The Secret to Attracting the Elusive Single Female (Unicorn)

I agree completely
This is an avenue where girls rule and the more places girls rule the better
The only thing that is a worry is that this article is arming stupid and nasty guys with the tools to be just another one of the bad people. Sometimes people weather it me male or female have to realize that we gravitate towards things we think are a shining light and that what we think on first impressions is correct. Sometimes peopleshould just relax and think about what someone is saying and then they wont be as disappointed when they see the results rather than imposse their own thoughts upon what others have said. It will be a mine field for all that's the nature of the beast . Good luck to all

In the time wasters article I just read, it said that not giving a phone number is a sign of a time waster. It obviously isn't. Not happy having to give one out the other day to stop being told off.

Reading this proved to be very interesting for me. I have been a part of quite a few "trios" as the extra female. In one particular instant the female pursued me and once I was involved, put so many rules on me and was so controlling it has left me extremely hesitant to be involved ever again. She was very sly about it all the whole time. She did it over time and would "punish me" if I ever stepped out of "her rules" and before you say anything, no it was not a Dom/Sub style arrangement. It ended very badly for her in not only losing me, but her husband also. So no, wasn't treated like a princess or anything like it, with the exception from the husband, a beautiful man who treated me with such respect (when she was not around) and yes we did make a few of each other desires come to life.
Other meetings were a big hit and miss, some were wonderful where as others, again were not. There was one lady of the couple started the evening with a written list of items that I was not allowed to do and expected me to sign it before anything began.
After the experiences I have had, I decided to stop being the extra female of a trio and complete withdraw from the scene all together for a number of years now. Partly scared that the original female would be at a gathering that I would attend, and partly so I could take time for myself and heal. Yes it was that bad.
My suggestions for the couple is to really discuss the rules between each other and be honest what you each want to experience, be honest and upfront with the person you chose to become your M in the MFM or the F in the FMF and what part they are to play. Ask if you all are on the same page over a coffee or drink before diving into the whole thing, just take whatever time it takes to have the discussion.
Sorry I went on with my comment, I hope I did not dampen any expectations.

I have met one or two good guys....I have found that even good guys, dont bring wine, dont bring condoms, dont dress nicely i.e. dressy casual. The last guy turns up in daggy shorts and t-shirt. Its amazing how easy it can be to impress, but many guys just do not bother....which is fine, but dont be a wingy bitch about how hard it all is. You get what you give..

I have to agree with the don't be pushy.. I find that those that get angry with you cos your not pinpointing exact times of contact.. life comes before playing and we all have prior commitments. I can be hard to pin down because I am not a time waster and I have to work other things out to make sure I am there.
I find its good to send a message the morning of the playdate (mainly to confirm) and not leave it as no contact for couple days and then ask just before alloted time what your wearing
Great article...

It's called common sense what goes around comes around.

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  It sure is not 'common' sense....otherwise guys have none.

Great article but why do guys still treat me like crap on here if I'm so elusive? Must be me - I attract some of the biggest weirdos

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  I'm sorry to hear that my dear.... If that comfort you, I also attract very weird people/troubled man and the one I have a very strong connection in bed, do all the opposite of what says in this article. It is hard to find the right man but it will happen eventually. Give it more time.... Wishing you all the best!
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  The article was talking about playing with couples, that makes me feel like crap as well lol.

great article and fantastic reading peoples thoughts and comments. Being only new to the scene and going in with eyes wide open as it were i def agree with one particular comment above just because this is a sex site does not mean the women on here do not want to be treated with some respect.

I haven't had a root for 2 years and I do every thing they say fuck

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  Christie59

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  Stop calling it a root might help!
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  Might be your attitude

This I love....and more men should read it first..
I sat here nodding my head in agreement the whole way through...
I didn't know I was considered a UNICORN...lol.. but I love it, mystical magickal creature... yep sounds like me...

Interesting reading as always, I write this not with the primary concern of finding a female to play with others, but rather finding a suitable friend/playmate at the very least.
Actually meeting a woman of similar persuasion or, for that matter, a Unicorn remains as elusive as ever.
A recent interaction with a girl on here elicited the following response after sending her a genuine message.

"I don't intend to lower my standard just to chat with you".

I never assume someone is interested just because they look at my profile. I can only go by what is contained in their profile, the description of who they are seeking and if it is interesting enough, and may inspire me to send them a genuine message.

