Don't Be A Dick With Dick Pics!

Eva Sless Eva Sless on 5 November 2016    91 comments
Man sitting on a toilet with his jeans around his ankles while he takes a selfie

Unsolicited is NEVER okay

Dick pics. If you're a female on the internet, chances are you've been sent one, and if you're a female on an adult dating website, that chance probably triples. As a sex writer and somewhat public person, I couldn't tell you the number of times I have opened my inbox to be confronted by an image of some dude's genitals, usually accompanied by a misspelt “Hey Hunny” or some crap. No matter how often it happens, it still jars me for a minute. There's something really disconcerting about it. I often feel the same as when I get a “hey baby!” shout from a car, or an unwanted grope at a bar. As sex positive and as genital loving as I am, when someone sends a pic like that unsolicited it is an invasion of my personal boundaries, and completely lacks any consent on my part. I honestly don't understand why they send them. There's enough articles and blogs and videos out there talking about how gross and unwanted they are, and yet, even as I write this, I have two unopened dick pics in my inbox. It's an absolutely, 100% guaranteed way to never ever get my attention. And if I do ever reply, I just Google “diseased penis” and send back the most revolting one I can find. 

Okay, gang, so in the interest of word count, and saving you all from a typical Eva rant, let's just say there was a very large paragraph here on how disrespectful and gross they are, with comparisons to monkeys throwing poo and other gross things animals do to try and get attention... But let's move on shall we. Bottom line is, unless it is specifically asked for, do not send someone a picture of your dick. Simple.

Dick Pics can be awesome!

Now please don't get me wrong in this piece. I actually really like penises. I think they can be lovely! I have asked people for them, and swapped explicit photographs of myself too. I have no problem with nudes, nudity, pornography, anything like that. But on my terms. With my consent. And that's the same as almost every other woman I asked.

“Oh I love a good dick pic. LOVE! But only if I've asked for it. The same pic just sent to me randomly makes me want to vomit.” - Carly

“I really like going through the galleries and looking at people's nude pics. But for some reason if it's the first thing I see on their profile it turns me right off” - Jenna

“If I want it, I'll ask for it. And trust me, if you impress me with your words and your humour, I'm probably going to ask for it.” - Leisha

Dating Sites and Dick Pics

But what about those dick pics that aren't aren't necessarily sent directly to us, but we still see without asking for it? Like on sites like Adult Match Maker where you have dick pics in your Private Gallery. For me personally it's never quite AS confronting as being singled out to have one sent to you, but it still doesn't make me want to jump onto your profile and have a look at the rest of your stuff. I put forward a question about it to a group of friends, quite often the reaction is the same.

“Personally it's the biggest turn off. I won't even look at their profile” - Dianne

“Definitely less likely to contact...” - Helen

“Dick pic equals instant ignore” - Natalie

On sites like Adult Match Maker I understand that one of the main purposes is to get laid. I get that. I was a member on here to get laid for a long time before it became my job to write, but I still don't see why sending a picture of your genitals in Messenger as a first contact will get you in faster. I mean, even on a hook-up, one night stand deal you still kind of have to have some chemistry of sorts. So many women, including myself, find sexual attraction goes hand in hand with personal attraction so even if you look like [insert current celebrity heartthrob here], if you're a dick head or rude or something, that attractiveness instantly plummets.  

Take a Pic and Make it Good!

Adult Match Maker is unique in that they introduced an “Adult Mode” option, which basically means you can turn it off and you won't see any explicit pictures. 

But, in saying all of that, there are some women who like it and who are actively seeking out men with certain types of cock, or want to picture swap and that's perfectly cool too. 

“Actually I like it. I wanna see what I'll be getting later. No point making all the small talk to find out later they have a crappy cock” - Helena

“It doesn't bother me one way or the other. At least if I can see it I can work out if I want to put it inside me” - Janie

“Love them. Honestly I do. But it has to be a nice picture. Ugly, or bad pics are such a turn off.”

So how do you take a decent penis picture that will attract and not turn off? There are a few key things women put to me to help you guys take a decent pic of your junk that may get a bit more attention.

  • Focus! Make sure it is in focus.
  • Background! No toilets, messy floors, kids (yes I've seen kids in the background of nude pics before although they wouldn't be approved on AMM). 
  • No undies! Seriously, the rumpled up jocks at your ankles just looks ugly and messy.
  • Angles baby! I always tell people who compliment my pics that I give great angle. It's true. How you position yourself (and your bits) in a pic is important. 
  • Highlight the best bits! Have you got a nice smooth, round head? A thick shaft? A nice length? Try and focus on the best bit of your cock and take the pic from that angle.
  • Clean cocks! Yes, I have been sent some of the crustiest looking cock pics before and I just don't get it! Wipe off the dick cheese, boys. We really, really don't want to see that!

So all in all, to round it off, the consensus seems clear. Unsolicited dick pics are a no-no, even on an adult site if you are sending it without checking first, but a decent, well angled, and asked for pic can be a great way to start a horny journey with someone. Get it right, and you may just get some!

Check out our article What motivates men to send dick pics?

