My friend is cheating on her partner
Q: My friend just admitted that she’s been cheating on her partner. I am friends with both of them. What do I do? I feel she’s put me in a really horrible situation and now I’m the one who is going to have to lie.
Oh mate, I can feel the weight of this situation just by reading your words.
It’s never fun when a friend drops a shitty bombshell like this on you, especially when you’re tight with their partner. You know what? Good friends are honest with each other, even when it’s time to have the hard conversations.
Firstly, remind yourself that this isn’t your circus to manage. You didn’t sign up to be centred in a cheating scandal between your buddies. Your friend made the decision to cheat and that’s her decision. While you didn’t choose to find this information out, you do have a choice in how you handle the situation.
So, buckle in, grab yourself a wine and let’s talk about your options.
Option 1: Face your friend head-on
If you’re close friends, it’s worth having a one-on-one chat with your friend to let her know how you feel. Let her know that you’ve found her actions disappointing and that it’s put you in a shitty position. Encourage her to come clean with her partner, and remind her that honesty is the secret sauce of a healthy relationship.
Option 2: Stay out of it
Not every situation requires your intervention. If you feel that confronting your friend would stain your relationship or you simply don’t want to get involved in someone else’s hot mess, it’s okay to take a step back and be a spectator. Plus, we’ve all got our own shit going on that we’re trying to deal with, right? If you don’t feel the need to get involved – don’t. However, consider how your silence might affect your friendship with your buds if you don’t take a stand.
Option 3: Talk to your friend’s partner
If you feel the cheated-on partner deserves the truth, consider having a heart-to-heart with them. Tread lightly though, as this can be a delicate situation. If you take this route, make sure you approach the conversation with empathy, making sure your friend knows you’re only sharing the information because you care about them and want them to know the truth. Be warned… results may vary!
In the end, how to choose to approach this shit sandwich is up to you. Each option has its ups and downs. But remember, it’s not your responsibility to cover up for your friend. Nip it in the bud if you can!
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