In Praise of the Mature Woman (and why younger men love them so much)

Adult Match Maker on 16 October 2015    149 comments
Attractive mature woman with brunette hair looking sultry

“Are you trying to seduce me, Mrs Robinson?” 

For anyone who’s watched The Graduate, this is the defining line of the film. A younger man who’s interested in an older woman might have been something of a novelty back in the 60s when the movie was made, but these days, it’s one of the hottest NSA relationships around. 

Move over Samantha Jones as it turns out Aussie women have embraced the phenomenon. A survey by Prevention Magazine found that a third of Aussie women over 40 admitted they had dated (or bedded) a younger man and that 80% had more confidence in the bedroom than women in their 20s.

You have more experience!

Let's face it, older women are generally better in bed and no man is immune to a sexy mature woman who knows what she’s doing between the sheets.  You've gotten over the insecurities and fears which can hold younger women back from having an amazing sex life.  

You have more confidence!

You're not just sexy, you're sexual! Women reach their peak confidence in their 30s although a woman won’t earn her stripes as a “cougar” (not our favourite term, but it gets the message across) until she’s in her 40s. 

You have more sexual confidence and you're more relaxed about your body. You're not rushing to turn off the light when the clothes come off and you're more willing to try new things, and probably show us a few tricks along the way.

And your confidence rubs off a little on us.  Having a sexy confident woman on our arm, and in our bed, boosts our confidence and self-esteem. 

You know what you want & how to ask for it!

Women who have spent more time discovering their own bodies and figuring out exactly what works for them are a major turn-on for a guy who just wants to please his playmate. And you also know to communicate what you want with a sexy assertiveness which is a total turn on. Orgasms for everyone!

You make for great teachers!

Aside from the odd guy who’s got an ego that won’t let him learn anything new (have your fun with him, then kick him out of your bed, ladies), pretty much every male playmate will be willing and eager to learn new tricks.

It’s a win-win situation - he gets to boost his sexual prowess into the stratosphere for all his other playmates, and you get exactly what you want from an increasingly skilled stud. 

You're sexy on so many levels!

And while older women are more confident, knowledgeable and fun in so many ways, there’s also the fact that they’re just damned sexy! Older women, you know which clothes suit you, you’ve got a banging body which you're proud of and your attitude is sexy too. 

Because you're not looking for a boyfriend who is attached to your hip you're more independent and less clingy and that's really appealing. You have a clear sense of who you are and what you want (in and out of bed). You're more upfront, don't need to get your girlfriends to weigh in on every decision you make and you're not interested in playing games.  

And we love you for it! 

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  • 2seawhatifine

    2seawhatifine
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    So true. Love being the older women.
    And younger men are such a turn on.
    >4w
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  • Bartender84

    Bartender84
    45M Potts Point, NSW,
     AU

    Completely agree...been a member on amm for years and had the pleasure of banging quite a few mature ladies....all of which have been AWESOME....great with their bodies...and also just so much easier to talk to than younger ones....still love all women though :)
    >4w
    • Iween1

      Iween1
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      I'm a fortunate MILF type. I must say the word, 'banging' is far from what older woman generally want. I don't like the word. We are sexual and exude confidence to seduce the lovely young male in our presence.
      >4w
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  • allinmymind

    allinmymind
    61F Wodonga, VIC,
     AU

    Very nice article, thanks. :)
    >4w
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  • 1easygoin1

    1easygoin1
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    Have to agree entirely. More mature, more confident, damn sexy. More power to the mature women.
    >4w
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  • CurvvyBella

    CurvvyBella
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    Up until this point it was all about experimentation. Now I know what I want and have the confidence to pursue it
    >4w
    • LiknFuk

      LiknFuk
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      Humm I agree older woman more mature and have experience in sex more than young woman , she knows what she wants how to have fun and sex in bed.so I prefer to meet n have lots of fun , sex with mature woman especially older than me , kisses , cuddles, licking and lots of action :) by the way long nipples turn me on Humm yummy .xxxooo
      >4w
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      fitman2230
      46M Caringbah South, NSW,
       AU

      Mid 30s too young?
      >4w
    • Iween1

      Iween1
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      I agree. The confidence to pursue what we like, have the fortune of plenty to select from and a younger guy is often such a huge turn on though conversation can vary. Hence I play with a variety of ages.
      >4w
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  • hereIam59

    hereIam59
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    True but there is an expiry date
    >4w
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  • pyro.1969

    pyro.1969
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    This article makes me feel good about being over 40....thank you
    >4w
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  • 30plusgst