NOTE: Since this article was published all R-rated content is now required to be in Private Galleries so profiles can no longer have dick pics for their profile picture. 

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  • FiftyOneShades

    FiftyOneShades
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    Great article, Eva. I almost feel like writing something negative just to get a response (nice comments never get replies) but this was a balanced fair and upbeat with good information, so what's not to like!
    Nice work, keep it up!
    PS Pun so not intended, I swear. :)
    >4w
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  • Affection1957

    Affection1957
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    Dear Female members of AMM.
    As a guy, I have always found it hard to understand Women in general. I Honestly do not mean that in a degrading way, but more in terms of "Not understanding how women tick" if you know what I mean? I have only been on this site for a few months and have yet to meet anyone. I am a genuine guy and not all guys are Bastards, and not all guys know how to Charm the pants of a woman. So what I am saying is that some men like myself lack the ability to understand how a woman thinks. Especially in today's society when we get mixed messages saying what is accepted and what is not?
    For example: since I have been on here I have read some ladies profiles that ask, please let me see your private pics? I have always felt comfortable in my skin.
    It is a well known fact that visual stimulation for men makes them easy to get aroused. I am well aware that women take a lot longer to achieve arousal and have an orgasm.
    What I do not understand is that women send out mixed signals?
    They like to flash their cleavage in profile pictures, or their boobs, and I have noticed one or two that even have their Vagina as their Profile picture? That is really out there!
    So it is only natural that I guy tends to think that maybe she would like to see mine?
    I failed to understand, how a woman thinks? When a woman flashes her bits, we tend to think that
    Recently I sent a message to a member on here. I was shocked with her reply. I couldn't reply to Apologise because I was blocked.
    My immediate reaction was, This was double standards? People are on this site to have sex, and yet you can't have sex without a man's genitals, so what is so wrong?
    To the member who blocked me I am very sorry. You have made me realise that I should have waited.
    Will you please FORGIVE Me?
    And after reading this Post, discretion is the better choice.
    I am sorry if I have offended anyone in the past with my private pictures, as I have deleted them all.
    >4w
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  • trystandshout

    trystandshout
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    And enough of the messy bathroom selfie scattered floor towels and open toilet in the background etc etc ...it doesn't take a lot to be creative and interesting...I'm a photographer and the first thing I notice are these things....you want to get laid ?...make a effort...
    Oh and the video...GOLD...Yes guys ..this is EXACTLY how we view and discuss your dick....we spend most of the time pissing ourselves laughing than wondering about the man behind it !!!
    >4w
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  • DDdelite

    DDdelite
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    That video had me crying in laughter! I know EXACTLY what she is talking about!
    Get it together guys and rethink your dick pic.
    Lightening
    Undies
    Hand
    Toilet
    Dirty laundry
    Burry
    Over exposed
    Ohhhh .... The list goes on.
    You want us to want it.......make it appealing!
    >4w
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  • Amante.

    Amante.
    49F Adelaide, SA,
     AU

    An unwanted dick pic sent to me or used as a main profile photo is VERY off putting. Guys, use them in your gallery - many women (including me) like to have a peek. It should be our choice to look rather than being visually assaulted. oh, make sure it is clean, the background of your photo is neat and think about natural light and setting up your timer on the phone rather than a selfie. I never want to see your daggy jocks!
    >4w
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  • WellhungGuySyd.

    WellhungGuySyd.
    48M Newtown, NSW,
     AU

    Interesting article Eva, I agree with you that receiving an unwanted dick pic would be a turn off, Xrated pic's should only be sent if one asks for them.With regards to profile pic's on AMM, I think it's ok to have a dick pic as a profile pic or have some included with other profile pic's as this is a adult dating site and I think it's only natural to include as much as possible about ones self. Great pic's with an interesting description of who you are and what you're looking for makes a good working profile. I agree that a dick pic with good lighting, good focus, angle etc can make most guys look sexually inviting, but I think guys that have one that's definitely not one of their best assets (if you know what I mean) should only bring it out in the dark, not include it in their profile and definately not send it to someone who hasn't asked for it. Although I believe if a guy has a very nice package or has a discriptive profile name like mine, then it's totally ok in one's profile...it's what most AMM members would expect to see.
    >4w
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  • manjoy

    manjoy
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    Funny it's ok for women to have pictures of theirs splashed all over the place being sent to blokes BUT you seem to have double standards when it comes to men doing the same.
    Seems to me someone is a hypocrite, if your going to write these things about men ONLY you really need to balance it out with a article on women doing the same. It is not only men that do this, but women just as much.
    >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      And when I get multiple letters and comments and complaints from men about women showing their bits or sending sleazy, unsolicited pictures of themselves to strangers then yes, I will absolutely write an article about it.
      The double standard argument doesn't work in this case, sorry buddy. Men do not have the same lifetime of sexual harassment and innuendo thrown at them the minute they start to mature. Men do not feel frightened or terrorised by women sending them provocative images or overtly sexual "hellos". Men are not afraid a woman they meet online may try and kill them.
      So yeah... Sorry, mate. Forgive me if I snigger at your attempt to make me out to be some sort of man-hater or feminazi. I'm just telling it like it is.
      Don't send your dick to someone who hasn't asked for it and be aware that even on a dating site you may lose potential matches if your cock is out.
      Not rocket science.
      Not insulting.
      Gbye now.
      >4w
    • manjoy

