The Trouble with Big Dicks

Eva Sless Eva Sless on 25 August 2018    103 comments
Woman sitting in bed shrugging at man who appears to be naked with his back to the camera

I don’t know how many times I have to say this, but it seems like I probably have to say it one more time so here I go: For the most part, when it comes to being good in bed, your dick size actually doesn’t matter. Like at all. 

I say “for the most part” because of course there are exceptions, but overall, for the majority of people who are going to let you put your penis near their bits, they don’t give a fuck how big or small or fat or thin it is, because sex and intimacy and connection and everything that goes into that big ol’bag of sexual play, is about far more things than the size of your dick.

I know. I get it. Society, porn, locker room talk, all the “my dad could beat up your dad” hyper masculine type shit has been drilled into your head since before you even understood it and has created this idea that to be a “man” and one that “gets the chicks” you have to be the one with the biggest cock, but I’m going to let you in on a little secret; nearly every man I have ever met with a cock over nine or ten inches finds it (no pun intended) hard to deal with.

Only Big Dicks brag about having big dicks

Like I say in the opening of my Big Dicks Unzipped article, to all those men who like to proclaim loudly, and in every message, that they’re ten inches or above, yeah… calm down buddy and take a maths lesson. You’re probably not and no-one is all that impressed anyway. The thing is most guys who DO have a larger size are very aware of all the things I am going to mention in this article and don’t often go about bragging about it, and the girls (or guys) who DO want a guy with a big dick often find that bragging off-putting, and will most likely not fuck you because of it, or because when you turn up and you’re NOT the eleven inch stud you claimed to be, well, they’re probably not going to pity-fuck you just cos you’re there. Seriously, shut up about your dick. Unless asked specifically for your measurements, don’t even mention it. On AMM you have the option to add your endowment size so do it there. If anyone wants you to elaborate, they’ll ask.

In their own words

I have a few friends who have penises larger than 10 inches. Yes I have seen them. One of whom we sat and measured because we were convinced it was bigger than the world’s biggest (13.5 inches). It wasn’t. It was just over 11 inches, but we discovered two things during that experiment.

  1. Humans are not good at maths
  2. Anything over 10 inches is actually fucking huge and makes my eyes water just thinking about it.

I messaged them all in the course of writing this article and asked them the pros and cons of having a cock that size. I am not even exaggerating when I say that there were very few pros and quite a list of cons.

The pros were mostly superficial: 

  • “It makes the boys at the club jealous”
  • “It takes a really good dick pic”
  • “I look like a porn star when I’m naked”

The cons, however, took a different turn:

  • “I get a headache if I’m erect too long. I’ve even gotten dizzy before”
  • “I literally cannot ride a bike it hurts my cock”
  • “Almost every condom breaks”
  • “Dizziness after sex. Especially if it’s been a long session”
  • “My ex girlfriend couldn’t take it so we never had proper sex. She left me and I think it’s because I couldn’t satisfy her”
  • “I have literally seen girls wince in pain during sex which is horrible. It’s never fun knowing you’re hurting someone when all you want to do is pleasure them”
  • “I have been turned down for sex by so many women. Even escorts. I now have to pre-warn people”

I would like to make a quick point on that last comment about pre-warning. When I was a full time sex worker I couldn’t tell you the number of times some dude would use his cock size as some sort of “incentive” to me taking the job or giving him a discount (nah mate, you get the “arrogance tax” so it’ll cost you double) but the few times someone with an actual huge cock would message and tell me about it I could pretty much always tell they were telling the truth. After 20 years of reading messages from potential clients, you get the knack of working out who is genuine and who is not, and these guys weren’t bragging. They weren’t celebrating. They were concerned it would be a problem and genuinely worried they may not be suitable for a session as they had been turned down before. 

Now while I can be a bit of a size queen, one of the biggest issues that faced me as a worker in these situations was condoms. As stated in other articles I’ve written, I’ve always been sceptical of men who tell me they don’t wear condoms because they’re “too tight” because I can literally fit my entire arm in one, and while I do understand it might change the feeling etc, if it’s the choice between getting a disease or not having sex then I choose no sex every time… And, unfortunately for a couple of these guys, the number of (Extra Large) condoms that broke, split, and wouldn’t even make it halfway down a shaft was crazy. So yeah, while there were heaps of fun things we could do, and did do, unfortunately with no glove, there’s no love, and this can be a common theme with mega-big-dicked guys wanting a casual encounter.

Not Tonight, Dear, I have A Cervix-ache

When it comes to women, I posed the same question to my friends about their experiences with larger-than-average penises and some of the replies made me wince and close my legs a little. 