    30plusgst
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    Older women are an attractive combination of several mental, intellectual & sexual attributes!
    In my experience, that mental engagement always enhances the intimacy:)
    >4w
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  • Surpriseme54

    Surpriseme54
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    I'm in my 60s and the best times have been with men in their 40s for all those reasons mentioned. Thank you for acknowledging the advantages of this type of sexual relationship and that it's common practice - not taboo!
    >4w
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    Icelady121
    65F Geelong, VIC,
     AU

    What a great article , just saying what we all knew to be true !
    More power to us !
    >4w
    • Intimate70

      Intimate70
      52M Pennant Hills, NSW,
       AU

      Old is gold and old is innovative in bed without any rush and stress it always to meet and have fun with 40s and 50s without spoiling our life
      life is meant to enjoy
      >4w
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    zamale
    56M Melbourne, VIC,
     AU

    I remember (many yrs ago) having the hots of a lady in my street. After some time, I managed to get her attention - I lost my virginity to her....She was gentle, led the way and ensured I got the most out of that experience.... I'm older now, but I've learned from her how to treat a women and pleasure a women well...THANKS 'Mature Lady'.
    >4w
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  • MistressZee

    MistressZee
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    Mmmmm great article ... but hey it doesn't stop at 40's.. maybe we not as perky
    But still love great sex...
    >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
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      I certainly agree with this sentiment - in my 60's I'm hornier than ever!
      >4w
    • Iween1

      Iween1
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      I'm still very needing too. As I got older - improved in desire and quality. Is about attention to one one another. I'm a giver. Not about quantity.
      >4w
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    Golden1out4fun
    46F Naracoorte, SA,
     AU

    Great article and so true.
    I'm having more fun now than I've ever had and i'm loving it
    >4w
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  • KaifraDuet

    KaifraDuet
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    It's not only older men who prefer older women. Sensible older blokes prefer them, too. Young bodies are lovely to look at - glowing, supple, healthy - but with that often comes a certain amount of narcissism. There is also the huge turn on of experience and a body shaped by life and love.
    >4w
    • allinmymind

      allinmymind
      61F Wodonga, VIC,
       AU

      That is lovely Lindsay.
      >4w
    • KaifraDuet

      KaifraDuet
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      Thank you for that, allinmyFcups. I've been toying with idea of putting up a story in the members' section as the standard seems to be, for the most part, pretty drastic. There's also the added worry that judging by some of the profiles anything more than five words per sentence might be a waste of time!
      Still, one lives in hope. Again, thanks for the compliment. xx
      >4w
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  • totallyactive

    totallyactive
    56M Parramatta, NSW,
     AU

    I totally disagree that woman should look for a younger men, because this kind of woman they should ask themselves where they got all this experience from, of course it was from a previous relationship a husband or a partner, so i believe when a couple reach to that position they should work out new things in their life to make excitement still available in their relationship, and let no one from no where come and take all the effort that been put on a ready to go golden platter also lets not forget our mother nature because all of us one day we gonna get old. so its a temporary relief. cheers
    >4w
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      Aquarius1965
      60F NSW,
       AU

      What about the mature single females that are not a couple are they not allowed to have enjoyment in their lives from a younger male. While you are still able to enjoy it at no matter what age or sex you maybe Young Old Male or Female I say lets just enjoy it for what it is and that is some mutual pleasure and exciting times along the way in your life.
      >4w
    • Supman42

      Supman42
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      I agree I love older women bbw or average haven't had any one in there 60's or 70's yet but hopefully I will as long as we all enjoy our selves
      >4w
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  • BlkMalOdy

    BlkMalOdy
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    No one knows what sex and passion's are like mature women
    To you, all the respect all the love
    >4w
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  • SassySandy

    SassySandy
    75F Ocean Shores, NSW,
     AU

    MMMMMMMMMM GREAT TOPIC!!!!!! I've had younger guys ALL MY LIFE!!! BUT now in my 60's just LOVING it more and more and will until I can't no more..BRING IT ON!!!!!!
    >4w
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  • kinkywoof

    kinkywoof
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    Great write up,you made my day.. Thank you :)
    >4w
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  • DavidG74

