The Art of the Thrust

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This article was originally published on The LoveLife Blog  

Men can have a bit of a jack-hammer approach to thrusting, lots of tension and tightness, which can be ok if you’re focusing on friction to gain arousal rather than feeling. To move into deeper, more connected love-making you’ll need to master a broader repertoire of thrusts. 

It's not just the men though. Intercourse is not simply a man thrusting into a passive partner. She needs to be engaged in her pelvis and moving with the motion too. Ideally you're moving in a harmonic unison. So these points, while directed to men, apply to the woman too. (And apologies for being so heterocentric, it applies whenever there is a penis or phallic object moving in and out of a partner.)

Important Point #1: Relax your hips

Keep your pelvic area relaxed, hips, buttocks, belly. You’ll feel more, you’ll have more control over your movements, you’ll be more sensitive to how your partner's body is responding, and you’ll move more freely and smoothly.

Important Point #2: Focus on the Out as much as the In

Rather than focusing on the in-in-in-in, which gives a jerky intense feel to the thrust, focus on the out as much as the in. This gives a more sensual flowing feel to the thrust. 

It also means that rather than your partner bracing herself against the constant influx of thrusts, she too gets into a flowing rhythm of welcoming in the thrust, engaging with it and then releasing with the outward movement. It keeps a dynamic of wanting and receiving going that maintains high states of arousal for long periods of time.

Important Point #3: Vary the Rhythm

Think of your thrusting like music – you don’t want it to be constant intense thrash metal! Nor do you want it to be a constant lead-up to a grand crescendo. Like good music, a good session of love-making will be varied, periods of intensity interspersed with gentler movements.

Important Point #4: Vary the Stroke

It’s not all deep thrusting in and out. Sometimes you’ll just thrust shallowly with the head of your penis at the entry of her vagina. Sometimes you’ll be all the way in and thrust shallowly, only moving a little. Sometimes you’ll intersperse shallow thrusts with deep thrusts – try a rhythm five shallow to one deep. Sometimes you’ll thrust slowly in bit by bit, deeper and deeper. Sometimes you might want to thrust more to the sides than straight in, or you might try circles or more of a grinding effect.

Important Point #5: Bang with your Body not your Penis

To give the sense of banging hard, which can feel really good for the woman if she’s in the mood for it, rather than poking hard with your penis, swing in with your hips with your body weight behind it. When done well (and check in with her to know this) this will give a wave of pleasure throughout her body.

Important Point #5: Manage Your Arousal

When you master the art of the thrust you can last for ages. The relaxed swing of the thrust allows you to manage your arousal levels, keeping you at a heightened state without tipping over into ejaculation. If you feel yourself getting too close to the edge, change the nature of the thrust, slowing down, moving less, pausing, changing position.

Thrusting in this way feels great for a woman and gives her the necessary stimulation to be able to enter into heightened states of arousal herself, having waves of orgasms that flood her whole body. 

It’s an art worth mastering!

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Comments (18)

  • Wheeler1937
    A Tao master recommended a book to read about sex and love making and it gave the same methods ...unfortunately I've lost it ...this was 20+ years ago ...we became friends , and let me tell you why ...I had been impotent for years so I could only get erect with viagra and he told me he may be able to help ...he solved my problem IN SIX WEEKS ...the book was the essential element but there were exercises I had to do every day for three months ...thanks and Ciao ..Frank
    >4w
    • AMM.Editor
      Jacqueline's course has elements of Taoist wisdom so it's fantastic to hear you had success with the methods.
      >4w
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  • MilkyMilo
    This is a much needed article!
    I hear friends and lovers talk about ceaselessly jackhammering lovers all the time, though there’s definitely a place for it in time.
    I’ve found that varying speed helps me to last longer and even quick changes in tempo can be well received. Like instantly changing back to teasing from fucking, even though I was secretly just about to explode!
    One of my favourite techniques is to hold my pubic area against my lovers clit and, as I thrust, the pressure and movement can inadvertently add another layer of pleasure for her.
    >4w
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  • Fuckudeep129
    yes i believe in thrusting hard when the time is right, i like to take my time in slow rhythmic motion, until the lady is about to cum then start thrusting hard and deep
    >4w
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  • KinkyGirl101
  • logical01
    Great article, this is something I learnt as a young man from an older lover, which has become a natural part of lovemaking. Have always had a great reaction to it.
    >4w
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  • Brendanforfun
    Slow and steady wins the race. Too hard and it’s not going to do any favours or worse limit the opportunity for round 2. Teasing and changing it up always makes it much more enjoyable
    >4w
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  • jenoo1
    I feel like I'm way ahead of the class if this is a true representation of average men
    This is basic shit
    >4w
    • SweetestSins
      Agreed!
      They just need an article that says “If she’s about to cum keep doing what you’re doing - it’s working.. don’t start jackhammering. The end” lol
      >4w
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  • Ifuwannadome
    when it hurts im happy
    >4w
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  • MarcAsk
    Great article should be
    taught in school. Lol
    >4w
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  • Darkstud
    I have found not all women are about deep and hard thrusts. But the ones that are particular on hard and fast thrusts, it is sometimes hard to satisfy them.
    >4w
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  • LostinSpace2023
    Hi Jacqueline,
    As always a great read!
    Keep up the good work!
    Cheers
    >4w
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  • Bigmac11
    Nothing wrong with a good thrust bang. Balls banging against their arse.
    >4w
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  • BareNakedLady73
    Point #4 and #5 - Spot on; thank you!!
    Vs x
    >4w
    Reply
  • Horny69ukeen
    Every man would like to have a 12 in dick although it may be impressive to show, I know most won't enjoy it, only have a 6 Inch cock, I still try to put in 8 inches, my point is guys, reverse the situation would you like it ,sorry 50% probably would , treat others how you want to be treated, try it guys, and girls, girls will have more fun than you guys
    >4w
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