  • “He was so large it took a considerable amount of foreplay and lubricant but we got the job done, however a few days later at a sexual health check, the nurse freaked out - got a doctor and he checked me out and asked if I had had sex with anyone 'well endowed recently' - I had blood blisters from the giant cock!”
  • “Having sex with an exceptionally well endowed man left me with severe abdominal pain that lasted for hours. It literally had me doubled over in pain.”
  • “Doggy style was impossible as I felt it punching against my cervix, same with lifting my legs up or any position with deep penetration. But even good old missionary position hurt.”
  • “An ex of mine was 11 inches. That last inch or so is really hard on the cervix, it felt like I was being stabbed.”
  • “Almost every condom we used broke. Every time he’d thrust it hurt. It was one of the worst sexual encounters I’ve ever had. I felt so sorry for him too. It wasn’t his fault!”
  • “The worst is the stabby cervix pain. I can handle thick, but not long.”
  • “If we didn’t use a bucket of lube it would feel like he was tearing my vagina with each thrust. It was not nice.”

You’ve probably noticed a bit of a theme in those comments about painful cervix experiences with large dicks, and this is probably the most common complaint I have heard from women about fucking large dicks. As I am sure you’re aware vaginas are pretty flexible and stretchy things, being able to expand up to about 200% from their regular size for giving birth, but this really only effects the width of the vagina, not the length. Yes, when aroused the vagina does elongate slightly… But that means it goes from around 3-4 inches deep to around 5-6 inches which, if you do the maths, shows why there can be problems with longer length penises, and throws back again to the research we did about women’s ideal penis sizes. 

The Measure Of Things

I think the most important point I want to get across when I write pieces like this is that men, you are worth FAR more than the size of your junk. Like it really, really doesn’t matter at all in the great scheme of life and love and sex and relationships. As talked about in my article about radicalism hurting relationships, I truly do understand that the lessons men have been getting on sex and women over the past however many centuries are changing and it can be very confusing, and I know one of those lessons has always been “the bigger the cock the better the man” but it is simply not true.

You want know what big things women actually want?

Big heart. Big brains. Big smiles. Big senses of humour. Big dreams. Big aspirations. Big love.

The measure of how good you are in bed is less about how one particular body bit measures up, and far more about how attentive you are to your partner’s needs. How intuitive you are to their wants and desires. How you make them feel when you’re not in the bedroom. 

So before you go sending me (or other girls) another message declaring how important and large your penis is and demanding the accolades for something which, to be fair, you actually have no control over, remember my words here and take a step back. Your penis, while I am sure you are very proud of it, is really not as important as you think it is. Yes sex is great. Yes some people do have penis size preferences. And yes, some people will actively seek out monster cocks, but if that is the only thing you have going for you, or at least think it is, then you may find yourself on the reject pile far more often than not.

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  • cowgaluvoldrmen

    cowgaluvoldrmen
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    It’s funny on amm how a guy states the size but the pic don’t match up to the measurement !!! Wtf is with that?
    Really
    So now I take off 2 inches pretty much sums it up
    Like thickness lol how can you determine from thin to thick when a guy puts thick but it’s thin
    Again photos !!!!
    Omg some truth is nice as guys photos tell a lot
    Pretty well written article
    It’s true about girls want :
    Big heart. Big brains. Big smiles. Big senses of humour. Big dreams. Big aspirations. Big love.
    >4w
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  • CouplesweR

    CouplesweR
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    Agree with the cervix stabbing comments.. I’ve been told to stop a few times during Sex as it’s “too deep” it’s stabbing my cervex” Off putting especially when you are working up to an orgasim and you think you are doing a good job.. personally I would prefer my cock to be thicker than long.
    >4w
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  • Langie12

    Langie12
    57M 44F Dubbo, NSW,
     AU

    I've long accepted that you've got what you've got and you have to make the most of it. OK, I've been dealt some good cards, my dick nudges 7 inches, but 80% (maybe more) of sex is really between the ears.
    When asked for a dick pic I often get back a response "it's so large". My general response to that is that it's not really, it's the camera angle or whatever. If you are meeting someone for sex for the first time its far better for them to be happy with the package than disappointed.
    My experience with large dicks (I'm bi) is that the guy often has trouble keeping it hard anyway. Explains the headaches mentioned in the article - it takes a lot of blood the keep a dick hard.
    I'll be honest, there are times when I think an extra inch would be nice, and I'm sure it would be. But I've got what I've got and, to my knowledge, my partners don't seem to care.
    >4w
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  • Brendanforfun