    DavidG74
    50M Sunshine West, VIC,
     AU

    I prefer mature a woman most than a young woman because they are more experienced. They know how to treat a young man by giving him a good time. They are good teachers and can give good sex by guiding how to go about it. I find some younger women can be immature and don't know how behave and don't know how to give good sex properly because they rush it.
    >4w
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  • Beinstinctive69

    Beinstinctive69
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    My biggest turn on is being seduced by an older woman I seriously can't say no to that kinda action..
    >4w
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  • Bmpearl235

    Bmpearl235
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    Younger males, enjoys the older women. I'm 60 and still attract men in their 30tied
    >4w
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  • ThinkB4

    ThinkB4
    40M St Leonards, NSW,
     AU

    Older women have lived life, they have no inhibition whatsoever no agendas either - they're there to have just as much fun as you are. and would probably be hating the thought of a clingy relationship as much as any other guy. plus they like comfy beds
    >4w
    • Titianslady

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      Yes I've lived life, had two husbands ten years older than me. Then in between I met a young man 10 years younger we had a lovely 3 year relationship. I can't say I have no inhibitions cos i do.lol But I'm willing to be coaxed into loosing those. As I've already found out from several younger men on this site. Older women don't necessarily know it all.lol But are certainly willing to give it a go. And no we don't all have banging bodies which we're proud of but if where on this site we're confident enough in ourselves to put it out there.
      And yes young man I prefer a comfy bed too.lol
      >4w
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  • intoit63

    intoit63
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    I totally love being the mature woman... I am so much more confident in my skin than my younger self...
    >4w
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  • pleasure4meXXX

    pleasure4meXXX
    50F Mount Gambier, SA,
     AU

    Great article, I am that woman having the time of my life mostly with younger men too! I spent my 20's with guys in their 30's and 40's and now I most enjoy guys in ther 20's and 30's.
    >4w
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  • polar78

    polar78
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    Tru dat. Luv mature women. They luv to f#@#!
    >4w
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    Sexyat60
    75F Warranwood, VIC,
     AU

    I just love being with younger men, so much more fun and they certainly know how to look after a woman
    >4w
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  • elizadolittle

    elizadolittle
    60F Beenleigh, QLD,
     AU

    I'm 51 and I like being with guys in their late 30's or 40's as I find that the majority of guys the same age as me, tend to have a few problems in the bedroom
    >4w
    • Iween1

      Iween1
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      Unfortunately and from my experience that can be true about men our own age. Some talk themselves up. Younger ones are like putty. I love putting my hands and well, lips/hands alllll over them. A delight indeed.
      >4w
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  • Rustrixie

    Rustrixie
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    Older women are just sexy, a lot of younger women look sexy but haven't learnt how to be sexy. Mrs Rustrixie loves attention from younger guys and know how to give them the look.
    All it take is a sexy smile and the young guys melt and of course so do the mature guys.
    I say go the sexy mature women, and they are soooooooooooo good in bed Mmmm
    >4w
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  • Boobluva108

    Boobluva108
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    Yes older women are more experienced and they are in it to enjoy the pleasure
    Younger ladies are more wham bam I am off and the uneasiness of gettin up the duff
    >4w
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  • Leolady727

    Leolady727
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    Will there be a follow-up article about mature men? I MUCH prefer them to young guys who think sex is what they see in the pornos. For me, the best, most uninhibited and amazing lover I ever had was a man in his 70's - and I certainly don't go for anyone under 50!
    >4w
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  • Michelle112

    Michelle112
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    My sex life really took a turn when I reached 40. It was good before but now it's f#ing awesome and awesome f#ing heh heh
    >4w
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  • secretlover323

    secretlover323
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    The sexy mature woman.I'm yet to meet one on amm.They are so much more sexy than the younger ones.
    >4w
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    MsCurvy1965
    59F Greenway, ACT,
     AU

    Thank you for a great article ... I totally agree 100% ... I'm proud to be a mature sexy 50 year old. I know what I want. I'm sexy, confident and happy in my own skin. I am having more fun now that I did the last 30 years.
    There are a lot of younger guys out there attracted to an older woman :)
    >4w
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  • rboy01

    rboy01
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    being a guy in my 30's I love older women bring it on I say
    >4w
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  • LadyDragon