      manjoy
      Account closed

      oh get off your feminist high horse and don't try and use that old argument "lifetime of harassment etc..." geez get a life girl.
      To use that as an excuse is just shoddy journalism, so once again get off your political high horse and just admit you are definitely a "FEMINIST male basher".
      END OF STORY!!! Go hideaway in your feminist world and no attempt was needed to "make you out" to be a man hating feminist because that is exactly what your article reflects about you, you portrayed that ALL by yourself.
      >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      Calm down, honey.
      You're gonna give yourself an aneurysm.
      Perhaps a nice cuppa and a lie down will help.
      >4w
    • manjoy

      manjoy
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      LOL!!!! A typical post from someone who just got shown for what she truly is.
      The old let's play the "calm" one and make the other person seem to be the aggressor when in fact that shows to everyone WHO EXACTLY IS THE AGGRESSOR by trying so HARD to appear calm you actually are showing PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR obviously you have lost the argument and i have been proven right.
      Now everyone knows the UGLY side of you. And obviously you will want to reply BUT that would just be showing me that i have you pegged exactly for what you are, by feeling you MUST HAVE THE LAST SAY as any true FEMINIST MALE BASHER must feel she needs to.
      Go on PROVE ME RIGHT by responding, because i know you cannot stand for a male to be right about how much of a BIGOT you are. It is irking you right now reading how much i have got you worked out, it was so easy you cannot resist the temptation to respond, to try and validate your BIGOTRY.
      >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      Yep. I'm wildly aggressive.
      Says the man screeching hysterically to a woman he doesn't know about his right to wave his cock around in messages like it's something interesting or wanted because women have tits.
      Yeah.
      Okay, dude.
      You keep on keeping on.
      And I still recommend that cuppa and a lie down.
      >4w
    • KinkyGirl101

      KinkyGirl101
      50F NSW,
       AU

      If you have women sending you photos of their vulva it is possibly a man behind the phone. It's not something women typically do unsolicited. And if you reciprocate to those messages with a dick pic there is some guy wanking over your dick. Seriously! You're on this site to hook up and you start bashing the author using shouty CAPITAL LETTERS. Way to go on wooing the ladies.
      >4w
    • js.2017

      js.2017
      Account closed

      I'm with Delicious here "Warthunder", great name. Really.
      Mate, by sending an unwanted dick pic you are propagating the rape culture that has flourished in modern times. If that was too much for you, I'll ask you a simple question. Would you flash your dick to a woman on the street without consent? No? Sexual harassment you say? Then why on earth would you do it over the internet or your phone to a woman that hasn't asked for it? It's much of a muchness, non-consensual, disrespecting sexual harassment. I presume your next retort would be that, we're on an adult sex dating site so they're expecting it. Refer back to propagation of rape culture. The next one, I don't do it but others do, your responses suggest that you're ok with it and that it is fine: Refer back to propagation of rape culture. Your "view" on this is boyish and entitled and you should go hide in a hole, let the real men of this world champion equality between men, women and everyone in between and let us interact with other genders on the basis of respect and consent. Because really "warthunder", which is certainly not referring to your dick pick by the way, your views on this is deplorable and men like you are the reason why gender equality is so far off.
      From a man to a man, go get educated, keep your dick in your pants, and keep your misogynistic, sexist and immature views to yourself in future, and don't procreate until you do. The world just doesn't need more men like you.
      >4w
    • manjoy

      manjoy
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      and now we have not only the BIGOT but here come all the other feminist bigot's as well.
      Try and NOT have the last say for once in your lives BIGOTS. And i am not trying to woo any ladies on this site so sorry once again a feminist jumping to conclusions and generalizing now on how THEY think men think and behave all the time.
      Lol it makes you shake your head how women can behave like BIGOTS and nothing said about it but if a man ever did anything these SAME women would be on their political high horse and ranting about it.
      >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      Look. No one actually cares about your dick.
      Writing ridiculous random words in caps just makes you look (even more) ridiculous and pathetic and like you have no valid argument so you have to shout it.
      Probably the best thing about your comments is how many women will see them and probably put you on their block list.
      So really, the women of AMM should thank you.
      >4w
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  • justforfun558

    justforfun558
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    Why is it that when you ask a man for a pic, he always sends you a cock pic first, and you have to ASK for a face pic? lol. I agree with CGisback, I don't like seeing pics of men with their cocks up another woman... it is a put off. I think men want to show us just what they can do, but really men, if you want to send a pic, leave it outside the woman.
    >4w
    • CGisback

      CGisback
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      Here here!!
      When I ask to see a picture. I too would rather see ones face first.
      As it's nice to actually see who your talking to.
      Not what they have to offer.
      >4w
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  • CGisback

