How to Pick Up Women When You're a Woman
Amie Wee
on 26 April 2019
23 comments
Helloooo ladiessss,
It’s me. Your gay wingwoman… your girl-on-girl fairy godmother… your lesbionic leader… your pussy whisperer… you get the drift…
Maybe you’re reading this article because you’re (bi)curious about dipping your toes (or fingers) into the girl-on-girl pond? Maybe you’re comfortably bisexual but it’s been a while since you took a break from the peen? Maybe you have an erotic itch that can only be scratched by another woman? Or maybe you’re as camp as a row of tents and you need a refresher course in picking up because you’ve been in a girl drought? Whatever your story, you’re here because you want to have hot sex with women. And who can blame you? From the sexy curves of a woman’s body to the inevitable “oh my god she’s so soft” discovery that comes with your first 50 girl pashes (spoiler: it never gets old) - women are insanely hot and girl on girl action rocks.
But if you’ve never had sex with a woman or even chatted up a chick, you’re probably feeling a bit intimidated. How do you go from flirting with a stranger to fucking her? How do you even flirt with women? If only I had a dollar for every time a bi-curious woman asked me that…
While I’m far from a lesbo Casanova, I am a full-time gay who’s had her fair share of queer adventures and learning curves when it comes to fucking and dating women. Here are a few of my tips to picking up women… when you’re a woman.
Make eye contact with her
So you’ve spotted a babe across the bar and you want to get naked with her. What happens next? Two words… eye contact. That’s right. I’m not talking about staring at a hot stranger across the room for five minutes straight, or non-consensually eye fucking someone. That’s creepy and borderline serial killer behaviour. A mere flit of eye contact can tell you a lot of what you’re wanting to know. Casually look in her direction. If she meets your eyes and smiles back, let your gaze linger a little longer when they meet again. After some mutual eye contact action, if you can feel the tension building, toss some liquid courage back and approach her.
Show her that you’re confident
It probably sounds like a cliché but at least half the battle with picking up is confidence. Being confident and comfortable in your own skin is an extremely attractive trait. You can’t expect anyone to believe you’re a hot catch if you don’t believe your own game. Everyone gets nervous, but you’ve got more chance of getting lucky if you’re putting yourself out there. Take the initiative and if all else fails, fake it ‘til you make it. Don’t confuse confidence with arrogance though. Cockiness is boring.
How to approach her
Any woman who’s ever hit on women will tell you that the most difficult thing about it is trying to figure out if someone is flirting with you or just being friendly. My approach is to just take the lead. When you feel like you’ve got an in, muster up that confidence and give her a compliment before introducing yourself. You want her to know that you’ve noticed her and that you’ve gone out of your way to talk to her. When you’re talking to each other, maintain eye contact, laugh at her jokes, listen intently and follow it up with a question so that she knows you’re listening and interested. Be genuine though - don’t act interested if you aren’t. As you probably know, most women have a finely tuned bullshit radar.
Don’t get too drunk
Seriously, a little social lubrication to fight off that girl-on-girl nervousness is okay but don’t let it get too far. No one likes to be hit on by a sloppy drunk. You will not make a good impression by slurring your words and spilling your cider on her.
Play it cool
Resist the urge to act like an excited puppy dog with its tongue hanging out - don’t metaphorically slobber all over her! You might be excited but don’t run into the situation like a bull in a vagina shop. Don’t be pushy or aggressively forward. But on the flip side, don’t act so chill that you come across as shy and disinterested. Just play it cool and enjoy getting to know her. Don’t go on about ex-lovers. Keep it sexy. Keep a little distance. Keep a little mystery.
Pay attention to her body language
If you’ve gotten this far and by now her entire body and attention is directed towards you, and she’s smiling and flirting back – up the ante. However if at this point, she doesn’t seem interested or is radiating ice cold vibes, move on. Don’t let it affect you. Think of it as practice. Thank you, next!
Don’t take rejection personally
It’s going to happen. You will get rejected by beautiful women. But don’t take it personally, especially because you’re likely to be rejecting people too. If it’s not right, it’s not right. Life’s too short to dwell but there are plenty of other babes out there waiting to get frisky with a chick like you.
If you’d rather start the conversation online, why not take a browse around Adult Match Maker for other like-minded women? You never know who you might meet…
23 comments
Thrilllover
More than a month agoBang on and even more complex when you’re a Domme that is sexually attracted to S oriented women only. Is she lowering her eyes feeling flattered or have I made her feeling inspired and at an awe? If you’re in Sydney and d/s curious, love to hear from you!
Reply79Cassie
More than a month agoThanks. Great insite enjoyed reading.
ReplyBoundB
More than a month agoA girl-on-girl fairy godmother is just the boost I needed :)
Replysexyboss69
More than a month agoGreat article feeling more confident
Replyboyzwanahavfun
More than a month agoThank you so much for your article, I found it reinforcing and so true about all of us. I love women and to spend time with them as do most. I love the soft feel of skin and gentle passionate kissing.
ReplyNotsonewnow
More than a month agoThank you, i need to have that confidence booster or 3 i think.
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agoYou are beautiful and sexy
Notsonewnow
More than a month agoThank you
strips69
More than a month agoGreat article ty! I'm fine in a swinging situation, but in a "normal place, bar, cafe, bus" I'm not so good and it's annoying and I will heed your advice "be brave" - particularly liked the "bull in a vagina shop" reference hehe ty! Mrs Strips (ps bi women come find me haha)
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ReplyNotsonewnow
More than a month agoLove to find you if i went to Caloundra Mrs Strips
Darkstud
More than a month agoNice article. Gives men like me an idea of how women approach other women to pick up.
ReplyWhiteLuna
More than a month agoWhat a great article, i thought i had this covered but guess not. Looks like i'll be smiling at those girls across the bar and see were it takes me. Hopefully in her bed
ReplySsbbw78
More than a month agoThank you so much for sharing these tips and trixie. I will definitely take your advice. You make it sound so easy. My nerves keep getting the better of me and I end up shying away
Replybeech76
More than a month agoAll looks easy enough except for the confidence bit :(
ReplyDeliciousEva
More than a month agoScribbles notes furiously.
The bisexual sexpert who can't get chicks is totes the name of my next book...
Haha.
You rock, Amie.
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agoYou would get me :p
DeliciousEva
More than a month agoChecks Google Maps to see how long the drive would take.
Haha.
cumhavefun236
More than a month agoCum and get us
Zamboon
More than a month agoI was just going to say Trixx - this could be written for men - I wish I’d read this years ago ... over eager, too arrogant while trying to play it cool oh the embarrassment.. lol.. go gt em girls ..
ReplyBtw we could use these rules in the chat room im sure - directors please listen up ..
triXXXi66
More than a month agoI dont have a bi curious bone in my body. I read this article and really.. it could be addressed to men as well.. lots of common sense ways to get a womans interest..
Replyluckylips66
More than a month agoGreat read....love woman im so turned on by them..so looking forward to having an intimate one on one encounter with a beautiful curvy woman. I believe it would be magical
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ReplyWouldbanng
More than a month agoYep I think so too
Agrotaz
More than a month agoLuckylips66; I know my partner would be very interested in chatting and getting to know you better