    LadyDragon
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    At 65 I'm having the 'ride' of my life! I've been innunated with contact from all ages. I've been with many younger men, 44 the youngest, and they are great - interesting, beautiful bodies, minds... but the older ones are just as beautiful - sexy, considerate and sooo experienced! I'm lucky to have a good body for my age but it's the attitude I have that most of 'my' guys like. I like affection AND fun, not just sex. Bring on all ages with the right attitude - that's the key to exceptional sex. Fun laughter and affectionate fucking xx
    >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
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      You go girl!!! That's the attitude. Glad you're having fun. I SO agree - it's not just about sex - friendship and laughter is also important (and this is what, sometimes, the really young guys don't understand).
      >4w
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  • chrissy305

    chrissy305
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    As a mature woman now I enjoy younger men always , they are so more attentive and I enjoy teaching them new things , I am so comfortable I'm who I am and what my needs are , I enjoy the pleasure of knowing they enjoy meeting both our needs and making the whole experience about us ! , which really mutual pleasure is what it's about !
    >4w
    • maddoo

      maddoo
      50M Norwood, SA,
       AU

      I wish I was young enough to be invited to one of your classes to learn what you teaching, I liked your profile, its just steamy hot, and please remember that age just number,
      you beautiful anyways, :-)
      >4w
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  • cheekyflirts

    cheekyflirts
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    We both love older couples and is what we look for when meeting up with other couples. Mr Cheeky goes wild for a sensual older woman, Mrs Cheeky loves the seduction of an older man.
    >4w
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    Calipo69
    46M Taylors Lakes, VIC,
     AU

    Are goddesses
    >4w
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  • intomeic

    intomeic
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    I love to express myself in rhyme In fact I do it all the time it helps me to be in the moment to look at my life with awe and wonderment
    For at 73 I believe I am well and truly blessed because many young men are with me obsessed But I also find it weird that the men closer to my age just look the other way. I sure find that strange ? But then again;I suppose it is only fair because truth be told, and as far as I am aware older men; in order to feel virile, seek some younger flesh And that I understand, because likewise I need to stress that I too prefer the gorgeous bodies of horny virile colts because when all said and done sex is really just nuts and bolts and when I am hot I simply must Indulge my senses in glorious uncomplicated lust
    >4w
    • secretlover323

      secretlover323
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      I wonder if these older men look the other way because they wouldn't know a beautiful woman if they ran into one.Open your eyes you old guys,here is an absolute goddess
      >4w
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  • Jhoping

    Jhoping
    51M NSW,
     AU

    So good to read this article and I'm I fully agree. The only problem is that most older women think I am not serious and treat my attention as a joke. I have been in a couple of relationships with older women. .and I doubt I'll go back to women my age or younger, they're just too damn sexy.
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    Cougarwife2905
    60F Burwood, VIC,
     AU

    only husbands see their wives as over the hill
    sad but true
    >4w
    • boaty92

      boaty92
      67M Riverwood, NSW,
       AU

      boaty92 as they have seen them before but can always have another go at it to as they should try to have good sex together to and make it a good one together as I like to try with a woman in bed with me
      >4w
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  • KaifraDuet

    KaifraDuet
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    And what about us older men? We may no longer be able to get it up every 20 minutes, but with maturity comes the realisation that great sex is as much about pleasing your partner as it is about being pleasured yourself. And any mature male (no matter what his age) knows it's as much about the journey as the destination.
    >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
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      I totally agree. Mature men are SO much better than young guys who think banging away all night is what all women want. Give me a mature, intelligent man who CARES about his partner's pleasure and knows how to find all the right spots ;-)
      >4w
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  • feeltinytits61

    feeltinytits61
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    Here's to the older women as I am one and I are also very popular
    >4w
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  • mrmeaner39

    mrmeaner39
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    in my experience they're a lot more fun than the girls in their 20s as they are less inhibited and definitely know what they like. they don't argue over positions in bed and never tell you to slow down or go more gently...quite the opposite in fact!
    >4w
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  • Melody2973

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    I think women grow into their sexuality that's for sure. At 42 I'm well and truly comfortable with who and what I am. I've always been highly sexual and I love it. I've attracted younger men, my ex partner was 9 years younger. I'm not sure I'd want to be fucking younger men randomly as I age though but each to their own :), some level of mental and physical attraction is required for me. Think some younger guys have the whole ' cougar ' fetish thing, I'm not interested in that one bit :), if it's just that move along. I'm only fussed if you turn me on mentality, the pjudicial isn't that hard is it ??
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  • Looklustlick