    Brendanforfun
    49M NSW,
     AU

    Great article ageee completely with the “warning” comments and it’s not as good as most guys think it is. I also recently wrote an article on something similar as I’m tired of the guys constantly wanting “a go” and then the girls that fantasise but when push comes to shove it’s a problem.
    Well done and thanks for helping out what needs to change about guys attitudes. But it still didn’t deal with how woman attempt when they have never taken big before and now I think you’ve scared them off even more
    >4w
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  • TremorsWithin

    TremorsWithin
    53F Gold Coast, QLD,
     AU

    I had a fwb at one stage that was just over 10” and it was the best sex so I’m all for size, unless it can reach my cervix I’m not really into it
    >4w
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    • KinkyGirl101

      KinkyGirl101
      50F QLD,
       AU

      And there it is! A guy mansplaining the anatomy of a vagina and cervix. Google it! The average length of a vagina is 3-4 inches long (and can obviously expand to take a larger penis when required) and damn my cervix is right at the end of my vagina. I know, I own one.
      >4w
    • ginjunkie

      ginjunkie
      45F Fremantle, WA,
       AU

      Hahahahhahah oh please remind me never to shag you. No wait. I'll never need reminding of that. What a load of absolute dribble you've just typed.
      >4w
    • BustyBiMama

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      @kinkygirl101 he's not mansplaining, he's got quite a lot of knowledge on it all. Have you had your arm in a vagina up to your elbow? Did you punch through the cervix at any point? The cervix lifts up and there's more room behind, I promise you that. As someone who has had sex with a very large penis, my cervix wasn't touched at all, and I got a good 10 to 11 inches of that bad boy in there...
      >4w
    • triXXXi66

      triXXXi66
      58F 58M SA,
       AU

      Yes.. agree kinky girl! And eva knows what she is talking about also... im sure eva has seen and been with more cocks than you have had vaginas! All women are slightly different... as i havent been thru childbirth and felt that stretch.. its not something my vagina wants or needs! Give me a 6-7 in cock anyday.. bigger is a waste
      >4w
    • Cartooncock

      Cartooncock
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      Yes describing a life of experience inside hundreds of vaginas is mansplaining ...
      if you like I’M happy to show u on your own vagina how much deeper it ll go past your cervix if I know how to use pressure points to lift it clear out of the way ... or would showing u that also be ‘mansplaining’.
      How do u explain me having little to no issues squeezing into most women easily enough and the cervix never being an issue ...
      u see u don’t have a cock and have no clue how to use one ... the cervix is easily avoided ... and if the intent is to hit it well a 6 incher will do it at the right angle just as easily ... which was mostly my point ...
      notice how u don’t address anything I actually say other than to describe my comments as mansplaining ... it’s that kind of Dead end implied u have no right to speak or know comments that destroy good active discussions ... no doubt I’ll delete the post soon ...
      If anyone reading this takes anything away I’m not saying big is rest or small is bad. The user and the chemistry are paramount ... I think we all know this ... what I don’t like is Myths about size or anything just going unchecked ...
      >4w
    • Call.me.x23

      Call.me.x23
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      My ex husband was 11 plus inches erect measured on top, we rarely managed proper erect sex, neverhards and massve egos are no fun!
      Give me a nice guy with a nice average length cut cock with some girth and I'm happier. Amm size guys make me laugh 23 cm plus and thick but you see a pic if it's truly thick it's 15cm at best lol
      >4w
    • Cartooncock

      Cartooncock
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      Trix ... did I say bigger is better ...? Are u reading what I’m actually saying ...?
      Idk what the argument about having more large cocks than I’ve had vaginas is about ..? What possible relevance And given the amount of vaginas out there vs the amount of large cocks I’d say it’s a dumb argument ... but that’s kinda of the point isn’t it ... don’t address anything I’m actually saying I agree with u that all size cocks can be wonderful ... size is secondary to many other things based around the potential for enjoyment ... we all agree on this ...
      I’m simply saying that with the right prep ( and I do fall short of that at times as I keep saying , Busty can attest to this lol ) but done well with patience and everything else right size isn’t something to fear or a negative ... careless fucking is bad at any size. The bigger the cock the worse the sex if it’s careless skillless stuff
      But with the right prep incredible size penetrations of cock hands arms etc can be enjoyed in incredibly intense ways ...
      That’s my overwhelming experience ...
      and Busty thank u for talking some sense lol
      I adore u
      >4w
    • GirlWithAccount

