Got any tips for pegging my boyfriend?

Adult Match Maker on 15 May 2018    36 comments
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Q: Help! My boyfriend and I recently had some great conversations about pegging and are keen to try. There seems to be quite a lot of information on the male side of things, but what should I expect? I’ve never ‘fucked’ anyone before, and am not sure I’m going to be any good at it… Got any tips?

What a great question! Thank you – I love it!

And you’re right; there’s a fair bit of info on what men can expect from pegging, and very little about the practicalities of it for the female partners doing the giving. I’m sure you’re not the only person wondering. But first off, let’s give a quick reminder of what we mean when we use the term. ‘Pegging’ refers specifically to a heterosexual combination with the female taking the role as ‘penetrator’ by performing anal sex on her male partner, generally using a strap-on. Woo-hoo!

So as ‘the giver’, what can you expect? Well for starters, you’ll use muscle groups in ways you’ve likely not done before, so be prepared to change things up in order to find the most mutually beneficial positions that you’re able to maintain. These options will grow with your experiences, but as you’re both starting out, your receiver needs plenty of room to move, and you’ll probably want to see what you’re doing. If your main strength is lower body, standing positions can be great; whereas people with weaker legs and a stronger core, often find giving dick doggy-style is very effective. If you’re more of an upper body person, then your good ole missionary position is a winner for a starting point. 

All that said, there is absolutely no reason why you can’t sit back with a toy and fuck that arse…

And welcome to Performance Anxiety… It’s certainly not unusual to wonder about how you’re going to perform, particularly when doing something new. Sex is generally best when coming from an authentic, trusting place, without the need for too much thought; you’ll achieve this with some time and practice. No one has the best sex ever on their first try, and in a really basic, heteronormative sense, you’re kinda losing your virginity again – of course you have nerves! You’ll fuck and you’ll be great at it, cos you want to; cos you dig your partner, and you’ve talked and are on the same page. Keep doing your thing, and BUY A DICK YOU BOTH LOVE! Own it. 

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  • sydneyguy2565

    sydneyguy2565
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    Not sure about pegging but i want my partner to give me a prostrate massage and she asks are you gay or something may be you would like a cock up there ..................shes even said "I'd like to see that"
    >4w
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  • Bellishot

    Bellishot
    51F Kinkuna, QLD,
     AU

    I love giving it to my man he is such a horny bitch when his tied up n I can give him a hell of a pounding its so much fun
    >4w
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  • Wannaplay2195

    Wannaplay2195
    56M NSW,
     AU

    Yes we try a few times and we both get off on it
    >4w
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  • Peggingboi075

    Peggingboi075
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    It's great with someone good, it's mind-blowing orgasm one after another with a great partner.
    >4w
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  • Dirtyminds121

    Dirtyminds121
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    1st time I did pegging was slow and it hurt but I was open to new things... Now I play with myself dildos...
    >4w
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  • funseeker271

    funseeker271
    45M Emerald, QLD,
     AU

    I really like this topic. I love to be part of that if it happens..thanks
    >4w
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  • BentAndContent

    BentAndContent
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    My mrs started me off with prostrate massage at first... then last week had my first proper pegging. Wow... never felt so vunerable.. utterly in her control...fantastic feeling for a guy who is mascl and slightly dom. And the orgasm nearly made me pass out. Now shes talking about a strap on gangbang with a few other women.... If I have to.. I said.
    >4w
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  • Mindfood2

    Mindfood2
    68F QLD,
     AU

    What an interesting topic..very open
    Sort of thing that i can't talk about it
    But I would be interested to try..if there is a strong attraction with the guy
    Regards to everyone..
    Enjoy!
    >4w
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  • MaxxFun4U

    MaxxFun4U
    63M Rowville, VIC,
     AU

    The guy would have to be a little bi to do it, if he isn't he soon will be and wondering what a real one would be like ;)
    >4w
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  • pjs500

    pjs500
    67M Sunnybank Hills, QLD,
     AU

    Hell yes !!!
    >4w
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  • gregpinton

    gregpinton
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    Pegging is not for everyone, especially some women who do not like a guy to perform anal sex on them may not like the idea of using a strapon to peg her partner either, but there are other women who are willing to try it.
    My ex didn't like anal done on her, she detested it, but she knew i was into anal play myself, but she would never participate with me, i always had to use my anal toys on myself even tho she was there on the bed watching, but eventually i slowly got her to use the toys on me herself, and taught her how to manipulate the toys so that i get the best possible enjoyment from them, sometimes i had dry orgasms, sometimes i actually managed to Cum as well, other times if she hit my bladder i would urinate all over the bed, or all over her, depending on the position.
    I then thought that if she would actually use the toys on me anally, she might also like to use a strapon to peg me with, so i started looking around for a good quality Strapon for her to wear, and when i did get one, she didn't want to use it on my, and nothing i could say or do would change her mind.
    It must be a mutual thing between both partners, and start off using a few different anal toys, then progress up to a strapon, but make sure you get one that is comfortable for her to wear, and fits very snugly to her body, and be sure to buy the right dildo to fit in the strapon harness.
    Cheers and good luck
    >4w
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  • Tallandfun8

    Tallandfun8
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    Definitely something I would like to explore. Shame it's hard to find a willing partner.
    >4w
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  • Farmer30s

    Farmer30s
    50M South Geelong, VIC,
     AU

    I really enjoy it, it feels great and the girl can feel controlling and very powerful.
    Another great way to mix up the sex
    >4w
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  • cowgaluvoldrmen

    cowgaluvoldrmen
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    Love it
    The total feel of giving it to a man what a hot thought !
    The be in control sure is what I’d love to give a go
    >4w
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  • garlee

    garlee
    50M South Melbourne, VIC,
     AU

    Ladies, any one interested in pegging my ass please message me. Of course reciprocal fun is guaranteed
    >4w
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  • Zamboon

    Zamboon
    66M Bridgeman Downs, QLD,
     AU

    I don’t think I’ve been pegged - there was a vibrator a few years ago that opened me up but the memories a bit vague - however a tongue gliding over my dark star and a well lubed finger at the entrance and I’m anybody’s.... and if you’re sucking my cock at the same time then look out ..I’ll blow your head off.... ;)
    >4w
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  • 3220couple

    3220couple
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    Hubby has the hugest orgasms when being pegged!! OMG sometimes I think I've killed him!
    >4w
    • PolyEros

      PolyEros
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      I'm a trained Remedial Massage Therapist (RMT). In my practice I do prostate massage for men with prostate (Prostatitis) problems and also good prostate health. I have found the men can have the best orgasms with out cumming threw prostate orgasms. Some of the benefits if its done regularly men can have bigger, stronger and harder erections even when not having a prostate massage. I recommend to my clients in my practice to have a prostate massage or prostate stimulation at least once or twice a week and cum every day or two. Warning: Do not have a prostate massage if you have prostate cancer as can make it spread threw the body. - Mick
      >4w
    • Mister8918

      Mister8918
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      That’s awesome and really funny
      >4w
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  • Lexecutie

    Lexecutie
    37T NSW,
     AU

    Clone-a-cock, is a kit for making a copy of your own/partners cock.
    I imagine that you'd both be comfortable with the idea of that, right...lol, then if he doesn't like it then he can go fuck himself ;)
    >4w
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