Tips for your first Bukkake Party

Q: Hi! I'm what you'd lovingly refer to as a "cum-slut" and recently my boyfriend and I found a local group who do Bukkake parties! We're really keen to go along and check it out! Have you got any tips or advice for us on our first time?

Ooh how exciting for you both! It's always so cool to find a group or community of like minded people to share experiences with, especially when it's something slightly left of centre that you might not be too sure how to seek out.

First things first I would say the most important thing would be to sit down with your partner and discuss your wants, needs, and expectations for the event, including the stuff you're not all that keen on trying or experiencing. Using the BDSM lifestyle terms of soft and hard limits is a good way to establish boundaries and clarity over what you will and won't enjoy. A hard limit is something that is a "no-go, never, don't even ask, it's not gonna happen" limit, and a soft limit is something you are maybe willing to be pushed a little further about and possibly taken out of your comfort zone a bit.
 
Intent and reception are super important things to think about too, meaning how do you want the attitudes and performance to be directed at you, the bukkake centre of attention?

Do you want to be degraded and dirtied and used? Or praised and admired and worshipped? 

These are two distinctly opposite ends of being ejaculated over and if you're wanting one and get the other, it can totally put you off and ruin the experience for you.

Of course desires (as well as turn off's) are constantly fluid and changeable, which is why frequent conversations and check ins are important, but they are a good start to at least have an outline of what you're wanting. The more you play and explore and experiment, the more these limits will change and grow and evolve, which is always a fun way to learn more about yourself and your lovers. 

When it comes to the party and the event itself there are definitely a few things you can do to make sure you get the best out of it that you can. Firstly make sure you read the event's guidelines and rules (if they do not have a list of guidelines and rules I would suggest finding another party) and adhere to their suggestions and procedures. These will be everything from dress code and what to bring/supply, to strict rules on consent, boundaries, and house rules.

While many parties are BYO or offer beverages, it's a good idea to stay fairly sober, especially in new surroundings around new people. Alcohol can affect your judgement as well as performance (I'm looking at you, ejaculating partner) so at least until you're used to it, and know and trust the group a little more, it's always a good idea to stay sharp and focused. 

Speaking of focused, your eyes are probably going to get a little... spermy and sore. With multiple ejaculations happening over your face it's almost inevitable some will get in your eyes, so it's a really good idea to have a wet wipe or something close by just in case the sting gets too much. If you wear contact lenses please take them out before you start to play. Sperm in a contact lens can totally infect your eye, and trying to remove a sticky, slippery, stinging contact lens is not an easy task.

Many parties and events that centre on bodily fluids, like bukkake does, are also very strict on their attendees' STI statuses, often requiring current results in written form to prove you've had a recent test. While yes, STI tests are really only valid from the time you have the test until the next time you have sex, the requirement alone often means all attendees are careful and consistent with testing and being as safe as possible. The lifestyle depends on it, so the people invested in it are usually very stringent with their health and hygiene. 

The last piece of advice I have is have fun, be enthusiastic, and enjoy every last drop of salty, splashy goodness.