I do however expect a modicum of respect in a reply, a simple....."thanks but your not what Im looking for is fine",
....not "I don't intend to lower my standard just to chat with you" forgive me, but that does come across as rather insulting.
Not the rejection, I can handle that, and know the pitfalls and perils of online dating and expect that, it's just the nature of the reply as it lacks respect.
If the person sending you an email doesn't meet your expectations, that's fine, I do have certain requirements too in the person I seek. I respect that and so should they.

Lovely article. I am new to this and would be great to read some advice on how to politely handle the overwhelming attention and what to do if you have multiple suitable responses. How do you choose?!

Have never heard the term unicorn before, that's gold. Shame it's completely ruined for me after an unfortunate suggestion involving a pony I received yesterday! ;)

Every woman wants to feel like a Princess - and rightly so.

Since joining AMM a few months ago I have been fortunate (as a male) to be invited to join a few married couples to spice up their lives.

My simple rules as the second MALE joining a couple are:

1) The lady always sets the pace and is the barometer for what takes place. If she ain't happy it ain't going to happen. It might take a few meetings before she is ready to take that step into the bedroom.

2) Be prepared for the unexpected and go with the flow - and make sure you perform! (I hear so many comments about men who have claimed to be this "big" and can "perform" for this long etc.. but when the big moment arrives - the "big" squid is damp, undersized and floppy. ie KEEP IT REAL - there is nothing worse (I guess) than not being able to do what you claim. How embarrassing - especially for the male making the claims.

I have regular meet ups now with my small group of lovers and the biggest bonus is the close friendship we have built over and above the passion we now share in the bedroom together.

Great article,I guess I took a long time to grow up, but over the last 10 years or so I have developed into the sort of man you suggest. It took too long for my partner, but in the end that may have been a blessing in disguise for both us as well. Having the opportunity to start a fresh and also explore life and things that were not available in the past is like being reborn.

If I was in a committed relationship and I had to pay my partner less attention than the elusive unicorn to make her feel special I believe I would be castrated and probably rightly so!!! The only way that would work is with a playmate. I agree with playwithfriends 100%. As a single guy the ratio of men/women is overwhelmingly in the womens favour and trying to stand out from the masses is virtually impossible, so unless you have ripped abs, drop dead looks and are 7 foot tall good luck even getting a reply little own the opportunity to treat her with the respect she would deserve.I have always done most of what you have listed above and must say they are called unicorns for a reason!!! A good read all the same!!

My experience has been that the male got a jelous, but in good way. I Have only played with MFf 3 times and cause it was so new I enjoyed the man inside me and fondling and kissing the female at the same time was extraordinary. I think it's the mans job to make both females feel special, and the reward for him is 2 females devouring him.
I thought this article spoke volumes.

Great advice and a great read!

This all sounds great if you are a single guy, but as the women in the relationship I'm not going to grovel and treat another women better than what I expect for myself

You gotta be direct if you want to attract someone with similar interests.

Shut up! I'm not interested! These are just some of the things you'll be hearing if you answer this ad. I'm an idiot and I don't care about anyone but myself. PS: No dogs. lol =P

I disagree with part of #4: I much prefer guys that aren't wishy-washy about arranging something. I want to know before I waste my time meeting a guy that's too shy to touch me that he's assertive enough to take the lead.

Very insightful article, time to get out the unicorn bait..

Its a shame more guys dont read this and put into action as so far the ones that do are more elusive than us unicorns. Couples on the other hand are respectful and courteous and enjoy my time with them.

How about just to show up when invited as many of us unicorns have extremely limited play time as we are mothers and major bread winners in our single parent families.....and yes we have our little rules to keep us safe and yes we do get bombarded by both males and couples and groups... very insightful article. thank you

i have no problem making the unicorn feel special but it seems to me this article at the end came undone by expecting you to treat her like a princess. i thought the goal was for everyone to feel special as a joint fun time not just the unicorn. i love to fulfill peoples desires and have no problem trying to do so but i have desires to as a female i don't want to just focus on her i want it to be about the both of us feeling special and having a blast while doing it. i am still hoping to catch the unicorn but i hope she feels that i am just as special as her!! Samantha

100% correct.

Yes it is a good insight into the way to go about wooing a lady and have read a few other articles on three sums as well. Am wanting to gain some experiences from this site and never forget them.

Femmedom
Very well put article there are so many men that have no idea how to treat a classy lady we may be on a sex site but class and respect is paramount I have meet some wonderful men on this site but also men that just don't understand the largest sexual organ is the brain and that woman love the idea of slow seduction to me it's all about the journey to create a higher level of sexual desire and to make that destination fulfilling longer erotic experience.

Awesome insight to a complex question, thank you for posting, hopefully no one else reads this lol
Sean & Mel