      GirlWithAccount
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      Bigger is not always better, but bigger is not something to be scared of.
      A lot of big men have just never learned how to use their penises properly. They are so used to the “oooh” that they think that that’s enough. It can be like extremely beautiful people never having to learn how to be as kind and thoughtful as ordinary looking people because their beauty has gotten them through life so easily.
      It’s not all about size queens, or your particular vaginal anatomy, or bloody mansplaining. If your head is into, if you’re aroused enough, and if your partner is careful, you can enjoy anything. Extra large has been amazing, and normal has been painful just because of my level of arousal, and whether or not my partner was thinking of me. I’ve met women who have had the most intense orgasms from being fisted to the elbow (and no, her partner was not a petite woman, she was a large boned butch lesbian who had the knowledge and experience to treat her partner properly and safely and to really turn her on). I’ve met gay men who happily (very happily) play with 10-12 inches.
      And yes, I have met the gentleman above. Who actually does know what he’s talking about.
      >4w
    • prettylilthing9

      prettylilthing9
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      This article is bull. I’ve never seen a condom break, I’ve never had blood blisters not have I been doubled over in pain after taking at least 11 inches. As for the cervix being stabbed with every thrust... are you serious? Complete rubbish. I’m 5ft3 and have had absolutely no issues. Chemistry and preparation is key. I mean, if you’re scared/nervous by the size, then I can say that you’ll have issues and most likely seize up in pain. But if you’re with someone who knows what they’re doing, knows his body and the female anatomy (something that the woman who wrote this article lacks) and the prep has been done, then you shouldn’t have any issue taking 11+ inches... and I’m speaking from experience ;)
      >4w
    • freenealy77

      freenealy77
      47F Flaxton, QLD,
       AU

      What a joke.. Even a 10"+ cock does not hit the cervix! And it is extremely enjoyable if the guy knows what he's doing. 10"+ and thick is incredible and does not cause pain if done right.
      Some of the comments from women in response to this article are just ridiculous!
      And trust me, I know this guy and he knows what he's talking about and what he's doing.. To the woman who said she'd never shag him, your loss I can assure you..
      >4w
    • 5.Cougars

      5.Cougars
      47F Campbelltown, NSW,
       AU

      every woman's anatomy is different as is their pain tolerance my friend as is a mans penis. its not saying what you wrote is wrong because thats your experience thats what makes us individual, some women can easily handle it while others would prefer the later, the cervix position is also dependant on the size and shape and position of her uterus and whether shes had gynaecological issues. personally i prefer girth over length, it hurts no matter how turned on i may be.
      >4w
    • Cartooncock

      Cartooncock
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      5 cougar ... yes anatomy and health issues vary ... As does pain threshold ... in one of my comments I remark on prolapsed uteruses and cervixes ...
      in a normal functioning body during physical arousal the cervix lifts and vaginal passage straightens opens softens and wettens ... in the most basic terms possible this happens most of the time ... and if u make sure it does before u penetrate with cock , arm or anything u will not Cause pain or hit cervixes or anything else ...
      this is what most of the women above are trying to explain ... yes for some it’s natural and easy
      For others it doesn’t happen easily so u think u have no space or depth etc.
      there is a reason those of us who know what we’re doing have no issues squeezing hands forearms and cock into just about anyone ... with rare exceptions ... regardless of their previous experiences ...
      and when I encounter someone with a prolapsed cervix or a histo or anything where scar tissue or anything else is present I use my brain and don’t push hit or rub up against it
      Using the girth of my head and my tongue in the clit ... together ( yes another little use of so much length ... give yourself a moment you ll work it out ).
      But all stirring aside the Bottom line again size isn’t the issue ... how u use whatever u have with whoever your with as that individual with whatever their issues past mentally physically etc etc If there’s pain u stop If u feel the head of your cock hit Something that isn’t making them feel good u ... ? Stop right ...? Maybe and I know this is radical ... but picture this .. don’t go so deep ... maybe use self control ...?
      Change angle depth position ... an advantage of a cock that’s causing issues in one position is that u can use it in positions others can’t reach the opening in ... I mean seriously cmon if u own a farrari does it mean u nail the throttle to the floor in every street ... having more is for careful practised well chosen use ... can’t believe I’ve got to say this ....
      oh
      and if I hear another guy say condoms break ... they fit over your skull guys ... stop bullshitting
      I mean seriously learn to fit condoms properly or stop pretending that happens so u can try and go bareback ... but for those having issues buy the extra strong one ( yes they come like that ) And hint ... the slippery side goes out. Grippy side roll down your shaft ...
      There’s no such thing as a condom fitment issue
      No such thing as dizziness with erection ... large cocks aren’t that large in cubic capacity and take a relatively tiny amount of extra blood from a system with 8 pints or so ...
      >4w
  • damon.diggler

    damon.diggler
    59M 52F Ballarat, VIC,
     AU

    Big dicks aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure they look good in porn but when sex is painful for the woman because of your size it's a problem. Some women go gangbusters for it and push back for more but most pull away, especially in doggy position. I'm not massive and I actually feel sorry for the men who are.
    >4w
    • MissThatTouch

