
     AU

    Furthermore you need to question peoples motives for being on this, if they have photos of themselves naked showing there boobs or vjj, and they shoot you down in flames because you mentioned pussy and licking on your profile when you message them, maybe you are all just to picky, remember this an adult site, should men have 'and I also knit jumpers for orphaned joeys' on their profile. Double standards really.
    >4w
    • TheKnave

      TheKnave
      Account closed

      should men have 'and I also knit jumpers for orphaned joeys' on their profile.
      Lol. I'm stealing that.
      >4w
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  • ShadowSpirit

    ShadowSpirit
    Account closed

    I guess most people on this site try to promote what they think is their most prominent attraction/feature but then there are those that will promote what they think others are looking for.
    I think the bottom line is that everyone is looking for the same thing but the process of acquiring it will vary from person to person. So in reality we should just accept people for who and what they are and leave criticism out of it, ignoring those who choose to criticise.
    In my opinion it is Like that attracts Like so if you portray a certain image don’t expect to attract someone of a different image even when the hot body shots get your hormones going.
    Expect what you give out in return but then many profiles reveal very little so this may leave you guessing as to what the other person likes/expects.
    I see this site as a ‘Site for convenient Sex’ and I say this because no matter how good a profile you may have, I think most people select according to convenience such as distance and age. In my case I have accepted this, I don’t have an issue with it as it is my choice where I live and hell I can’t change my age.
    Reading other profiles can be quite entertaining and I guess “DICKS” will attract “DICKS”
    As far as I am concerned write whatever you want but remember it then becomes you, expect the same in return.
    Everyone should just be who they are and not sell themselves short.
    If anyone wants to shoot me down in flames go for it and good luck!
    Cheers!
    >4w
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  • Bianca1979

    Bianca1979
    Account closed

    Lots of interesting comments.
    I think this article has a lot of things that are quite obvious. Be honest and tell people what you want-well thanks!
    However I disagree with the point about bluntness. I read profiles that say don't contact us if you're this this this this this and this. In all honesty to me they come across as a little arrogant. I suppose it's more about the wording. It really bothers me when people are very abrupt and condescending in the tone they use in their profile. You don't have to like everybody just don't be rude about it. I don't mind who flicks me a message and if someone is taking the time to actually construct me a well worded and thoughtful message I try to reply.
    >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
      Account closed

      I agree - there's a fine line between being honest and being downright rude and arrogant!
      >4w
    • trebleclef150

      trebleclef150
      Account closed

      Well, I wrote an honest profile, put up a recent photo of my face (not a boring close-up of my dick), stated what I want and nobody's bothered to give me a first look, let alone a second one.
      >4w
    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor
      Staff Account

      @trebleclef150 your profile shows you are looking at women 10-30 years younger than yourself so you will only match with women who are looking for men 10-30 years their senior. You've been honest about your marital situation which is fine but specify you want women who are in the same situation. At this point you've narrowed down your options to less than 20% of the women in your area. If you read the blog post about women dating married men and are doing this with your partner's blessing then you should say so because many women on the site are not interested in married men. Some area but they want to know the situation. I would rewrite your ideal partner section and tell more of a story about what would spark passion if you were to meet someone. Lose the "attractive and with a pretty face" comment as many females won't feel they will live up to the standard you seem to be seeking. And add a few more Sexual Interests. Even if you're not into kinky stuff do you enjoy watching porn or reading erotica or taking sexy photos. This might ensure some mutual matches and will help spark conversation. And take a moment to verify your profile to show you are genuine. Online adult dating is a numbers game which is why you have an allocation of messages daily. So use them, make sure you opening line is your best pitch as obviously a member can see that without having to open the actual message to read the whole message. Good luck.
      >4w
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  • zonavar68

    zonavar68
    Account closed

    I've been an AMM user for a lot of years now with an old account (which I deleted after no results) and now a newer one. But I have all genuine photos, a fully genuine introduction, yet have never ever made a connection that leads to meeting someone in person. It's the primary reason I'm unwilling to pay money for most datings sites I try as a standard but very genuine and open/expressive intro for a single guy yields no results ever. This site in particular is heavily skewed to favouring couples and women, unfortunately.
    >4w
    • snuggleupforus

      snuggleupforus
      44M Gosford, NSW,
       AU

      My experience sadly has been similar but I have had some good connections. One in particular really clicked with me and we had an awesome physical connection with it.
      >4w
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  • EroticTouch2017

    EroticTouch2017
    Account closed

    Such common sense in this article. I've generally followed all the principles and to date have had a great time on here.......now I'm pushing even further boundaries, boundaries I thought I could never push!
    >4w
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  • DeepThroat181

