Okay guys, let’s take a moment to talk about butts. More specifically, your butts and what happens when you let your partner strap one on and slide into your world from a whole new angle. 

Spoiler alert: it’s not just a fucking good time. It actually has the potential to make you better at sex. Like, way better. Like, the sort of lover women's group chat threads thrive on.

Now, before you start clenching your cheeks and stressing about gayness, relax. Pegging doesn't steal your masculinity or blokeiness or "make you gay". In fact it doesn't say anything about your sexuality at all, and it certainly doesn’t revoke your right to yell at the footy, or fix a car, or pose with a fish, or any other blokey type things I assume men like to do to affirm their masculinity. 

It’s just sex. 
Very, very good sex. 
In fact, it's so good it can teach you things you didn’t even know you were missing.
Let me explain...

It's a Crash Course in Vulnerability

Most men are used to being the “do-ers” in bed. Even when she's in an on-top or other more "in control " position, the very act of being the "penetrator" is one that holds a certain air of "power". 

Pegging flips that, but not in an "emasculating" way. Vulnerability is not weakness. It's actually the complete opposite. It’s huge! It's brave! It's liberating!

Suddenly you’re the one adjusting your breath and focusing on relaxing, or asking for more lube and saying “hang on a sec”.

Even if you are the most careful and considerate of lovers, once you’ve been on the receiving end you start to really get it.

You understand why your partner sometimes needs a slower pace or a little patience. You get why angles and positions really matter. It’s empathy through experience, and it will absolutely change the way you touch people forever. In the best ways.

You Find New Pleasures You Didn’t Know Existed

I say it so often, but of course it bears repeating. Your arse isn’t just for sitting on and doing farts you blame on the dog. It’s also home to the prostate. That amazing spot hidden deep in your butt that controls ejaculation and overall penis health and, when stimulated properly, can give you orgasms you'll lose your mind over. 

You thought coming was good before? That's nothing compared to a prostate orgasm. Full body, intense, powerful, and sometimes even emotional. 

Seriously, once you know how good, yet different, you can feel from the right angle and pressure, you suddenly absolutely get why your partner’s clit isn’t an “optional extra” but an essential part of the show.

You Actually Have to Talk

If you're a regular reader of my writing, you'll know that communication and consent are probably my biggest bags. Sex cannot be good without either of them, and this is a huge lesson in all of my articles. Pegging doesn’t just “happen.” Well, it shouldn't anyway, not the first few times.

There will have to be conversations about lube, preparation, positions, pace and what feels good. You both need to check in regularly, and you will absolutely have to use your words. There will be awkwardness and possible comedy, and lots of shifting and changing and working it all out together, but guess what? That’s not just pegging, that’s all good sex ever. 

If you can say “slower” or “deeper” or “omg don’t stop, keep doing it right there” during pegging, then you can say it in bed anytime. 

Communication suddenly becomes second nature and holy shit it can be sexy.

You Stop Treating Sex Like a Performance

Yes I know, Not All Men, but certainly a lot of you, even if not directly in front of your partners, seem to see sex as some kind of competition to win. 

Forget that shit. There’s no scoreboard here. 

Nobody’s judging how long you last or how many porn-worthy moves you can bust out.

Pegging is about being in the moment, letting go of ego, and actually having fun. You giggle, you moan, you fumble with straps. You learn a whole lot about yourself, your body, and your partner. It’s silly and sometimes a little messy and always a lot real. And that kind of sex always ends up being the best kind.

You Get Braver

As I mentioned earlier, trying pegging really does take guts. I get it! 

I’ve been around sex and sex conversations for almost thirty years now! I know what "mainstream" society tries to tell men about butts and butt sex. So much so there are millions of men (no I'm actually not exaggerating) who are too scared to even wipe and clean their butts properly because they might catch "gay" from the act. 

So I know to get to this point you’ve had to push past all the dumb cultural baggage, and ignore all the weird homophobic, misogynistic misinformation and say “why not?” 

That kind of openness, courage, and curiosity sticks with you. It makes you bolder, braver, and more adventurous in all areas of your life, not just the bedroom.

Once you say yes to pegging, imagine what else you might begin to want to say yes to?

The Bottom Line (pun absolutely intended)

Like everything we try in life, pegging doesn’t have to be your thing forever. You might try it once and file it under “fun experiment”. Or you might love it so much you make room in the bedside drawer for a whole collection of harnesses and straps of various shapes and sizes. You may even decide you don’t like it at all and never want to go down that path again, and that's completely okay too. Everyone is different and everyone enjoys different things, but you really can't knock it (or anything really) until you've tried it.

Trust me, though. No matter what you decide, I promise you that you’ll walk away a better lover. More empathetic, more communicative, more playful, and a lot less hung up on old ideas of what sex is or isn't. You will feel more free, more alive, and more sexy than you thought you ever could 

So go on! Have a conversation, lube up, breathe deeply, and bend over for better sex. You might just surprise yourself!

Until next time, happy pegging, my friends.

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  KinkyGirl101

  51F SA,

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  Great article Eva

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  erogenus

  50M Newcastle, NSW,

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  Thankyou for another great article . Where to find a lovely lady that enjoys pegging , that is the challenge. Any suggestions much appreciated .

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  Boobieslover

  41M SA,

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  Seeing and feeling how insanely turned on she was while pegging me for the first time for both of us was unbelievably sexy. It exposed a kind of sexiness she didn’t know she had hiding inside her and The turn on that gave me was next level indescribably hot

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  Blue262

  55M WA,

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  "...you really can't knock it (or anything really) until you've tried it."

  Having been around people for whom years of butt action have turned every cough, laugh or sneeze into a possible hygiene emergency, I'm prepared to give the whole rump-wrangling chapter a big miss.

  I expect that to people whose arseholes still look like holes, and not pouting, sulking slots, I might seem a little limited, but listening to doctors talk about women in their 20s who have fissures not found in promiscuous gay men past their 60s has convinced me to not bother much with the path less travelled.

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