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      Yes, I felt sorry for the guy (because it wasn't his fault) I'd been seeing a number of years back who was very well endowed. I could tell he was quite guarded when with me, and couldn't fully let go as he was concentrating on not hurting me.
      Theres, as the saying goes, a fine line between pleasure and pain and while yes some level of 'pain' can feel great...when he's holding back in fear of hurting too much - that switches the magic off, a bit.
      Size (or what it looks like, for that matter) doesn't come into it for me at all...what matters is how the man attached to it, treats me (or behaves...any hint of ego around his size/performance etc doesn't win me over) - this is far more of a turn-on than 'size'. If I'm treated right/with the respect I deserve, that will bring on more of a great time, for both of us, than any 'measurement', ever will.
      >4w
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  • triXXXi66

    triXXXi66
    58F 58M SA,
     AU

    Yay... this is exactly what i have being saying and thinking for years! If some bragging cockhead contacts us about his supposedly huge anaconda cock.. then i pretty much know its a lie.. unless he has photographic evidence.. which can be doctored as well! I just usually tell them that if the have a 9 or 10 inch cock that about half of that is wasted anyway! Thats never gonna fit in me!
    >4w
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  • Prettypinklips2

    Prettypinklips2
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    I'll take an average one over a huge one anydayyyyy.
    Just nicer for me. I salute the ladies that like it. We're all different.
    >4w
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    • AMM.Editor

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      Feel free to suggest topics you would be interested in. A lot of the topics we write about are at the suggestion of members and the feature to request a topic or ask a question will be available soon.
      >4w
    • Oscargroucho

      Oscargroucho
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      Yea I agree. What about all the well endowed guys on here, how are they meant to feel now? Pretty much targeting and attacking a good portion of members for no reason
      >4w
  • KinkyGirl101

    KinkyGirl101
    50F QLD,
     AU

    My personal experience is that regardless of how aroused you are some positions are just not possible with a well endowed guy. Doggy for me is impossible with a well endowed guy. Cervix stabbing is a thing. And one gentleman who had the biggest cock I've ever seen outside of film could get hard but you wouldn't have called him erect, it was a bit like a massive banana. I guess blood flow comes into it.
    >4w
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  • Jinx1965

    Jinx1965
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    It’s pretty obvious as with all of Eva’s articles that it’s not the subject it’s that is the main focus of her writings .
    >4w
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  • Icycupcake11

    Icycupcake11
    39F Bundaberg, QLD,
     AU

    This probably explains why I once had sex with this really long guy who kept telling me he was really glad I could take it. Sure it was a little sharp but my gosh it was fun. Any guys having issues due to this reason, hit me up haha.
    >4w
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  • Ifuwannadome

    Ifuwannadome
    61F Hobart, TAS,
     AU

    hate big dicks, dont wanna end like a bucket when im older.......give me girth any day
    >4w
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  • CharlieMichaels

    CharlieMichaels
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    Thanks for writing this Eva (I was one of the users who requested it)...
    I agree with most of what you present - with the exception of some comments: Riding a bike is fine (unless you're free-balling); Condoms break for all sorts of reasons (buy a bigger size - they do exist beyond XL); and the "stabby" pain (this is just due to poor preparation and technique).
    In my experience the issue is next day soreness, rather than pain during the actual interaction. Over time this has been an issue and has affected the longevity of some past relationships. The act itself has always been wonderful for both (well for the most part).
    It all comes down to being aware of your partner’s response, and being guided by that. A lot of people love the idea of big cock but the number of those who truly love and enjoy it long term are less than what you might think.
    >4w
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  • vvoyeursmf

    vvoyeursmf
    51M 49F VIC,
     AU

    I have a preference for thickness, anything over 6.5 is painful and less than pleasurable. I understand its different for everyone, but an interesting article.
    >4w
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  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad
    53M Lane Cove, NSW,
     AU

