Masturbation! How good is it! For both men and women, it's an incredible way to connect to yourself, to relieve pent up sexual tension, to help us get to sleep, to pass time while you're waiting for your two minute noodles to cook (what? Doesn't everyone do this?) or even to show off and perform for another... There are so many different ways we do it, and benefits to the act too.

It's also something pretty much everyone does. Everyone. And it's also something almost everyone has been doing for practically their whole lives. Hell, even babies have been seen to be doing what looks like masturbation in the womb.

We are creatures of pleasure and self gratification and until all those outside influences start to get to us (be they religious or other ways of shaming people about their sexual feelings), we do it with absolute abandon and for no other purpose other than to give ourselves pleasure.

When it comes to masturbation for women, although we're definitely getting more used to talking and hearing about it, it still has this sort of shameful taboo. For too long women's sexuality has been policed and monitored to be kept somewhere between “good girl and demon whore”, which is ridiculous because not only is there no such thing as a “good girl V a demon whore”, but also because every single person's definition of those terms is different anyway. So we can never win. Never be right. And thus women are continuously judged, shamed and kept down.

Well screw that! The time for the masturbation revolution has come, and leading the charge, in an amazingly educational and kinda sexy way, is the website called OMGYes!

What is OMGYes!?

OMGYes! is a website which you can access via your phone or tablet that has been designed to teach women how to masturbate. Yeah, I know I said up the top that we all do it and all know how to do it, so why should we even need this? Well, it's simple... Masturbation is fun, it's exciting, it's good for you... And there are so many different ways to do it, and get different results, and different types of orgasms, so why not learn about them all? Also, as I said above with the good girl V demon whore stuff, many, many women have been shamed out of touching themselves for so many years; they have not only forgotten how, or why, but they also need the confidence and support of real women to help lift the shame, and OMGYes! This is a really unique way that I've never really come across (pardon the pun) before. And another great thing about it is that guys can read it, and sit and watch and use the hands on feature (more about this soon) to also learn the different techniques and experiment with touching their partners in these ways to see what sensations and orgasms they can elicit.

Real Women. Real Talk

One of the things I loved so much about this program was the women who have made it. Women of all ages, shapes, nationalities (well, they're all American, but you know what I mean) and preferences have come together (again, pardon the pun) to talk about masturbation, specifically the ways they masturbate, and then show us, explicitly, how they do it.

It isn't porn as such, but at the same time, it kind of is. I mean, there are no porny writhing on the bed type actions, or distorted faces, over-the-top orgasms, and to me it is wholly refreshing!

I mean sure, it's video depictions of women masturbating on camera, with very close up detail, and it can be rather erotic to watch, but it has a distinctly educational feel throughout it all, as the women are touching and explaining in simple, yet articulate ways, what they are doing, how they are feeling, and how the particular method they are using works.

There are all sorts of different looking vaginas, vulvas, labias, and clitorises, all with different degrees of grooming from full bush to completely hair free. Each woman is intelligent and articulate and completely without shame about what they are doing, and the whole thing just has this gorgeous air of matter-of-factness about it all. It's refreshing and exciting to see.

The Twelve Techniques

In the first series of videos, the women are focusing on twelve different techniques of masturbation, and I'll break them down briefly for you here.

1. Edging

Just like in the article I wrote on edging for AMM recently, this is a pretty common practice for many women. It is the act of bringing yourself to the point of orgasm and stopping just before the climax, allowing yourself to relax, and then start it up again. The videos in this section look at three different variations of the edging technique.

2. Rhythm

The app explains it a bit like tapping your feet to the beat of a song. The way the song and the rhythm begin to flow within you. The technique is more of a tapping and pushing one than a rubbing or circling one, and depending on where they tap and push their fingers, the sensations change, and the orgasm grows.