    CGisback
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    Each to their own I guess.
    This is a sex site.
    My only pet hate is if a guy is trying to pick up a lady.
    Me personally ! I don't want him sending me pictures of his cock in some
    Other woman's pussy or arse.
    But hey I don't mind seeing what they have to offer. Just as a man likes to look at a woman's boobs and pussy.
    >4w
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  • shellygurl1970

    shellygurl1970
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    great to see a nice cock,but seriously guys,its mental stimulation also!
    Love to be romanced also,just be a little romantic!
    >4w
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  • Wifesfantasies

    Wifesfantasies
    52F 48M Perth, WA,
     AU

    Blah... blah... blah!!
    Each to their own. We are getting sick and tired of this ear bashing about being political correct on EVERYTHING!! Telling people how to think, what to eat, what to wear, how to act. Its getting to the point of redickulous ;). Think for yourself question aurthority, think for yourself question aurthority this includes "people that specialise in sex" lmao what nonsense. If your that sensative report the people that offend you and lets see what happens to this site. Im sure someone else will make another dating site to cater for the needs of those like-minded people.
    >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      I've always found that people who complain about political correctness are the sort who seem to think the world revolves around them and how dare society expect people to be decent to each other.
      But hey. If you're okay with getting penises sent to you without being asked that's excellent.
      But remember... The world doesn't revolve around you and what you like.
      >4w
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  • Trythishard1

    Trythishard1
    55M Paralowie, SA,
     AU

    For fuck sake..... If you are on a site like this for whatever reason you are giving consent to seeing a cock pic. If you choose to join a site like this a cock pic cannot be "unsolicited" !!! What do people not understand !!!
    >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
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      You just don't get it. do you? This article is about being sent unsolicited dick pics. Yes, we know that many guys on here think their dick is SOOOOOOO special that every woman want to see it, and therefore it's the main profile pic - we can always turn off "Adult Mode" so we don't have to see your main brain but that doesn't help when someone emails or Facebooks one a picture of their dick uninvited.
      >4w
    • Trythishard1

      Trythishard1
      55M Paralowie, SA,
       AU

      My comments relate to this site.
      The majority of the article and comments do too!!
      Where have I mentioned Facebook or email?
      I do get it actually!!
      Turn off adult mode, who cares!!
      My profile is just that, my profile.
      I'll put on it what I please.
      If you don't like it that ain't my problem.
      >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
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      Oh dear, as Eva said, you ARE angry -:)
      >4w
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  • josheee72

    josheee72
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    Tell women to put the tits back in ! Also cover the snatch..bloody hypocrite.
    >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
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      Hypocrite? Are women sending you these pictures unsolicited? THAT'S what this blog is about, or did you not read it?
      >4w
    • Fiona.Ring.CD

      Fiona.Ring.CD
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      It's not being hypocritical at all, you only think it is because you have completely missed the point. Men & women think totally differently & they have different views on what they deem as appropriate.
      >4w
    • Michelle112

      Michelle112
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      Leolady 727, You look stunning. I love your new picture :)
      >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
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      Why, thank you, Michelle :-)
      >4w
    • ASensualsoul

      ASensualsoul
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      WellI'm sorry but if a womans profile only contains tits and pussy pics then its a big turn OFF for me. Yes us men know you have different bits and they are magnificent, don't get me wrong, but is that what you want to be known as, a pair of breasts and a vagina? No, and this goes for both sexes, profile should have a genital or breast pic as the main one. I mean please people grow up a little. Keep them for the private gallery and treat them like a "reward" for sending a first message. If thats all you have going for you then sadly you should look at yourselves and think "I wonder why I can't find the right/nice guy." Mystery people, its a HUGE aphrodisiac, as most men would rather see you in sexy underwear, even if its transparent. We all have dicks , tits and pussies but what will you do before and after sex or is that all you want to be known as, the great rack or (insert random female name here)?
      >4w
    • Trythishard1

      Trythishard1
      55M Paralowie, SA,
       AU

      I hope you're being sarcastic :-)
      >4w
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  • Lasciviousme

    Lasciviousme
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    It's about consent and respect - unsolicited is never OK, and if it is your only selling point, you should look for something to differentiate yourself. A woman can get a cock anywhere, but what is it that differentiates you from the other guys on here?
    BTW, cock pics, especially where it is the only pic, is an auto delete and block - perhaps if more people did this, it would encourage more respect and weed out the 'dicks'.
    >4w
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  • willinghelper

    willinghelper
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    Great article.... cant see the point of getting it out for a photo... not the most photogenic thing are they....I would hope that most women are looking for what you can do with it not how good you are with photoshop.
    >4w
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  • DeliciousEva

    DeliciousEva
    48F Reservoir, VIC,
     AU

    Curious to me how many of the men are getting offended. Have any of you actually READ the piece? Or did you just read the title and assume it was a penis bashing article? Haha.
    >4w
    • Trythishard1