    Insert a sympathetic opinion as a thinly veiled screen to hide a comment referring to my overly large penis >>>>here<<<<
    You guys are just so damn predictable
    >4w
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  • strandle

    strandle
    59M Belmont, NSW,
     AU

    Sorry people but how do we measure..from where under/on top
    I know it’s not part of the conversation but would like to know as was told by a lady how big I am and now not so sure
    >4w
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  • pussy.lick

    pussy.lick
    75M Woy Woy, NSW,
     AU

    Interesting article and comments and I'm wondering why, if size does not matter, that after an acrimonious break up women often use penis size as an insult either directly to the man or to friends as in '....and your cock is too small...' or '....his dick was too small anyway...' etc ? Obviously they think this will be hurtful but at the same time it's reversing everything they have previously said about the size not being an issue.
    >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      For the same reason after a break up she's suddenly a "fat bitch with a loose pussy"
      It's aimed to hurt. Because men have been told their entire lives how important it is. So to slam that is to hit where it hurts.
      It's gross.
      I don't think any sort of body shaming is appropriate for any reason...
      But that is why.
      To hurt and humiliate and be a cunt.
      >4w
    • FiftyOneShades

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      @DeliciousEva has nailed it here. Women know that most men are insecure in this area and they can choose to use it in an attempt to hurt the ones they used to love.
      >4w
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  • shelovesit158

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    Well im sorry but im keeping my big dick ... ive had a small one and im not going back yes i know its how they use it .... using big is better.... how many 3'' vibrators do you see ..
    >4w
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  • DeliciousEva

    DeliciousEva
    48F Reservoir, VIC,
     AU

    Gotta say...
    To all the butt hurt in here.
    If it's not about you... If you have a monster cock that magically every women you've fucked loves, yay, good onya champ...
    If you're a chick who takes 12 inch mega thick thigh sized cocks without any pain or discomfort... woo hoo! Go sistah!
    But you are obviously not who this is aimed at so getting angry or trying to describe the female anatomy TO A FUCKING EXPERT is not only hilarious, but fucking stupid.
    Yes vaginas are Stretchy Mcstretch things. And some can take loads. And some can't.
    Hey, guess what? That's what bodies are like.
    Stop being so angry about something that really isn't about you.
    How old are you? Honestly??
    As stated the quotes in the article are not mine. The topic was suggested by readers.
    I like all cocks.
    This is not a personal dig at your little fucking friend in your pants. Calm down.
    >4w
    • MissThatTouch

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      Well said Eva! Love your work :) *and as someone who in the past suggested an article/topic to AMM Support, and not only had it written by you - but knowing that it was carefully researched by you, including ensuring that the content was accurately quoted from those with lived experience, I appreciate the lengths (excuse the pun!) you go to!
      I don't know why some take information shared by authors, as a personal attack. If its not about you...its not about you. Simple.
      >4w
    • jambon007

      jambon007
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      You tell em sistah.
      >4w
    • genuineniceguy2

      genuineniceguy2
      53M Sydney, NSW,
       AU

      Hi Eva. I certainly don’t question your expertise and knowledge regarding sex. And as you stated the quotes and pros and cons were from other people. I think that is what has caused some controversy. I suppose some of the problems they have had may not be typical? I have been told that breaking condoms can be solved by lubing up before putting on the condom. Pain can be caused by poor technique but being long can definitely cause pain from going too deep. I have found this so I am careful and aware particularly during doggy. As for dizziness and not being able to ride a bike! Please! Although, it may be different if I was 10+ inches!
      >4w
    • FiftyOneShades

      FiftyOneShades
      Account closed

      @DeliciousEva Maybe we're reading different comments, as I haven't noticed a single hurt or angry comment on this thread after reading all of them. Perhaps they were deleted?
      >4w
    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor
      Staff Account

      @FiftyOneShades Yes the members who felt they had a better grasp of female anatomy that the females posting deleted their comments.
      >4w
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  • jackblue1

    jackblue1
    Account closed

    Its all quite simple really...as the old song says......"it aint the meat, its the motion"
    >4w
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  • Aloha19

    Aloha19
    49M Melbourne, VIC,
     AU

    "Now while I can be a bit of a size queen"
    Lol!
    Ooops!
    >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      Oops?
      I'm confused.
      Can you elaborate?
      >4w
    • FiftyOneShades

      FiftyOneShades
      Account closed

      @DeliciousEva
      I'm guessing s/he's referring to the apparent contradiction between this...
      "I don’t know how many times I have to say this, but it seems like I probably have to say it one more time so here I go: For the most part, when it comes to being good in bed, your dick size actually doesn’t matter. Like at all. "
      ... and this...
      "...while I can be a bit of a size queen..."
      >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      Golly!
      It's almost as if people are different and their bodies are different and they like and respond to different things.
      Crazy concept huh.
      Like sometimes I like bacon for breakfast and other days I have a bagel... The days I have a bagel doesn't then mean I don't like bacon any more ... They're both satisfying. Just different and in different ways.
      :)
      >4w
    • FiftyOneShades

