7 Reasons to watch your wife have sex with someone else

Woman wearing sexy white lingerie and suspenders being watched through blinds

Having an ethical non-monogamous relationship is a pretty special thing. For the most part, if done correctly, it can be a way to create strength and bonds beyond anything you thought possible in your past relationships. It has a way of connecting couples deeply, through mutual experiences and shared secrets, and can open your minds to a world of fantasies and sexual pleasures which could completely change and enhance your life, even outside the bedroom. Whether you're into hotwife/cuckold or stag/vixen scenarios, threesomes or the swing lifestyle there's something extraordinary about watching your wife enjoying herself and being enjoyed. We've narrowed it down to seven sexy reasons why it's so awesome.

1. Shared Pleasure - Even from a Distance

Voyeurism is a powerful turn on for many, many people, and sharing it with your partner is a great way to bring you closer together as a couple. Getting that exciting feeling of watching (maybe you're hidden, maybe you're not), and that naughty tingle of voyeuristic pleasure is arousing and titillating and will put images and fantasies into you and your partner's fantasy spank bank for years to come.

2. Strengthened Trust and Deeper Communication

Dipping your toes into open sexual lifestyles requires a high level of trust and mutual consent, which is formed by long, deep conversations, and respect for each other's desires, fantasies, and boundaries. Not only that, but talking out your fears, jealousies, and any others hesitations is such a great way to really get to know your lover in all the ways that make a good partnership great. 

3. Heightened Sexual Confidence

For those of us who manifest compersion rather than jealousy (ie. feeling pleasure rather than displeasure at someone else's enjoyment) seeing your partner being desired and pleasured by others really can boost your own sexual confidence. That gorgeous woman, being enjoyed by another, comes home to you! Is performing for you! You can watch her pleasure from angles you've not seen before, and even learn or pick up some new tricks along the way. 

4. Hands On Education

As mentioned up above, watching your wife having a good time with another person can be a top way to learn some new moves and ways to pleasure her when you get her to yourself again. Take mental notes of the different ways they touch her, and how she reacts, and then put it into practice yourself. Ask her about her favourite parts of the experience and see if you can replicate them. Even if it's something you've not tried before, it can be a lot of fun working it all out.

5. Exploration and Variety

Swinging and swapping and watching from across the room, as well as the conversations you have before and after the experiences really allows you and your partner to explore different fantasies and desires within the safety of your strong relationship. Maybe there's something your wife would like to try that you're not too sure of. Maybe there's a "scene" you'd like her to perform for you. Whatever the fantasy or fetish or kinky little thing, it's wonderful to be able to explore it all with each other's enthusiastic consent.

6. Relationship Growth and Self-Discovery

There is nothing better for your personal growth than self confidence, and this is the same for growing and mantaining strong partnerships. Knowing yourself and your own mind is not only important in living your own life in this great big, scary world, it's also super important for creating relationships that work on multiple levels to enhance and empower the people within it. Opening and sharing your sexual experiences, with all the communication and mutuality we've mentioned above, will give you tools and confidence in parts of your life you never even thought you needed them.

7. Fun and Adventure

Couples who play together stay together, and by that I mean couples who have fun and are silly and laugh a lot and know how to have fun are always going to be happier and healthier than couples who don't know how to have a good time. Regardless of if your "good times" are board games and long walks on the beach, or watching your wife getting fucked by a hot tradie while you watch from the corner it doesn't matter. Having laughter, sensuality, and excitement in your life will only lead to more fun, good times, and a relationship bond stronger than steel. And really, when you think about it, what more could a couple of sexy people like you and your wife want?

Always remember that consent is mandatory in all situations, and for all people. Even if the fantasy includes someone being hidden, it is imperative that all players are aware of the situation. When it comes to boundaries and hesitations you should always go at the pace of the most hesitant and never forget that consent can be given and withdrawn at any time.

We'd love to hear from the husbands out there! Tell us about your sexy wife!

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  • hotcuckholdwife

    hotcuckholdwife

    More than a month ago

    I love watching my wife with other guys love seeing her enjoy her self also love watching guys enjoy my wife i love getting my self in positions where i can see penetration it also turns me on waiting for my turn it brings us closer together after we play

    Reply
  • Melcra

    Melcra

    More than a month ago

    Great article, even though we do this and we both enjoy it, I never really understood why my hubby liked it so much. Now I understand better

    • Fuckudeep129

      Fuckudeep129

      More than a month ago

      because its such a turn on, watching and then joining in

    Reply
  • sensualsixty

    sensualsixty

    More than a month ago

    9th reason is to see how it's done properly. (-:

    Reply
  • sensualsixty

    sensualsixty

    More than a month ago

    The 8th reason....you walked in and caught them at it.