3. Hinting

As it sounds, hinting is the technique where you hardly even touch the clitoris or vaginal opening at all, you hint at it, touching everywhere but the most sensitive areas, and then every so often a lighter touch directly on the area. The build up and anticipation is what these women rave about. Hinting can be done in a couple of ways, like direct contact on the clit, but just hinting touches on the vagina, or vice versa.

4. Consistency

Like hinting, this one is pretty self explanatory. The consistency technique is about keeping the same rhythm, the same movement, the same motion going all the way through. No changing it up, or distracting or teasing yourself... Just going the same pace until you come. This is a pretty common technique many women use right at the end (no matter what your build up technique is) to get over the hump.

5. Surprise

Surprise is basically the opposite of consistency. Changing the motion and the rhythm every few movements and using a variety of all the techniques mentioned in the app. Often, however, once the build up is at the right point, many women who enjoy the surprise technique will come from consistency.

6. Multiples

This is looking at different techniques women use to give themselves multiple orgasms. There's some great information about clitorises and how they work and respond, and some fantastic tips and tricks on how to get over the hump a second, third and even more times.

7. Accenting

Accenting is using your fingers to accentuate a specific spot on your clit or area. So if you like moving in a circle, perhaps the left circular movement has slightly more pressure than on the right side, or if you're an up and down girl, you put more pressure on the down stroke. It's about finding your sweet spots and dedicating slightly more pressure or attention to the area.

8. Framing

This one isn't a masturbation technique as such; this is looking at the different issues and distractions many women have that can stop them from fully letting go and being able to orgasm or enjoy the moment. It talks about putting too much pressure on yourself, the effect of pressure on your partner to make you come, all those little things that can distract us from coming, and several solutions and ways to change our mindset and free ourselves up to pleasure.

9. Layering

Layering is the practice of masturbating with layers over the area, like rubbing yourself over the top of your underwear or clothes, or pinching the labia together (they call it a clit sandwich, which made me giggle, but gives you the visual) and rubbing the clit through there. It can be done in a bunch of ways, but the main similarity is there is very little to no direct skin contact.

10. Staging

Staging looks at the way our bodies, arousal, and of course orgasms change over time, and even how our bodies change even within the one session. It looks at ways of recognising our own bodies and the responses it gives, and ways to harness all the different stages it takes to get us to orgasm.

11. Orbiting

Although one of the most common techniques women use to come is by circling their clitoris, did you know there are a million ways to make a circle? Well, perhaps not a million, but one person’s circle is another person's egg shape, and so on. This section looks at all the different types of ways a clitoris enjoys being orbited by fingers, sometimes directly on it, other times no contact at all. Orbiting can incorporate almost every single other technique talked about too.

12. Signalling

This is the section I loved the best. Why? Because it plays directly into my core belief that “communication is key” when it comes to sex. Most of us already know this, but knowing it and being able to speak up and do it are two different things. This section gives a whole heap of suggestions and ways to signal to your partner what you like and don't like. It's just really, really good.

13. Hands On

This feature is really excellent! After each video, there is another video you can watch which is like an interactive vagina! No shit! It’s a touch screen of the woman's vulva and clitoris, and you get to practice the techniques you've just been shown. The voice will let you know if you're doing it right, and it's incredibly realistic rubbing on this nice photograph of a clit that moves as you stroke.

Final Word

I have to admit I was dubious at first. Why would I need an app to show me how to do something I've always done? But after a couple of videos in, I was hooked and keen to learn more! I am a professional sexpert who has spent her entire career focusing on sex and pleasure, and even I learnt new things, new techniques and new ways to come. It was refreshingly beautiful to watch and see all these different women with no shame or qualms about their beautiful bodies, and I really hope this frankness about sex and pleasure becomes the norm. I want to point out it's not just a bunch of masturbation videos, though. It is so much more. Diagrams and detailed explanations of all the different styles, information and facts about orgasm and the body. Tips and tricks of how to take it from solo masturbation into sexual play with a partner and so much more.

I cannot recommend it enough. For everyone. Men. Women. Couples. It's worth every single cent of the nominal cost to download.

Link: omgyes.com

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