      FiftyOneShades
      Account closed

      @DeliciousEva Thanks for your reply. That makes perfect sense. I said "apparent contradiction" because I had a feeling it wasn't really a contradiction.
      I guess it comes down to how people interpret various terms.
      To some a size Queen is someone who will ONLY have sex with well endowed men, while to others it's someone who enjoys sex with larger men at times but doesn't require it.
      I'm guessing that was the cause of the confusion.
      >4w
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  • looking70s

    looking70s
    Account closed

    I'm a round 7.5in with a 6 inch girth and it can be sore for the lady in some positions
    >4w
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  • rod654

    rod654
    Account closed

    There are many women on this site who want to meet men who are hung, with a large package etc. Some of this I think is part fantasy. My ex once drove past a field that had a stallion in it with an erection and her first thought was oh lord let me come back as a mare. This is that fantasy appearing.
    >4w
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  • keronker

    keronker
    44M Jerrong, NSW,
     AU

    I guess various women love big dicks.
    >4w
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  • Notsobizzy

    Notsobizzy
    Account closed

    I was told recently by my long term partner that i was too well endowered and that was the reason for falling off of our sex life... i was a bit hurt and ashamed to be honest and wished she'd made me aware early so we could have modified our sex
    >4w
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  • ispywithmy

    ispywithmy
    40M Footscray, VIC,
     AU

    Interesting article. I think however most ladies on this site do prefer men who are well hung, as other people have mentioned, part of a fantasy maybe? Or because it's not serious and that's something they enjoy why settle for second best (or in my case maybe 10th best hehehe).
    Exageration is a part of life, you simply cannot get away from it. Lol maybe the site can provide some amm themed mesuring device to paying members? Or maybe that field will be next on the list to be 'verified'?
    >4w
    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor
      Staff Account

      LOL I wonder what we would call the feature? Would we get members to validate and turn up with a pre-approved tape measure?
      >4w
    • MsCupCake

      MsCupCake
      Account closed

      You mean like holding your penis against an AMM approved tissue box, soda can or a teaspoon and taking a pic to prove its size?
      >4w
    • ispywithmy

      ispywithmy
      40M Footscray, VIC,
       AU

      Yeah why not? Next time Coke cola do a name on a can thing- why not AMM? I am sure somewhere around the world there would be a culture that would use that name for someone.
      Lol a little far fetched, but might help with making profiles more real?
      >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      I kind of love this idea.
      Haha.
      We should market AMM underwear too!
      >4w
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  • dugstarr

    dugstarr
    50M Saint Kilda, VIC,
     AU

    I knew a guy that was very, very large. I don’t know how large, I never saw it, but he had a reputation. He wouldn’t brag, but he worked at a bar and word would get around. He told me he hated it because he could never keep a girlfriend for long, and the only girls who were after him had heard about it from another girl and just wanted to try it out.
    >4w
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  • FiftyOneShades

    FiftyOneShades
    Account closed

    "You want know what big things women actually want?
    Big heart. Big brains. Big smiles. Big senses of humour. Big dreams. Big aspirations. Big love."
    I love this.
    Love love love love it!
    >4w
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  • Lester518

    Lester518
    Account closed

    There’s a fair bit of angst in this article - it reads like a past big dicked lover ripped her heart in two.
    >4w
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  • 49humber

    49humber
    70M Essendon West, VIC,
     AU

    Not sure about all that. The only woman I have had to comment about my penis said "it's very comfortable". Nice to be told but she preferred the fist fucking as she got more excited further opening her passage. My cock at best would be three fingers. Her climax was best with the fist and or the tongue. The later remains the best for my current after 18 years.
    >4w
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  • Ultramild65

    Ultramild65
    59M Hervey Bay, QLD,
     AU

    I don't mind a big dick :)
    >4w
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  • Amanda2973

    Amanda2973
    Account closed

    I saw someone once not off here, I had no idea he was well endowed. The sex was amazing, so much so that NO ONE has come close I’m that department and I doubt they will. He’s certainly set the bench mark :)
    >4w
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  • Cultured.animal

    Cultured.animal
    56M Gympie, QLD,
     AU

    Wouldn't say I'm huge but will say I'm largish and especially girth wise (genuine 7 x 2)and very happy with what i have and that it is not larger. Would've had a lot more anal fun if I was smaller. There are size queens and have found a balanced aussie 50 cent coin in a pic creates a good standard.
    >4w
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  • MalihaMelbourne