      Trythishard1
      55M Paralowie, SA,
       AU

      The point is.... If you sign up to a site like this that caters
      for people who like to post cock pics, in no way are they
      " unsolicited ". You choose to be here, I didn't make you!!
      How do people not understand this? If you don't want to
      see cock pics sign up to a site that caters for you. This
      " unsolicited " debate is crap!! It's no different to walking
      Into a sex shop and criticising the guy behind the desk
      because you're offended by seeing a cock. Who would do
      that!!!
      >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      So... You *didn't* read it.
      lol
      Perhaps reread the bit about dating site cock pics in profile pics.
      When referring to unsolicited I pretty much only mean ones that are sent in messages without being asked.
      Profile pics are a different matter. Not unsolicited as such, no... But a good indicator for some on whether or not they'll pursue a meeting or communication.
      You're very angry... So many exclamation marks!
      Are you okay? Perhaps a nice cuppa and a lie down will help to calm you down.
      It's just cock, babe. Not everyone loves them. And that's okay. Settle.
      >4w
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  • Travellingman34

    Travellingman34
    45M Ballina, NSW,
     AU

    Horses for courses I guess.
    Totally understand it's not for everyone however I have had profile pics with and without dick pics ....... and I have had a LOT more interest with a dick pic. It's one way to stand out amongst the 100's of guys on here.
    >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
      Account closed

      For me, I think the way to stand out is to have a well-written and interesting profile - leave the dick pics for your PG. Actually, I can't imagine ANY circumstance where I want to see a picture of a dick (as opposed to an actual penis).
      >4w
    • Travellingman34

      Travellingman34
      45M Ballina, NSW,
       AU

      Fair enough, each to their own.
      However in my personal experience I have a lot more success even getting a reply with the dick pic than without. I understand you prefer not to see it, lots of others obviously do :)
      >4w
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  • LaBonk

    LaBonk
    69M 59F Greenbank, QLD,
     AU

    What a lot of bull is this a swinging site or another womans chat forum
    >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      Interesting.
      Do you also ignore consent or respect at a swingers party?
      >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
      Account closed

      Eva, he's probably that annoying guy at a party who tries to shove his dick into one's face uninvited.
      >4w
    • MsCupCake

      MsCupCake
      Account closed

      Actually LaBonk, this is an Adult Match Making Site - to my understanding that means the site is designed for like minded ADULTS to find each other regardless of what they are seeking.
      People join for different reasons.
      If a person, a couple or a group want to swing - they look for swingers, if a person wants to chat in a forum - they are able to do exactly that in the many chat rooms that are provided.
      If someone wants a relationship (and I personally know many who have found relationships here) they search for a compatible partner.
      Such a pity there are so many small minded disrespectful people around.
      >4w
    • LittleLiasons

      LittleLiasons
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      I see a pic of a guy getting head and I think we'll that's all he is after. I would not even read your profile or talk to u in chat. Sex is sex but a woman still needs to have her motor started and most of us don't do it with. Dick pick. Understand you men may from boobs etc but we don't function that way. Good luck if your getting it with you pic
      >4w
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  • El.Padre.Sadico

    El.Padre.Sadico
    52M Cleveland, TAS,
     AU

    can wait to see this mirror turned around and squared on the female profiles, or is it just the lads you feel the need to 'educate'. ?
    >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      Well when it becomes a world wide issue with women using their entitlement and lack of respect to start sending unsolicited vagina pics, and it becomes a world wide issue of men not wanting to receive them and feeling quite confronted when they do...
      Yep.
      Of course.
      Until then... Stop with the "poor men are so oppressed these days", and get an education.
      :)
      >4w
    • LittleLiasons

      LittleLiasons
      Account closed

      I don't think it is so much as having the mirror turned around but more an education on what the majority of woman like. It's not a bad subject. As stated a good pic is nice. But woman like it when not emailed to them. On here it's nice to see a good pic of one.
      >4w
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  • Slimshaddy

    Slimshaddy
    Account closed

    I guess being on AMM;as a male you need to flaunt what you percieve to be desired by the opposite sex; or what you think is diffrent and better about you in contrast to other men, If your an every day bloke trying to land a lady and you have a huge cock then obviously it shouldnt be a shock to see a dick pic on his profile; We are on AMM; I for one however think we should be better than that give women on this site a bit of respect and not think every lady here is just out for a shag and should only send a explicit Dick Pic if asked; but in saying that, I wouldnt complain if i got an unsolicited pussy,ass or tit pic sent to me. Make of it what you will
    >4w
    • LittleLiasons

      LittleLiasons
      Account closed

      Haha. The difference between men and woman. Yes a good dick pic is nice but a good body is better for woman. Like your comment.
      >4w
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  • Femilla544

    Femilla544
    Account closed

    Yes, I get it.
    You were born with a penis!
    You didn't have a say in the matter, but there you are! And funnily enough your pretty impressed with yourself.
    All blokes have dicks! It's about what you can do with it that counts! And that's where the required interaction comes into play.
    And that is where there is a bit of a break down in communication.
    Definitely please ask! And if you get a positive response and send the pic, please give a reference data. E.g. A beautiful man sent me a dic pic after confirming that's all good with me prior, and he held a shaving can against his impressive organ, so I could absorb the mass. Beautiful! Mind you he also gave me a pic of his tongue. , ! I will do what ever he wants. Consensual , respectful, & considerate. Thank you!
    >4w
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  • SensualOlympics