    Looklustlick
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    As a mature man I know mature women are better, women under 40 while pretty just don't make the grade. The problem comes from many men my age not looking after themselves or age robbing them of their libido so the younger fit hard and horny blokes fill the gap making it hard for the blokes like me that are still active but single
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  • maddoo

    maddoo
    50M Norwood, SA,
     AU

    I had to disagree with few comments here and there, I don't think such article sets out the truth or facts when it comes to mature women seeking younger blokes,
    1, FEMALES in general mostly or usually loves being in the centre of the tension, and I am not accusing or criticising girls for that because this normal, since the man original job is to hunt
    2 women loves to be asked, invited, flirted at, and catch men eyes and thoughts, that's by itself PLEASUE, that can be as equivalent of great orgasm
    3 _ quite big number of female become more sexual even if they are not attractive enough and this is absolute huge different between wanted and wanting more sex and this is what make cougars unique when it comes to fulfilling better sex experience either with younger or older men,
    4being with YOUNGER man is not sexual all the time, in my opinion, in some cases its a challenge and message to other women to the effects that older woman wants to let other women I am still kicking and better and that's itself can be damaging to some extent if she couldn't express herself in sensible fashion or manners, because it did happen to me when I got involved with female who she was 14 years older than me ONLY cause she was spiteful and jealousies of her own younger sisters, the thing that made me run away and she was left collecting the blames of her own wrong bet, specially that she was suffering bad cold sexual knowledge, it was all about her own mind games..!
    to me personally AGE JUST A NUMBER, good sex don't know old and or young, fat or slim, black or white
    thanks for reading and I hope that I added something.
    >4w
    • KatAda60

      KatAda60
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      You are so right in most of what you say. I am turning 61 soon and at first i had a problem with younger men contacting me, but after a while i began to enjoy it because it boosted my self-confidence that even though i am older and slightly overweight i can still be attractive to men. So i thank the younger men for making me feel desirable again and giving me back my confidence as an older woman.
      >4w
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  • goosebumps75

    goosebumps75
    55M Toowong, QLD,
     AU

    Mature women, are not fussy or worried about social consciousness. they exude a calmer outlook on life as they have seen it all but most of all they are in touch with themselves. But it's really about how you see yourself. I find myself looking at mature ladies when i go shopping, they are beautiful, well dressed or ready to tease the pants of you. The manner in which they carry themselves with such poise is just so good to see especially when their husbands are in tow.
    Most blush when i stare or rather make eye contact...
    The stamina they possess is gratifying as they know who they are and what they want. Non sexual talk is the key, and most love it and want it. I must admit non sexual talk has it's benefits and they outweigh the crappy brash expletives that are meant to be for later on.
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  • KindaDiffrent

    KindaDiffrent
    56M Brisbane, QLD,
     AU

    I had a 3 year relationship with a woman when I was 18, and she was 31. She did struggle with the idea at first because she thought I was too young. I learned so much from her, and we also had our first threesome together. What was a negative for her though, and me I guess, was the prejudices of the age difference, and the judgement and that men around her age or older, were complete dicks. They would openly try and pick her up in front of me, and when pointed out that she was already with someone, they were dumbfounded and still wouldn't take no for an answer and would even say "what are you doing with that boy?" One old Greek guy even went as far as saying "how do you see the man in him?" But knowing we were going to go home and have mind blowing sex together was such a turn on. Anyway....it's not just the sex, mature women are sexy as hell. Especially if they've been in a long term relationship and suddenly realise just how beautiful they are. I think I had a point.....Did I have a point?......Yeah I had a point.....probably
    >4w
    • Areyoukinky2

      Areyoukinky2
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      Hi Voodo I completely agree with what you said. I'm a 69 years of age lady who was married for thirty seven years then went out with a man six years by junior for ten years. He is still my best friend and always will be. We can't see one another now but I have his blessing to be on AMM.
      Sincerely Areyoukinky2
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  • J5l6m56

    J5l6m56
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    I love been with
    Younger men they can keep up with me more than one around my own age which is 59
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  • voodoo660

    voodoo660
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    Younger men are very easy on the eye and usually able to last more than 2 rounds but I also need some maturity and some brains as well as brawn. It's not just about quantity, but also quality. So I prefer men in their late 30's to 50 where quality usually matches the quantity, LOL!
    But equally important, a guy who actually reads and comprehends what I am looking for in my profile!
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  • Rathin6

    Rathin6
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    As a 47yo male I know who I'd rather be playing with. Mature for sure ;-) Love you girls.
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  • Curiousbee13