    Reply
  • countryman25

    countryman25

    More than a month ago

    good article and yes it got my wife n I closer

    Reply
  • Couple002
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    Couple002

    More than a month ago

    Great article,is a fantastic experience seeing my wife been enjoyed by others and the pleasure she receives,definitely brings us closer 😀

    • hot2go17

      hot2go17

      More than a month ago

      It is Hot,
      Im So glad I could join you guys a couple of times and enjoy your wife in front of you.

      Matt

    Reply
  • Jayvon

    Jayvon

    More than a month ago

    Watching and joining are great. But seeing my wife give and get pleasure from others is amazing and for all the reasons above. Good artlcle.

    Reply
  • peter1p

    peter1p

    More than a month ago

    Excellent article. Describes our mutual pleasure in each other’s pleasure.

    Reply
  • Countryfun01

    Countryfun01

    More than a month ago

    My wife and I enjoyed it for some years, we were as close relationship wise than we ever have been. But for some reason she wanted to stop so miss it greatly but that’s the decision she was more comfortable with.

    Reply
  • Zilla088

    Zilla088

    More than a month ago

    I wish my partner would consider Swinging..😔

    • looking70s

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Same here - imho these people are so so lucky

    Reply
  • countrytouch82

    countrytouch82

    More than a month ago

    I've been the extra +1 sharing the wife with her husband present for over 8 years now :)

    Reply
  • OzandViet

    OzandViet

    More than a month ago

    Me and my husband only swing in the same room as it's a turn on watching him enjoying himself while I let the other husband enjoy me.

    Reply
  • Piconlyjohn

    Piconlyjohn

    More than a month ago

    My hobby is actually to watch others and take photos of them (for them). On occasions it has been for them to look back on when someone else was involved with them, sometimes they have asked me to be the extra. So much enjoyment in watching, can really add spice to a relationship.

    Reply
  • Beautifullife79

    Beautifullife79

    More than a month ago

    It s a beautiful article about our lifestyle .

    Reply
  • Fundayz10

    Fundayz10

    More than a month ago

    We were both married very young and for more many years then both marriages ended .When we met we both had very limited experiences and I was super keen for her to try more partners while I watch 👀and join in sometimes.She very much enjoy’s the thrill of setting up a coffee date and being pleasured in front of me when we arrange a play date.Nothing better than watching your sexy wife enjoy her new found freedom after so many years with only being able to play with one 🍆😜🔥.Merry Christmas 🎅everyone.

    • Teetee2023

      Teetee2023

      More than a month ago

      That was great

    • santana2

      santana2

      More than a month ago

      Totally agree

    • Fundayz10

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Thankyou guys.xx

    Reply
  • MrTMrsT

    MrTMrsT

    More than a month ago

    Love it

    Reply
  • MissMasBeach

    MissMasBeach

    More than a month ago

    It can be incredibly enriching when you are both really sharing the moment. With real trust and communication, playing with others whom we both like is the best thing about swinging, especially the pillow talk between all of us afterwards. You do need to be secure on your relationship for it to really work well.

    Reply
  • Hedotoday

    Hedotoday

    More than a month ago

    Have to say it’s an awesome dynamic to be engaged in.
    I’ve been lucky enough to meet some great couples.

    Reply
  • Fuckudeep129

    Fuckudeep129

    More than a month ago

    I'm single not partnered up, but when i was in a relationship, i quite enjoyed watching her get fucked, was such a turn on.

    Reply
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    Havefunwithme43

    More than a month ago

    Absolutely adore my hubby watching as I please other men and women

    Reply
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    BiMarlin

    More than a month ago

    What about vice a versa? The article focuses on sharing the female but what if the female sharing the male?

    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor

      More than a month ago

      This article is really interchangeable for either but was written with this focus as it was a suggestion from a member. We did include some generic references to "partner" within the article.

    Reply
  • abcplus1

    abcplus1

    More than a month ago

    We both enjoy watching the other with someone else. It's a powerful image and a wonderful memory.

    • TwinCities

      TwinCities

      More than a month ago

      Likewise! We both enjoy taking a moment to watch each other pleasure and be pleasured by someone else. Knowing how good what they do feels and seeing the other person experiencing that is awesome.

    Reply
  • allforfun1965

    allforfun1965

    More than a month ago

    Absolutely spot on nothing better in life than sharing a beautiful wife

    • kcodess

      kcodess

      More than a month ago

      Agree knowing she's so into it and enjoying the moment

    Reply
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