    SensualOlympics
    56M Sydney, NSW,
     AU

    Unsolicited dick pics shouldn't 'happen' for those not interested in them. But unfortunately, they will occur from time to time because:
    - M's outnumber F's here
    - there's a spectrum of risque on here - face it, the most conservative profiles have some naughtiness
    - on the internets that there's always some tool...
    Fortunately, Adult Mode was introduced to deal with all this.
    "Adult Mode allows members to control the display of restricted content, such as member photos with restricted classification.
    When Adult Mode is OFF:
    Member photos with a restricted classification will not be shown
    The ability to broadcast your webcam or view other webcams in chats will be disabled"
    On = no dick pics at all. Off = allows you to view someone 'special' ;)
    And aren't you better off sometimes knowing 'incompatabilities' early on to avoid time-wasting or tears - rather than people acting/charading as someone else? And aren't there some respectful but quite risque folk on here who only seek like-minded - in which case, go for it & each to their own.
    Cheers
    >4w
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  • MsCupCake

    MsCupCake
    Account closed

    Great Article Eva.
    It's just a pity that most men will not read it let alone take notice of your suggestions.
    >4w
    • ditto19

      ditto19
      64M Labrador, QLD,
       AU

      I have read the article and others. I only have them in my pg, and will share if other party wants.
      >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      Latest comments attest to this prediction.
      Haha.
      It always amuses me how angry and offended some men get when women pull them up on offensive behaviour.
      The comments here show such a great range from the respectful and willing to learn and listen and understand... To the #notallmen omg how DARE you question my masculinity and OMG WHAT IF A WOMAN DID IT YOU JUST HATE MEN!!! Rhetoric.
      Amusing.
      Typical.
      :)
      >4w
    • Privateer76

      Privateer76
      Account closed

      Eva, love your comments here.
      Illuminating.
      Dudes - are you listening?
      >4w
    • MsCupCake

      MsCupCake
      Account closed

      Go get em Eva .. lol
      I guess no matter how many tips and suggestions you try to offer people to help them be more successful in achieving their desires or goals, there are always going to be those that will be offended by such help.
      >4w
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  • godown64

    godown64
    Account closed

    I must admit that when I receive unasked for personal pictures, I am put off by the audacity to think that I am simple enough to be attracted to such a thing.
    In saying that I have different values, morals and needs to others and
    I am sure that when I receive these messages that the sender is not trying to shock me, after all, I feel that only a very naive and easily offended person with differing values to the majority of those on this site would possibly have.
    In short, I have my nudie pics in my private section and only send permission once a mental rapport is established. I Am not a piece of meat and I have no wish to spend an evening with someone who I don't have a connection with . Have fun finding your fun!
    >4w
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  • GoldieHorninc

    GoldieHorninc
    62F Canberra, ACT,
     AU

    I skim past profiles featuring a dic pic... this is my personal preference...
    I love dic pics if they are erotic and/or are from someone that I know intimately or I desire too know )
    Unsolicited, I find offensive. Full stop
    Again this is my personal preference
    I have had guys send me videos of them coming and some more and when solicited ii find it immensely erotic and very hot
    It could be likened to consensual vs non consensual sex and have read cases where it has been successfully argued in law
    Interesting forum )
    >4w
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  • Leolady727

    Leolady727
    Account closed

    Some guys obviously don't think about the dick pic they're posting. A couple of examples:
    The pic of a dick next to a coke can (really?) - hand holding said dick has filthy BLACK fingernails.
    Picture of a dick with a HUGE wart on the side - nauseating.
    >4w
    • ditto19

      ditto19
      64M Labrador, QLD,
       AU

      I have rarely been given any feedback on my pics, dick or otherwise. Maybe a few could do this to help out an first time photographer. Also, it is not easy to take a good "selfie" and getting everything right.
      >4w
    • ASensualsoul

      ASensualsoul
      Account closed

      Maybe you should look at some womens profiles Leolady, just as nauseating I can assure you. Pics of genitals can be erotic if asked for but when not by Men AND Women it is puerile in behaviour. I mean this site is called ADULT MatchMaker not CHILD MatchMaker. Oh and I thought it was a great article Eva, but maybe it should be about both sexes, unless you plan on a follow up with women as the topic.
      >4w
    • Some1kinky

      Some1kinky
      Account closed

      To be honest even though I'm on this site for a fun adult time... If I'm sent a cock pic I tend to be put off. When we swap pics I'm clothed. And you get face and full body... I then if we click go to kik and its to my discretion if I choose to send further body pics... Guys a cock is a cock... I'm more turned on by attitude and face body... If your cock is ugly I don't bail lol just saying.
      >4w
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  • Fiona.Ring.CD

    Fiona.Ring.CD
    Account closed

    I forgot about an all time favourite cock shot... the comparison shot, where a guy holds an inanimate object along side his cock to show everyone how big his cock is. A beer can is such a good choice lol.
    I'm a member of other site, besides this site & guys everywhere seem to opt for the cock in favour of any other part of their anatomy. When these guys message me I sometimes just address them as "Dick"... hey Dick, thanks for the compliment... thanks Dick... you have a nice day Dick etc. Mostly I ignore them.
    >4w
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  • AMM.Editor

    AMM.Editor
    Staff Account

    Eva also sent us this link which you will have to cut & paste: http://critiquemydickpic.tumblr.com/
    >4w
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  • Fiona.Ring.CD

