Explore your Sexuality through the Swinging Scene

Chantelle Austin Chantelle Austin on 3 August 2023    8 comments
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The swinging scene is not only great for exploring sex and fantasies, but also for exploring your own sexuality.

It’s sometimes a surprising adventure that unsuspecting couples end up on but it seems like a large number of people, at some point in their swinging life, at least dabble in it.

Sometimes one partner gets curious first, sometimes both do but whichever way it happens, communication is important and reacting positively is extremely important, especially if it’s the male partner that becomes curious.

When we first started swinging I considered myself 90% straight with 10% curiosity, or was that just 10% show off? You know, those times when you’re in a packed night-club and it seems like fun to kiss another girl because you know it’s going to get some serious attention. Ok, I’m guilty!

That’s how it started for me but as we got into the swinging scene we came across a large amount of women who were bi or bi-curious, and it wasn’t long before I started exploring what that was like. It felt awkward at first but the women I played with were quite comfortable with their sexuality, which made it easier to explore. There is no shortage of bi or bi-curious women in the scene that could be great gal pals to try new things with.

My husband was completely straight, having never even been in the same room as another naked man. He wasn’t sure how he’d go swinging but baby steps and experiences over time ended up leading him down a path neither one of us ever thought he’d go down. It’s safe to say now that he’s comfortably bi and he may never have discovered that about himself had he not engaged in swinging with me. I was extremely supportive of his exploration which made it easier for him let go of any judgment he had on it, and to enjoy it.

If you’ve ever been curious about playing or having sex with the same gender then the swing lifestyle is where you can explore it. Take your time to meet someone who you click with and take the time to build trust so that you’re comfortable enough to try new things. Support your partner in their exploration and even if it’s not your thing, find a way that you are comfortable with that allows them the opportunity to explore that side of themselves.

Now just in case you’re wondering, being bi-curious does not mean that you (or your partner) will fall in love with someone of the same sex and give up hetro-sexual sex forever. For some people it’s just a very temporary phase that they try a little bit of and decide it’s not for them. Some get right into it and enjoy it so much that they continue to enjoy the pleasures of both sexes, and then there is everything in between.

The swinging scene has a lot to offer and for most couples it’s the door that opens them up to opportunities to explore their sexuality, fetishes, desires and opportunities to fulfill some fantasies on their bucket (“to do”) list. There is so much more to the swinging scene that just the straight out swinging; this is an adult’s Disney World with multiple themed parks in which to play and explore so get out and see what else you might like, you may be surprised!

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  • OneKissChrisUK1

    OneKissChrisUK1
    57M Perth city centre, WA,
     AU

    Hiya Chantelle. I agree entirely even though I'm a single man and not part of a couple. I started swinging over 10 years ago and explored my sexuality like never before. Now I've gone from a total heterosexual to bi- curious and more. Your article has brought so many fond memories flooding back. Cheers Chris.
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  • phoenix1323

    phoenix1323
    50F Canberra, ACT,
     AU

    I got into swinging on my own.. my home life wasn’t compatible with having a relationship at the time, but a gal has needs. I was lucky enough to find some great people to play with and explore my sexuality, and I haven’t looked back. Great article
    >4w
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  • foreverlovers21

    foreverlovers21
    61M 58F Sutherland, NSW,
     AU

    I, the male part of this couple, transitioned from hetero to bi curious and more over a period of many years. My partner is supportive of this even though she is straight. What annoys me is the hostility on these sites by a lot of couples towards males who dare to be honest about their sexuality, yet it’s OK for women to be bi. Just because a guy is bi curious doesn’t mean he will make advances towards a straight guy, I play straight for 90% or more of the time and will only play with a male if agreed to beforehand.
    >4w
    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor
      Staff Account

      Thanks for your comment. We actually have an article almost ready to be published about the bisexual bias on so many levels, not just on adult dating sites.
      >4w
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  • OhDelirium

    OhDelirium
    Account closed

    Great article Chantelle, thank you. Similar for me, I am single now for a few years and have been exploring all things swing, kink and the like. Over time, at home, I have been exploring my own body, mind and interests, and these all change as we experience new things. I now have quite a collection of toys, and some very big ones because I enjoy the intensity of it. None of these things have ever been used outside my house, not because its a rule, there just hasn't been an opportunity I guess. A bit like finding a swinging partner that also enjoys the kink, this can be challenging I've found as not many want singles. I know my path will cross a fem, domme or a hot mtf just when im least ready. Thanks again.
    >4w
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  • DeeJay.CeeJay

    DeeJay.CeeJay
    Account closed

    Totally agree with the article. DeeJays first experience with another guy came about when the partner of the other guy who was sharing a double dildo with DeeJays partner asked him to touch her partner and arouse him. This gave a comfortable context for some MM play while the two female partners enjoyed each other.
    >4w
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  • OzandViet

    OzandViet
    60M 46F Glenfield, NSW,
     AU

    I had never swung before I met my husband but of course knew about it but my husband told me the second time we went out that he liked swinging casually. At first I thought it was a bit strange but after thinking about it and seeing we weren't completely in a proper relationship then I thought I'd give it a try. So we met another couple like ourselves and I found out what fun swinging was and it was the first time I'd completely been with another female.
    >4w
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  • Campbelltown1

    Campbelltown1
    70M Glenfield, NSW,
     AU

    Ive been in a relationship for about 18 years now after loosing my 36yo wife to B C. and shes not interested in exploring anything sexually.
    So i joined AMM and met a wonderfull woman who is more adventrous (my partner dosent know in on here) in that we now play often and have a good time
    then she mentioned that she has a couple that she plays with occasionlly and would i be interested in a foursome and did say that they were BI.
    She said she would like to see me with him and see what happens.Nothing did happen and now im more interested in going down that path again.
    >4w
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