A Beginner's Guide to Rimming

Eva Sless Eva Sless on 12 January 2024    13 comments
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Rimming, also referred to as analingus in more formal terms, is the sexual practice of orally stimulating the anus or butthole. 

Licking, slurping, kissing, tonguing... All the good stuff! 

While it's not a new thing by any means, like many not-so-commonplace sexual practices, it's definitely becoming a far more popular and talked about thing as the younger, less conservative generations start experimenting, expressing, and talking openly about their sexualities and sexual adventures. 

If it's something you're curious about, we've put together a beginners guide for you to get started and get down.

Hygiene and Clean

As with any intimate play, maintaining good hygiene is a must, and when it comes to sexual play in and around the butt, it is imperative that good hygiene and cleanliness is done in the immediate.  Making sure the area is clean and accessible takes more than just a bit of a wipe. Get in the shower, lather up a flannel, and get that soapy good stuff right in between the cheeks. Do it twice. Spread 'em and let the water run down. If you think it's done, excellent. Now do it again to make sure. Douching is an option too (you can get anal douches from both sex shops and chemists, and are very easy to use if you follow the directions on the box) and can do wonders for easing that little voice in the back of your head that wonders if you've cleaned it properly. 

Lubrication

It’s important to remember that the anus doesn't have natural lubrication like the vagina does, so a little extra slip and slide can go a long way in both comfort and pleasure. Yeah, a lot of regular lube can be a bit gross tasting, but these days there are so many amazing flavoured lubes (in all different styles from water based to silicone to hybrid) that you can drizzle and slurp and lick anything from sweet strawberry to vanilla and coffee and sort of forget your tongue is actually where it is.

I will say, however, when freshly cleaned and ready for rimming, a butthole doesn't taste like you think it might.

It's just skin, and literally tastes like nothing much at all.

Playtime!

Now please remember, when it comes to sex, the journey is just as important as the destination and this is a really important thing to remember when rimming.

For the most part it probably won't make anyone actually come on its own. Like sucking on someone’s nipples or toes (if you're into that). It feels good. It feels sexy. It can lead to incredible sex and oral sex, but the building of sensation and horniness, the taboo nature of what you're doing, the fact that your tongue is exploring an incredible sensitive and sexually heightened spot... that's the point. 

So take your time. Explore the area and how different parts feel on your tongue. Start with slow, long licks. Tickle the area with the tip of your tongue. Kiss the butt cheeks. Squeeze and grab a little. Slide your finger along the perineum (the skin between the butt hole and genitals). Maybe even tease with a little finger pushing on the butthole itself.

Most importantly, pay attention to your partner's responses. Ask them if they're enjoying themselves. Mmmm, do you like that? What if I put my finger just here...

Safe Sex Always 

While rimming is generally considered a low-risk activity, it's still important to be mindful of STIs whenever you're playing sexually with new people or more people than you usually do.

Dental dams can be used for barrier protection if you need (although they're not easy to find all the time, sexual health clinics will have them, and you can usually buy them easily online). Regular STI testing and open conversations about sexual health can help create a safe and confident space which leads us to the most important part of any sex play.

Consent and Communication

Yes we always say it, but that's because it is so important in any sexual activity. 

Consent. Proper, informed, enthusiastic consent. Openly communicate with your partner about what you want to do to them, or have done to you. Discussing boundaries and comfort levels is essential to a good time being had by all, and should always go at the pace of the more hesitant. Don't be afraid to say no if you're uncomfortable, and always listen and stop when someone asks you to.

All in all rimming is a damn good way to spend your foreplay time, and can lead to sensations and orgasms you thought only happened in porn and Penthouse forum letters.

We'd love to hear your stories! Tell us your experiences below!

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  • Sexmadmilf69

    Sexmadmilf69
    Account closed

    I absolutely adore being rimmed by my playmates it's so sensual and gets me so aroused I just love having it done to me as foreplay
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  • SteveAustiin

    SteveAustiin
    56M Central Coast, NSW,
     AU

    I meet a gorgeous lady on here that surprised the hell out of me with rimming . Have to say it was absolutely amazing. If you've thought about definitely go for OT l, it's next level. But yeah for sure wash wash douche.
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  • Langie12

    Langie12
    57M 44F Dubbo, NSW,
     AU

    Huge fan here. Receiving and giving. A month ago I experienced a first. One of my long term fwb absolutely loves anal play but on this occasion it went one step further. She is extremely orgasmic and it's not unusual for her to experience multiple orgasms over a long period. We had switched over to my licking her bum when she went into a long rolling orgasm. This was a first for both her and me. She's certainly orgasmed during anal, penetrative, sex on numerous occasions before but this was her first during anal oral. She said it was like nothing she'd ever experienced and didn't want me to stop.
    >4w
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  • triXXXi66

    triXXXi66
    58F 58M SA,
     AU

    Cant think of anything worse… the thought just freezes me up! I won’t do it or allow it to be done to me.. ewwk… even with wash wash and douche.. there are so many other sensual areas on the body to enjoy.. why would you want to lick the garbage disposal!
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  • badthoughts63

    badthoughts63
    54M Sydney, NSW,
     AU

    Love it
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  • Boldpromise

    Boldpromise
    53M Lewisham, NSW,
     AU

    Cleanliness is definitely paramount. Ive loved rimming ever since I was trained as an oral slave by an older woman when I was in my late teens.My greatest pleasure is to give pleasure orally and to have a woman on all fours or squatting over my face As I spread her ass cheeks and devour her with my eager tongue and mouth.The deeper my tongue goes the more pleasure the lady feels until she is ready to have her pussy devoured.Rimming is something I truly love doing.
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  • Campbelltown1

    Campbelltown1
    70M Glenfield, NSW,
     AU

    I never thought about it untill one day i was with a lady i met on here and over time we had lots of fun .I allways showered before we played and this time she "perved' on me while showering.Then one time i was on all fours whit her playing with my balls and cock then all of a sudden she started running her finger around my butt hole i asked her (what are you doing) she said do i do like it of course id did,then i felt her tounge going around my butt hole and totally unexpected and something i'd never have thought of asking anyone to do.
    So on the last few occasions we have played i kind of hope she does it again and she has but dosent do all the time.
    She wont allow me to return the favour and not sure if i could.
    So after the first time and playing was over we sat down and i asked her why did you do that.
    Said she had never down it before and as she had a good "perve'(her words) on me in the shower she told me that she had made her mind up thats what she wanted to do and wasnt sure how i would react.
    she also told me that she was pretty sure i wouldnt stop her from doing it. We dont play as often now but those memories i have.
    >4w
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  • lilltassytiger

    lilltassytiger
    54M NSW,
     AU

    Was (first) introduced into this by a V young playmate, (she was just on eighteen, I was mid thirty's, from memory). The first time, she did me, I SQUEALED, like a little girl given a new toy ! ;-))). But once, I got used to the (INCREDIBLE), sensations, I (COULDN'T), get enough ! I was (ONLY), too glad to show my play/lady friend then, what (I'D) learnt ! This is also, something LOVE, sharing with my current partner, (usually, the experience too intense for her to take for too long), ;-)).
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  • justus24u2

    justus24u2
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    An absolutely fantastic way to set off all your senses
    >4w
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  • BigThickCutCock

    BigThickCutCock
    55M Morayfield, QLD,
     AU

    I absolutely love rimming a lady’s sweet asshole. I like nothing better, as foreplay, than licking & tongue-fucking a lady’s sweet asshole with my naughty greedy tongue. I love when my lady love has the most powerful all over body anal orgasms from the sexual pleasures I can give her from my tongue deep in her bumhole.
    >4w
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