    Fiona.Ring.CD
    Account closed

    I love this topic & pretty much agree with all the author has written. I'm probably a bit of a hypocrite because a lot of my photo's have my penis exposed.
    I do believe that your profile picture is the most important part of your profile, so it has to appeal to the people you are trying to attract. Having spoken to many women, CD's & TG's etc, on this subject, it's quite apparent that a close-up dick pick is the biggest turn off of them all, at least for most of them. For Bi guys, it's probably what most of them want to see straight away.
    When a guy joins a site like AMM they are reluctant to put up a portrait shot because of the fear of been found out, even though that is what the majority of girls want to see. So a guy joins this site, can't think of anything else but sex & his cock, races to the bathroom & takes a quick snap of their dick & uploads it.
    In my opinion, there are a few categories of dick pick's. My Favourites (sarcastically) are the bathroom floor shots, with, an out of focus dick, hanging over their jeans or jocks, in the foreground. Also with dirty bathroom tiles or socks on or long gnarly toenails. Then there is the dirty bathroom mirror shot. Well what does that say about a person. Next is the computer chair shot with the big hairy stomach hanging over a stump surround by an overgrown undergrowth. Let me just flop it out of my jeans & take a quickie for the girls shot... mmm nice one, put a lot of thought into that one. It goes on & on. Guys, just don't have a cock shot as your profile photo, it's that simple. I think no photo at all is better that a cock shot. Although, on very rare occasion I do see a cock shot & think wow, what a great photo & a great looking cock but that is very rare indeed.
    Personally I'm not interested in men that much but it never ceases to amaze me how little they seem to know about how to attract a mate or a fuck buddy.
    As I said, I'm a bit of a hypocrite but I do try & show my cock in context with the rest of me & I do try & have a variety of shots.
    Everyone is different & you're never going to please everyone & you are never going to be everyone's cup of tea but put up a profile pic that's going to do the least damage to your chances.
    >4w
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  • shortnfeisty

    shortnfeisty
    Account closed

    I can't understand why Guys post only pictures of their Dicks & only their Dicks & nothing else, what is the method of thinking?? do they think its the only attractive feature on their body & when you ask them to put up a face shot they send you a reply with abuse when we don't deserve it & when you see it once & then you see it over and over again it gets a bit off putting.
    >4w
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  • Boaboy

    Boaboy
    53M Surry Hills, NSW,
     AU

    As usual, horses for courses.
    Guys who just post dik-pix are most probably coy about their actual looks - and rely on dik-pix to attract like-minded partners.
    Personally, an interesting mix of pix is gonna give a potential partner more to go on.
    Nevertheless, as already noted, some women are as 'genitally-focused' as many men seem to be - and post pussy-pix as their main photo... so go figure - you can't pleez all the people all the time...
    Aaand after all - this is AMM , not RSVP - so to be 'shocked' or repulsed by dik-pix is a little amusing on a site like this...
    Butt of course - (pun intended) - crass, unimaginative, gross and boring images are a turn-off for any1.
    I've certainly tried to post graphically interesting and 'off-the-wall' images - (images that reflect male energy/eroticism and are definitely a notch above the ordinary) - and and yes I get a lot of attention from gay and transgender dudes as a consequence - which I find flattering... and have no problem with.
    The thing is, if you're a dickhead with ONLY dik-pix - you'll attract the same kinda gal...
    At least, that's my phat 6.5 to 7 inches worth...
    :P
    >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
      Account closed

      OMG - HOW many times have I heard "this is not RSVP" (or E-Harmony). To me, it says that some guys think that a woman who is on this site does not deserve to be treated with any respect. - she's obviously up for anything with anybody.
      That sort of attitude, along with a dick pic profile picture, is a one-way trip to my "block" list.
      >4w
    • GoldieHorninc

      GoldieHorninc
      62F Canberra, ACT,
       AU

      I'm with you leolady .. 100%
      >4w
    • nicegurl3072

      nicegurl3072
      Account closed

      Yes, I totally agree with you too Leolady.
      >4w
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  • 1thatlikesthat

    1thatlikesthat
    Account closed

    Are they awesome, really. Lets assume for one moment that your grandma sees your dick is it still awesome. Technically when your 2 maybe, its cute but when your 52 your dick is not your most precious possession, its not even a highlight. Women don't walk around without a top on, well some tops have less material then others but well the point is a dick is like a big toe, just because its attached to you doesnt mean it needs to be paraded around. Oh and I find nothing against a rock hard cock, but its always better not to see 50 in flash card versions all at once. So one every now and again is better than 150. Cheers. Have a naughty day.
    >4w
    • Privateer76

      Privateer76
      Account closed

      Is that why women dress provocatively? Low cut,tight tops, short skirts,tight jeans... Just because they're attached to you,doesn't mean you're meant to parade your blobs,ass or legs around. Oh wait...
      >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      I have a friend who sends the dick pics she gets to the person's mother. If she can find them. The funny thing is many guys are a bit stupid and send them via their personal emails or Facebook profiles.
      >4w
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  • Dinks67