    DeepThroat181
    Account closed

    There are several things that really annoy me when reading a guy's profile.
    1. Spelling/grammar. The number of profiles I've read and messages I've received that are littered with appalling spelling and/or grammar is astounding. Before you hit the submit/send button, read what you have written.
    2. The number of guys who do not keep their profile updated. I've seen some where they introduce themselves as (for example) "Hi. I'm Frank. I'm 45." Yet their profile shows their age as 48.
    3. The number of guys who state they are looking for a Relationship, Casual Encounters etc, yet in their "About me" section state categorically that they are not looking for a relationship. Make up your mind guys. If you definitely do not want a relationship, then don't check the relationship box. Simple.
    A lot of people have commented on guys and girls posting pictures of their privates. Personally I'd prefer those to be in the private rather than public gallery, along with "in the act" photos.
    >4w
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  • staypladan

    staypladan
    Account closed

    The one thing i have noticed is not many women tend to contact you first.
    It seems men do the searching and initial introduction .
    and that is ok generally , especially in public.
    Do women hold back just to see what type of guy they attract or are they really shy and timid or do they actually go for the ones they do like . i have had a few comments back from my messages saying something like you look fit, im probably not your type as i am a bit curvy . Well heellloooo girls, what if i really do like curvy ,cuddly, voluptuous hour glass figures. and ladies , what do you really like, fit and trim guys or do you like dad bods or what about the beer gut guy.
    I dont think these guys will make it a deal breaker if your not perfect for them .
    some ladies write you off in their second sentence and your left standing scratching your head as to what you did wrong before you even started.
    i understand that new members may be shy in revealing their bodies to strangers as the adult world is new to them and they hold back their intentions and that is perhaps one reason they dont have pics on their profile.
    i also think that phone chats and meet ups are really where you get to know people as you
    have the other sensory things happening as the tone and attitude of their voice , facial and body expressions , experiencing how their minds and personalities actually work .
    but to get there you need to get past first base and it seems that is a sticking point for most.
    yes your intro is like a filter to select the general yes`s from the no`s but if that next step isn't taken ,i feel many people miss out from something good in the future .
    so for me ladies start hitting up on guys and or least have a few conversations back and forth
    >4w
    • allinmymind

      allinmymind
      61F Wodonga, VIC,
       AU

      It probably has to do with the fact that women don't have a paid account, and they can't message you. I can't speak for other women but check it out yourself how many are trial members. Or perhaps try postage paid.
      >4w
    • Slimshaddy

      Slimshaddy
      Account closed

      I agree with both your comments; Why do people put you on a hotlist but never make contact; a wink or a message.Dont know. Maybe most on here are not genuinly wanting to make contact or meet anyone; just passing time; meeting other needs or is it fear or rejection ? Im here to socialise as well as have a good time. Doesnt hurt to say hi; ney or hey.
      >4w
    • DDdelite

      DDdelite
      Account closed

      I am always taking time to peruse profiles even ones in other states. I'm not a paid member, but I will use my winks on those that appeal to me, in the hopes they will read and like my profile and of course travel to the ACT - and send me a message.
      I know I'm not everyone's taste, I think I appeal to a certain type of male (that was the plan anyway). I get the right attention because of the time I've dedicated to my profile. My validations are proof of that. I pride myself on my honesty and the fact that I turn up when I say I will. I'm here to meet I'm here for sex!
      >4w
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  • shortnfeisty

    shortnfeisty
    Account closed

    I understand that guy's have to create a profile & to make it stand out, But why are guy's so fascinated with putting Pictures of there Penis up......... I have been on this site for a while & guy's must think that there most attractive feature is there Dick & its a close up shot only , Don't get me wrong I like dick but when you have seen it once why is it a on going thing??
    There are other photo's they could take Chest, Butt, Thy's or Torso & I have seen some lovely photo's where Guys have featured other body parts which i find most appealing
    >4w
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  • Privateer76

    Privateer76
    Account closed

    It's done because the vast majority of men are clueless about women and what turns them on.
    Men think that because that's what they want then the same goes for women.
    Similarly women think that men with tattoos are hot! So I'm gonna get loads of tatts too then I'll be hot!
    Both couldn't be more wrong.
    A man of value will stay far away from a heavily tattooed woman, and a woman of value will consider dicks to be Dicks!
    It's just that simple.
    >4w
    • DDdelite

      DDdelite
      Account closed

      Wow that's a little bit of jaded comment. I guess you've not had the kind of luck on here that you would have liked. Or you've been screwed over.
      You won't get far with an attitude like that.
      >4w
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  • OverTheKnot

    OverTheKnot
    Account closed

    I agree with you about having a decent profile. But the reality is that, because the guys outnumber the women, and the women get bombarded with so many winks & messages, they don't even bother to read the profiles. The women may look at the profile, see that you are a single guy, and that is far as they go, they don't actually read the profile beyond that.
    I would estimate that is indeed the case for about 95% of the women.
    It would be interesting to see the results of a survey asking women whether that is indeed the case.
    >4w
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  • DDdelite

    DDdelite
    Account closed

    As someone who has taken the time to write a very detailed profile, and constantly tweaking it, I think I am being as true to myself and what I want as much as I can.
    There is no use not being up front about what you want or don't want. I don't really care about people's sensitivities on a site like this - it's a sex site for crying out loud. It's a good way weed out potential fakes and lazy people who just want to sit behind the keyboard and have a wank.
    And I take time to read men's profiles, especially if they have taken the time to send a nice well written message to me. Come on people, if someone takes time out of their day to make an effort to send a well constructed message, you should pay them the same respect and read their profile and reply to their message, even its to say "thanks but no thanks".
    Good manners are free!
    >4w
    • V.delish

      V.delish
      Account closed

      I think your profile reads very well. I like to update mine on a regular basis, as I begin to know exactly what I want and who I want to satisfy my needs.
      >4w
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