7 Reasons to watch your wife have sex with someone else

Eva Sless Eva Sless on 1 December 2023    36 comments
Woman wearing sexy white lingerie and suspenders being watched through blinds

Having an ethical non-monogamous relationship is a pretty special thing. For the most part, if done correctly, it can be a way to create strength and bonds beyond anything you thought possible in your past relationships. It has a way of connecting couples deeply, through mutual experiences and shared secrets, and can open your minds to a world of fantasies and sexual pleasures which could completely change and enhance your life, even outside the bedroom. Whether you're into hotwife/cuckold or stag/vixen scenarios, threesomes or the swing lifestyle there's something extraordinary about watching your wife enjoying herself and being enjoyed. We've narrowed it down to seven sexy reasons why it's so awesome.

1. Shared Pleasure - Even from a Distance

Voyeurism is a powerful turn on for many, many people, and sharing it with your partner is a great way to bring you closer together as a couple. Getting that exciting feeling of watching (maybe you're hidden, maybe you're not), and that naughty tingle of voyeuristic pleasure is arousing and titillating and will put images and fantasies into you and your partner's fantasy spank bank for years to come.

2. Strengthened Trust and Deeper Communication

Dipping your toes into open sexual lifestyles requires a high level of trust and mutual consent, which is formed by long, deep conversations, and respect for each other's desires, fantasies, and boundaries. Not only that, but talking out your fears, jealousies, and any others hesitations is such a great way to really get to know your lover in all the ways that make a good partnership great. 

3. Heightened Sexual Confidence

For those of us who manifest compersion rather than jealousy (ie. feeling pleasure rather than displeasure at someone else's enjoyment) seeing your partner being desired and pleasured by others really can boost your own sexual confidence. That gorgeous woman, being enjoyed by another, comes home to you! Is performing for you! You can watch her pleasure from angles you've not seen before, and even learn or pick up some new tricks along the way. 

4. Hands On Education

As mentioned up above, watching your wife having a good time with another person can be a top way to learn some new moves and ways to pleasure her when you get her to yourself again. Take mental notes of the different ways they touch her, and how she reacts, and then put it into practice yourself. Ask her about her favourite parts of the experience and see if you can replicate them. Even if it's something you've not tried before, it can be a lot of fun working it all out.

5. Exploration and Variety

Swinging and swapping and watching from across the room, as well as the conversations you have before and after the experiences really allows you and your partner to explore different fantasies and desires within the safety of your strong relationship. Maybe there's something your wife would like to try that you're not too sure of. Maybe there's a "scene" you'd like her to perform for you. Whatever the fantasy or fetish or kinky little thing, it's wonderful to be able to explore it all with each other's enthusiastic consent.

6. Relationship Growth and Self-Discovery

There is nothing better for your personal growth than self confidence, and this is the same for growing and mantaining strong partnerships. Knowing yourself and your own mind is not only important in living your own life in this great big, scary world, it's also super important for creating relationships that work on multiple levels to enhance and empower the people within it. Opening and sharing your sexual experiences, with all the communication and mutuality we've mentioned above, will give you tools and confidence in parts of your life you never even thought you needed them.

7. Fun and Adventure

Couples who play together stay together, and by that I mean couples who have fun and are silly and laugh a lot and know how to have fun are always going to be happier and healthier than couples who don't know how to have a good time. Regardless of if your "good times" are board games and long walks on the beach, or watching your wife getting fucked by a hot tradie while you watch from the corner it doesn't matter. Having laughter, sensuality, and excitement in your life will only lead to more fun, good times, and a relationship bond stronger than steel. And really, when you think about it, what more could a couple of sexy people like you and your wife want?

Always remember that consent is mandatory in all situations, and for all people. Even if the fantasy includes someone being hidden, it is imperative that all players are aware of the situation. When it comes to boundaries and hesitations you should always go at the pace of the most hesitant and never forget that consent can be given and withdrawn at any time.

We'd love to hear from the husbands out there! Tell us about your sexy wife!

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