    Curiousbee13
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    I think women are most attractive in there late 30's and up wards there just pure sexual attraction mmmm older over younger any day
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  • justforfun558

    justforfun558
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    Personally, young men don't do it for me. I get a LOT of offers from young, and I do mean a lot, but I have tried several younger men, and they are just too inexperienced for me. Yes, I do know what I want and what I don't like, but at my age, I don't want to "teach" anyone to do something to me. Now in my life, I want to lay back and enjoy it, being with a man who already knows what do and HOW to do it.
    >4w
    • Curious1947

      Curious1947
      74F Childers, QLD,
       AU

      I'm with you Justforfun, a sweet young firm body is nice, but I don't want to be a teacher,,,, I'd rather a guy atleast 50 , I think he's ripe, reached his prime and realizes the world does not revolve around his penis. He's willing to share long soft erotic extended sensuious foreplay and let the destination take care of itself xx
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  • lakes81

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    Been seeing a lady with 17 years on me for 5 years and we have formed a great friendship and had lots of fun in the process, the great conversation always help the sex.
    >4w
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  • areukinky

    areukinky
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    Thankyou very much for this article. When I first joined AMM I was amazed at the response from men much younger than me at 66 but I loved the attention. Hey I'm a woman.....
    Even though I was diognosed with brain cancer two years ago then treated with fifteen double doses of radiation therapy and I tell a man that because I AM honest loyal and upfront my health issue doesn't bother them. I have recently been found by a local caring horny man seventeen years my junior. I'm 67 in November and we are both Scorpios with our birthdays two days apart. I joined AMM to explore my spanking fantasies with a genuine trustworthy man and it seems that he has found me. ;-)
    >4w
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  • Fellator2145

    Fellator2145
    67M Wentworthville, NSW,
     AU

    I would love to play with an older woman ..... and man.
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  • missBadGirl

    missBadGirl
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    Thank you for your article. All so very accurate. I'm 53 and was in a relationship for 15 yrs with a man, 20 yrs younger. We parted company several months ago. I have always had younger men. Not because it's my preference but the way it has always been for me. I have been amazed at the response I've had from younger men on AMM. Recently had a meeting with a 29 yr old sexy man from this service & it was amazing. Not all younger guys are immature or unintelligent & most know what they want. About the 'teaching', well we all have something to learn from each other. The positive is that these young guys can take these experiences & the finer "art" of playing they learn from us & pass it on to our younger sisters. I must say, I dislike the term Cougar.
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  • InsatiaBEL

    InsatiaBEL
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    Thank you for this article....I being in my 40s agree WHOLE heartily with it all an I love my younger who I play with and continues to play with from this site xxxx
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  • Tawny.Eyes

    Tawny.Eyes
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    I didn't start until I was in my 50s and god I'm loving it....
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  • LouiseS

    LouiseS
    55F SA,
     AU

    Hell Yes; )
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  • Passionately96

    Passionately96
    60F Melbourne, VIC,
     AU

    It's ridiculouse to assume just because you are 'mature'
    you automatically become confident .
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  • LizBeth259

    LizBeth259
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    When I first came on AMM, I thought I'd be lucky to get anyone to message me because I was an older person. I was totally amazed when I had younger people contacting me, both women and men. Some in their 30s. I was amazed and asked them why they would want to be with a person my age when they had a plethora of young women to choose from. The article above answers so many questions I'm still amazed that someone younger would choose an older gal like me. I have to say that, it has boosted my ego no end and has made me look at all types of men in a different light. I must admit that I do have much experience than when I did when I was in my 20s and 30s and I think that's what younger guys are looking for.
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  • SusanGKing

    SusanGKing
    54F QLD,
     AU

    Great article, have lots of young guys hitting on me, always blows me away that at my age I can turn these young guys on, but guess I'm happy with my body & younger guys say the nicest things as well so that gives me more confidence. I do like talking to older guys & hearing about their life experiences but most of them have let themselves go & the younger ones have the tight bodies....
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      cumonmytits7171
      54F Mango Hill, QLD,
       AU

      Alot of younger guys are more accepting of the fact we have had children. Guys of my own age and a little older.....expect your to be Elle. And what is insulting is when they themselves are not Sean Connery or George Clooney or Brad Pitt
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      naturalguy73
      51M Geelong, VIC,
       AU

      Hi you sound like a warm sexy lady and yes you have a nice figure the younger guy that goes out with you should look after you
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  • Slimshaddy