    Dinks67
    Account closed

    As a couple we always insist that there is a profile picture. Really don't care if its a Dick pic or Face pic or anything in between. But to have no Pics well they just get ignored full stop.
    But certainly if there is a Dick pic then there are a few turn on's and turn off's. The main turn off is Dick pics taken in the toilet especially a public toilet lol.
    >4w
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  • triXXXi66

    triXXXi66
    58F 58M SA,
     AU

    A well thought about 'cockshot' can be very horny... avoid toilets, jocks, socks, powercords, mess in the background, cans of beer, aerosol cans of any description trying to show size comparison. A well placed hand will do that! If you really want the best kind of attention you have to make sure you 'ROCK THE COCKSHOT' . And ANY PHOTO in the main profile photo pic is better than NO photo.... doesnt have to be a cockshot... just shows you are serious and willing..
    >4w
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  • CopperTop111

    CopperTop111
    65M TAS,
     AU

    Thank you!!! At long last been trying to ask this question in my "diary" log for a while and keeps getting rejected..at the end of the day its just a piece of gristle...yes it can bring pleasure to both parties..the other thing to remember is that blokes are visual, we like to SEE..females are "feelings" yes fellows there's that word again..so I agree totally with the articl..thank you again..think I delete my "dick" pic..
    >4w
    • LittleLiasons

      LittleLiasons
      Account closed

      Keep it in your private gallery. If you get asked for your pg as you are your pic on public then usually she will be asking for a dick pic. Just let them know that it is in there before you send it is another option. If the pic looks blah I will help u take another one when I'm over next as it is a nice dick. I like it.
      >4w
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  • AdultMode.

    AdultMode.
    Account closed

    The only thing Disappointing about my dick pic is that its rated 'R' & not all get to see it!! haha
    >4w
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  • Privateer76

    Privateer76
    Account closed

    My cockshots are arty...&impressive.
    But they stay under wraps until my cock has been inside her.
    I'd make an exception for Eva though. Just to get a rating out of 10.
    >4w
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  • Ryan183

    Ryan183
    Account closed

    Yeah I agree, you can't just be going around in life dishing out uninvited cock shots. Not cool. But. some girls like it. And to my constant frustration, So do a lot of homosexual men on this site. It's a personal preference. Everyone's different. I don't wanna come across as a dick, but they're just about always well received from my personal experience. If anything, it has helps me seal the deal. I have to disagree. I reckon there's women who would be especially interested in a blokes cock. How it looks, size, cut or uncut etc could be potential deal breakers for them...
    >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      I'm not sure exactly what you're disagreeing with?
      Did you read the whole piece?
      Interesting how you note how frustrating it is that gay guys like to show their cock. And perhaps send them unsolicited.
      Yes. Yes it IS frustrating isn't it?
      Think about that.
      >4w
    • LittleLiasons

      LittleLiasons
      Account closed

      Actually Ryan I get where your coming from. A dick pic can seal the deal for some woman. When dishing them out uninvited is not on. You obviously chat to the right woman who like to see it.
      >4w
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  • Trythishard1

    Trythishard1
    55M Paralowie, SA,
     AU

    I can't understand. Are cock pic profiles less successful because you don't like people who are " exhibitionist "? I post cock pics because i enjoy doing it and I wouldn't waste my time meeting someone who doesn't get turned on by looking at them anyway.
    The only difference between me and a guy who only shows his face(which I do in private gallery) is that I get off on the thought of people looking at my cock. I don't understand why I would be less attractive and be judged unsuccessful because of this.
    But I do agree that you're suggestions on how to shoot cock pics is a valid point.
    >4w
    • BareNakedLady1

      BareNakedLady1
      Account closed

      I don't want you to immediately think I'm just having a go but I suspect you've missed a huge point made very early on in the article.
      "As sex positive and as genital loving as I am, when someone sends a pic like that unsolicited it is an invasion of my personal boundaries, and completely lacks any consent on my part."
      Also, just because I do not appreciate 'unsolicited' cock shots, does not mean that I'm not turned on by certain cocks!
      You might deem your cock to be a really nice, good looking and clean one - I can assure you, this is rarely the case if what is on offer is what we have to judge.
      I've seen more nasty cocks on this site than I would care to in a lifetime.
      Truthfully, all this has done is made me extremely picky.
      I guess I've learned in my 43 years that I'm likely to respond to someone when I run into them down the street based on recognition of their face - not their cock!
      >4w
    • Melody2973

      Melody2973
      Account closed

      Fortunately I e only ever received cock shots of cocks that are impressive so I'm not complaining :)
      Happy to know what they look likes etc :), if it doesn't move me it's not getting any further, no ' unfortunate ' surprises you could say :)
      >4w
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  • HulkIsMyBitch

    HulkIsMyBitch
    Account closed

    This is such a good point... Literally one in every 3 contacts/messages i get are a dick pick. Also on the other side the first thing a guy usually says to me is "nice tits"...
    The only people who get messages back are the cheeky, sarcastic and charmingly written messages detailing themselves. NOT a summary of how nice their dick is and how much they think I should want it accompanoed by a badly angled snapshot of a cock in terrible lighting!
    >4w
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