Top 5 Sex Positions for Clitoral Stimulation

Eva Sless Eva Sless on 22 January 2020    24 comments
Couple sharing an intimate moment in bed

Sexual pleasure and satisfaction is something all sexually active people desire, but for a lot of women, just the act of PIV (penis in vagina) alone isn’t enough to get them to that climax and height of pleasure they crave. One way to help this along is to include clitoral stimulation in sexual intercourse, to get all of the juices flowing, and all of the sensitive nerves and pleasure spots stimulated and aroused. Because of the way our bodies are made, this isn’t always possible during sex, but we have come up with some of the best sex positions that also allow for her clit to be played with during the experience.

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Coital Alignment

This slow, yet sensual version of the missionary position allows for shallower penetration but maximum clitoral stimulation using nothing but the pelvic and groin area to rub and stimulate the area. Whereas basic missionary position focuses more on the thrusting in and out, CAT (sometimes referred to as “grinding the corn”) relies on the connective and mutual rubbing and sliding of the shaft against the clitoris. It can take a bit of working out your position to get both your bits properly aligned but, according to studies conducted by researchers published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, not only did it help women experience orgasm during intercourse where previously they had not, but it was also found to help men with premature ejaculation issues.

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Reverse Cowgirl

This girl-on-top position is a favourite of ours for many reasons, but the main one being that, in so many ways, this is a position that puts the woman in control of almost all of the action happening. She can control the depth and speed at which she is penetrated, she can direct the movement and energy, and she also has her hands free to touch and play with herself while enjoying her partner’s penis. Whether she uses a small clitoral toy or just her fingers, this is a great position for women who like to be in control of their sex and their orgasms.

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Doggy Style

It doesn’t matter what study you read, or what gender the participants were, when it comes to heterosexual sex, the most popular position always turns out to be this one: Doggy style. For men, it’s because of the amazing view they get of their partner; their back, their butt, the way their hair falls and their body moves and reacts, as well as the porn-star-like view of their cock moving in and out, and for women it’s because of the angles and depth achieved, the feeling of their partner’s hands gripping their hips, and (again) the porn-star-like feeling that comes from being fucked from behind… But also, it’s because the clitoris is at the best angle for touch and stimulation with either fingers or toys, making sexual pleasure and orgasm almost always achievable in that position.

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Splitting Bamboo

One of the more simple Kama Sutra positions, Splitting the Bamboo is a take on missionary sex, but with a bit of a twist. He straddles the leg that is lying on the bed, and she raises the other one so it’s resting against the front of his shoulder. He holds onto the raised leg and uses it for balance and thrusting control, and it leaves her clit nicely exposed for her (or him) to play with. While it can take some practice and stamina to really perfect this position, it’s one you’ll have a lot of fun experimenting with and figuring out.

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Spooning

Tender togetherness is a really great way to describe this close and connective position. Her lying on her side with her back towards him and him curled around behind her in a perfect embrace, sliding deeply inside her as they rock and move together in a slow, sensual dance of eroticism. He can slip his hands down between her legs and let her rub and grind against it as she moves her hips in time with his, or she can do the same with her hands or a toy.

Remember there is never any shame in using a little extra help to get you to where you want to be. Whether you use toys, your hands or other sexual aides and accessories, whatever you and your partner’s need to make it a memorable and pleasurable experience is absolutely fine and normal. All you need is a little imagination and, of course, consent.

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  • Addie41

    Addie41
    53F Werribee, VIC,
     AU

    Missionary but with women on top, And doggie but with the mans legs on the outside and the women’s legs together or her laying flat
    >4w
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  • Blackdiamond01

    Blackdiamond01
    49M SA,
     AU

    All these positions are awesome but the best position that I've been told that stimulated clitoris much faster is the Amazon position.
    Ladies please Google it ,try it and thank me later.
    >4w
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  • Ifuwannadome

    Ifuwannadome
    61F Hobart, TAS,
     AU

    Dont like amazon i need it to hurt lol
    I lov it to feel like its ripping me
    >4w
    Reply
  • cafefica

    cafefica
    53M Magill, SA,
     AU

    a great position for clitoris stimulation is Cowgirl, it gives the man full access to that glorious trigger and to get creative and play with it, tease it a little, and judge by the reaction as she grinds away on top of you. Also makes it easy for her to slide up and sit on the mans face and get some special attention given to her clitoris if she desires
    >4w
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  • friskypuz

    friskypuz
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    I'll just include my clit stimulator toy, so it makes me cum hard then he can fuck me anyway he can..
    >4w
    • kholls

      kholls
      38M WA,
       AU

      Sweet as... I agree hun. Love fucking woman using toys at a same time! makes me soo hard and screen together lol
      >4w
    Reply
  • BareNakedLady73