    MalihaMelbourne
    Account closed

    Amen sister!
    >4w
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  • cool2fancy

    cool2fancy
    49M 46F Gungahlin, ACT,
     AU

    Have a BBC , Divorced coz I saw my ex grimacing, freaked out an Filipino but all Aussie gals have said bring it on big boy. Well, use it well, satisfy but my recent ex said "I ain't having that in my ass". Well respectively I wouldn't but she said it been satisfyingly amazing
    >4w
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  • BurningDesirez

    BurningDesirez
    Account closed

    Was a believer of "nothing too big". Then I met "Mr. Too Big". No position was comfortable and I was in excruciating pain even into the next day. Worst sexual experience ever. Now I know my limit.... 8".
    >4w
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  • Yesexx

    Yesexx
    48F 60M Melbourne, VIC,
     AU

    This is a bit of a 'shock jock' article, or should I say a 'shock cock' article.
    All studies that I have read state erect lengths average from 12 - 16 cm (4.7 to 6.3 inches).
    Therefore any guy over 6.3 inches can honestly say he is well hung. Does that matter? I'd say not for many women. I feel the article might have had a more interesting (less sensational) response if it was really talking about above average cock sizes of say - 7/8 inches - rather than a write up about tree trunks.
    I say that because a lot of the same research has shown that we women like a man to be a little above average when it comes to casual sex...including me. I think that's interesting.
    There must have been thousands of DOES SIZE MATTER articles written over the years and not much changes, I wonder why. Perhaps for men insecurities around performance starts young, and a good cock size somehow helps confidence. So without delving into the cliches about sex is not just about penetration, (of course true but...this about cock!) I simply like a man that can stay hard..so for me HARD MATTERS - SIZE DOESN'T.
    >4w
    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor
      Staff Account

      As mentioned in an earlier reply this was a topic requested by members. We've covered average penis size and what women prefer in earlier articles [Our Findings on Big Dicks Unzipped!](https://www.adultmatchmaker.com.au/blog/252/our-findings-on-big-dicks-unzipped) and [Dicks Around the World](https://www.adultmatchmaker.com.au/blog/206/dicks-around-the-world-countries-ranked-according-to-endowment)
      >4w
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  • Mr.Oral

    Mr.Oral
    Account closed

    Mines about 6”.
    Most ladies either say “perfect” or “OMG - you feel so big inside me!”
    Most have also said that bigger is NOT better. Learn to use what you have got
    >4w
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  • Polyamerous.BBW

    Polyamerous.BBW
    Account closed

    I know from experience that a big Dick doesnt make you a good lover. Ive met guys with big dicks. And they were bigger dicks than their dicks. Didnt know how to please a lady. Didnt know how to use it. And I've met guys with small dicks, who even apologise for their size. But are way better lovers.. And know how to use what they have. Size really doesnt matter. Its knowing how to touch a woman, read what they enjoy and using what u have to its full potential.
    >4w
    • Blackdiamond01

      Blackdiamond01
      49M SA,
       AU

      You're absolutely right. Although I've got a BBC , I actually prefer to going down and licking the pussy until its wet and working on body language of the lady
      >4w
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  • FrancTracy

    FrancTracy
    62M 62F Broadbeach, QLD,
     AU

    I agree that there are always two sides to everything. It really does depend on the owner. My ex-wife recounted having experienced 2 large dicks and not enjoyed either of them. The first was a 3 day holiday fling with a guy with 9". He was not rough, however inconsiderate enough to have made the 3 day experience a painful memory. By the 3rd day she was very sore and in a lot of discomfort but he ignored her winces. She experienced soreness for several days. With the 2nd occasion the guy was over 9" and a complete ignorant. He ploughed into her pussy and left her in serious pain. Midway through the night she managed to excuse herself after having done it 3 times. She developed a fear of big cocks and was always reluctant to submit to doggy position. There were positives, as she admitted to having enjoyed sucking off the big cocks.
    >4w
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  • Begabloke

    Begabloke
    Account closed

    There are condoms designed for larger penises but no-one in Australia imports or sells them. Lovehoney UK have a good range and that is where I get mine from. Trojan Magnum XL is good for 8-10 inches (I am nudging 8) - they don't feel like you're being squeezed in a vise.
    >4w
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  • BehindTheScene

    BehindTheScene
    Account closed

    Funny how about 90% of guys here are "6-7 inches", when the average cock is about 5.5"... there should be cock size validation..
    And lol queue all the guys coming here passively bragging about how big they think they are.
    >4w
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