    Slimshaddy
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    The best experiences i have had , have been with older women, in my 20's , I was with a cougar and till this day it rates as the best encounter i ever have had. Wow...I too think a man is more experienced and better in bed when he matures so It works both ways doesn't it ?
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  • COUGAR6666

    COUGAR6666
    58F Melbourne, VIC,
     AU

    COUGARS ARE THE BEST HOT AND SEXY FUN!!!
    It's a pity younger guys don't show more respect towards them!!
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  • Cactus874

    Cactus874
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    Great article, I love mature women, I hope I can find some one here.
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    • Areyoukinky2

      Areyoukinky2
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      I'm sure that you will find an older lady here on Adult Match Maker as I have been approached by quite a few men who are much younger than myself. Best wishes for your search.
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  • Aphrodite2017

    Aphrodite2017
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    Great article and so true. I may just change the age range on my profile :)
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  • Petewil

    Petewil
    56M Terrigal, NSW,
     AU

    I am not prejudiced and can (and have) find attraction in folks from 18 to 80 but something really amazing happens to most women in their 40s and 50s..tgey seem to finally really become themselves rather than mothers, daughters, wives. Biological imperatives are replaced by sensuality. Being a slave to fashion and body shaming is replaced by style and self love. Just typing about it is making me moist.
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  • Amante.

    Amante.
    49F Adelaide, SA,
     AU

    Great article. I've met some lovely younger men however most lack the emotional maturity to turn me on between the ears...and that's where it counts first for me. It doesn't stop me trying though :-)
    I've found many men around my age to be very 'old' in their dress and attitude. Love the old school manners (most don't have that either) but not keen on polo's and brown cardigans.
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    • Mytimehascum

      Mytimehascum
      64F NSW,
       AU

      I totally agree with the manner thing but I must admit I have been with a few guys 15yrs my junior that have treated me with respect and like a lady, very well mannered indeed.
      Oh also love younger men but i too won't be with a guy that could be my son's age, doesn't feel right
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  • newjourneys2017

    newjourneys2017
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    Interesting article which I agree with :)
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  • JustR8ted

    JustR8ted
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    I've always loved older woman and my preference.
    Personally,i find they exude a confident sexual aura,vibe and scent.
    Give me class,not crass with playful cheek and sass.
    One who is highly engaging in conversation,playful banter,direct eye contact with a hint of what lies beneath,ie:classy lingerie,accentuating all the bumps,curves and wrinkles,from life's journey and the embodiment of vitality and timeless appeal.
    Just one thanks!
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  • lollysaresweet

    lollysaresweet
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    Wow I enjoy reading this article..younger guys seem to enjoy flirting..
    I just turn 60 and loving it..it's my new 50s so they say..
    Confidence and self respect is what this guy's are looking for
    Obviously know what i want and can play..on a 1 on 1 playtime
    Its that instant connection..Gel...without talking what both really want in bed...
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      naturalguy73
      51M Geelong, VIC,
       AU

      I love mature ladies they have true sex appeal class and with all ladies to be treated with love and respect also respect the white ribbon
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      naturalguy73
      51M Geelong, VIC,
       AU

      going by your photos and profile the younger guy that lucky to go out with you should treat you with warmth love and respect if I was in your state I would go out with you hold your hand kiss cuddle
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    • lollysaresweet

      lollysaresweet
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      Im flattered..Naturalguy73...
      Thank you for the compliment..
      Hope you find that Matured Woman...
      That youre looking for..
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    cumonmytits7171
    54F Mango Hill, QLD,
     AU

    I believe when a woman hits her 40's+, she knows exactly what gives her pleasure. She will not waste time in people who don't know how to please. She is honest, open, blunt. She is also kind. However, I do dislike the term "cougar". And I do have an age limit - I don't wish to be fucking someone boy young enough to be my son. I know this is psychological. But that is my boundary and a boundary "boys" need to respect. That is the difference between men & boys (men respect boundaries, boys don't).
    But, back to the topic, I know women are more comfortable within themselves. It is no skin of our noses if we get rejected/turned down. We tend to view things as "oh well, never mind, their loss".
    We can talk dirty and not care. We experiment and not care. We are who we are. And we are proud of who we are
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    • Lingam63

      Lingam63
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      Absolutely spot on . An older woman , comfortable in her sexuality , open and honest about her sexual needs and desires , is an absolute treasure . You ladies are simply delightful !
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  • LovetoGush