    BareNakedLady73
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    For me, I've found that getting clit stimulation right whilst also fucking, can be tricky. My clit is quite specific when it comes to getting the pressure and position right.
    I've yet to cum simultaneously clit and pussy without introducing a clit stimulating toy. This way, I can normally control the pressure and position. It doesn't guarantee that I'll have a clit orgasm but it feels amazing. I like for my lover to also use the toy on me when having sexual intercourse as well but find that there are better positions than others for me when that's the case.
    Spooning allows me great access as does cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. I'm not a fan of doggy with Clit stimulation - too many arms not enough balance etc...
    I'm also not sure how many people are aware that there are 2 definitive types of female orgasm - the g-spot and the clit. Some lucky women respond to both being stimulated at the same time and others don't.
    I think that the most consistent and common challenge I have found personally is that men (in my case) just don't spend the time and effort on the clit.
    Banging away at it with your thumb or pushing it like an elevator button simply doesn't cut it!
    Encourage her to literally open herself up to you.
    >4w
    • MandyMaree7329

      MandyMaree7329
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      I think you need to show someone how to ‘ operate ‘ it. I do that during sex :), I’ve always had extremely ‘ intense ‘ clitoral orgasms, as well as vaginal ones. I’ve seen hundreds of vaginas with my work and I know my clitoris is rather obvious and exposed and responds well to touch and a tongue working it. I can cum so easily just rubbing it myself, I prefer that over fingering to be honest, works better for me. Toys are ok but my hand or theirs works better for me. I’m well aware of the difference between a g spot and the clit, not sure everyone is though :( during doggy I would rub my own as the orgasm is likely to be more intense, same with anal, takes it to another level. Reverse cowgirl, on top, side on etc allow access to the clit as does missionary. Men I’ve been with love to watch me work my own pussy to climax. To be honest if someone couldn’t work my pussy well I simply wouldn’t return .......,
      >4w
    • johno8919

      johno8919
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      I personally think “having to show someone how to operate it” takes away some of the initial passion and could kill the motion.
      I’ve always loved the challenge since I can remember, as a bloke I think it’s massively important to have the ability to teach yourself as you go and every women has something little that’s different that they like. Reverse cowgirl has become most popular, I still think having her sit on my face very early in is best. Spooning is also another real basic foreplay and go to.
      Finger banging and pushing lol is definately something you hope most blokes realise isn’t good very quickly when younger.
      Tongue, and moisture, along with feeling the persons energy is my favourite.
      Overall a combination of tongue, sucking, little fingering here and there and when time comes firm hands on the women’s breast and hips works for me.
      >4w
    • DDdelite

      DDdelite
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      You sound amazing xx
      >4w
    • Niceguy4ladys

      Niceguy4ladys
      42M Conder, ACT,
       AU

      DDdelite Id personally like to show you not write about it.
      >4w
    • BareNakedLady73

      BareNakedLady73
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      johno8919 - There IS something to be said for an amazing finger-banging, I can assure you. I've orgasmed many times vie digital stimulation of my g-spot so I have to disagree based on personal experience and I'm 47 and still love it and in fact - think it's a lost art lol
      Deep finger penetration while a tongue makes its way into your mouth, down your throat...
      >4w
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  • Yabonra19

    Yabonra19
    57M Port Lincoln, SA,
     AU

    Missionary works for partner i just move my hips so my cock angles up and slightly lift as going in hits the g spot and also clit and she has massive orgs
    Its all about the angles u thrust at
    >4w
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  • DeerPool1978

    DeerPool1978
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    Her sitting in my lap facing each other. Was always reliable with my wife however I always struggled with some lower back pain - I was thirty kilos lighter then!
    Otherwise there never seemed to a particular thing. I think time and place had greater impact. The psychological more than the physical? Oh mutual or consecutive organs are such fun!
    >4w
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  • merlin4432

    merlin4432
    55M Newcastle city centre, NSW,
     AU

    The first technique has worked for me, but i tend to use my hand at the base of my cock and move the head in the clitoral area. Up down and side to side.
    The tongue is still the best way in my experience.
    merlin xxxx
    >4w
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  • Kirra1981

    Kirra1981
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    Amazing, love the stuff you send
    >4w
    Reply
  • villefun759

    villefun759
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    mmmmmmmmmmmm
    >4w
    Reply
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