    LovetoGush
    52F VIC,
     AU

    I'm in my 40s and I love younger guys. I get on really well with them and they are more than happy with the way I look (and I'm far from perfect)!
    For me though I have come to that stage where I am happy with my looks and am confident in and out of the bedroom.
    Only draw back is that they either still live at home or live in share houses :(
    I find them much more willing to experiment and don't mind me giving them pointers. Love you guys xxxxxc
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  • FrauEnDe

    FrauEnDe
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    I have yet to actually meet a much younger man who has the balls to commit to a date with a much older woman. A lot of hot air out there.... but no-one who walks the talk.
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    • Areyoukinky2

      Areyoukinky2
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      You have absolutely no idea what you are missing out on but then us older ladies most likely don't want your kind anywhere near us. Yes I did read all of your profile.
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  • 1965Cougar

    1965Cougar
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    I'm 52, have the body of a 20 year old. The young guys just want lessons to earn their stripes. Many say that they want to be with an older woman, but won't be seen outside the bedroom with her. For a real woman who is completely confident this is the biggest slap in the face.... It's can be fun in the bedroom, but nowhere else and certainly not for our street cred
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    • devouchka

      devouchka
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      Im so with you girl!!! If a younger man wants to spend time with an older women than why not experience all that she has to offer in and out of the bedroom!!
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      naturalguy73
      51M Geelong, VIC,
       AU

      It is important to show and affection in and out of the bedroom mature ladies are very nice and with all women show love and respect
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    • shaunj89

      shaunj89
      35M Adelaide, SA,
       AU

      Not all guys. I love surprising older women with some skills, and a little dominance. I find older women sexy and are my preference. Thats usually because there more adventourous and actually participate.
      And agree showing respect and enhoying the company outta the bedroom is important
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  • Cookie16

    Cookie16
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    I have always been a bit wary of younger men.... and very conscious of being "old enough to be his mother" however reading this has given me a new insight and curiousness to pursuing maybe a younger guy.
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  • Mstr.Full

    Mstr.Full
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    A woman is a woman... be she older or younger! Like everything in life there are treasures and there is trash... at any age... be she a woman or be he a man... there is trash and treasure in all things and at all ages.
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  • possibilities3

    possibilities3
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    I am a woman heading for 75 , and it never ceases to amaze me how many messages I get from men in their 30's 40's and 50's Not so many in their early 60's and practically none from men over 65 and zilch from men my age. This is indeed quite an interesting topic in it's self
    I have been on AMM for several years and I have been searching
    to find a man without a fragile ego that need nursing
    .It seems when I express my inner most essence without restraint I often find that the older man's conventional stereotypical thinking; although rather quaint,
    does not jive with my way of 'Being' So I wear my Mona Lisa smile when they run a mile.
    But the men with youth on their side, don't run. It's not their style.
    However the downside is that the young virile men only seem to want sex with me when they want to lighten their bulging load before they explode.
    Which is sometimes welcomed when I am needing to express my own sexual energy, but often as not I do prefer some heart connection.
    There in lies the challenge to get a balance between my sexual and emotional needs.
    It is also tricky informing young men (and older men too) that just because I am not monogamous my unconventional life choice does not equates to promiscuity.
    So with this in mind I have set myself my own guidelines Too expansive to include here, but underpinning my guidelines is total honesty, integrity, and respect Also I endeavor to view my world with an open mind, and to be nonjudgmental of myself and others. To embrace and celebrate my sexuality and to keep on evolving. Perhaps my searching is in vain, but I am determined to be true to me.
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      naturalguy73
      51M Geelong, VIC,
       AU

      It is true mature women still have it and they know what they want but all males should show affection warmth and big one Resepect also support white ribbon day
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    nipplepinks
    58F Eight Mile Plains, QLD,
     AU

    I prefer my guys to be younger than me & find them very keen to experience new things I'm fortunate that younger guys do attract to me, but I would still be attracted and interested in an older guy if he looks after himself and is open to experiencing new things. It's all in the chemistry.
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  • SassySandy

    SassySandy
    75F Ocean Shores, NSW,
     AU

    WHO CARES WHAT HAPPENS OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM!!!!! I'm 67 and enjoying every peace of young hunk flesh......O boy am I making the best of this experience while I'm still gorgeous, have the curves and the sex drive.....they enjoy it just as much, as it's every young mans dream to explore with a Mature age woman who still has a spark......weather it's a quickie or a more sensual experience......ENJOY!!!!!!MMMMMMM
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