Cyber Sex – How to Get Down during Lockdown

As the world continues to experience social distancing and lockdown humans are finding different ways to communicate, connect, and stay in touch. In this time of uncertainty and anxiety it really has been great to see how many of us are managing to keep that human connection alive.

All of us who never used our phones as phones are starting to relish that simple feature we ignored for so long. We're finally starting to utilise the incredible resource of the world wide Web for what it was always intended to be, as a way to make our world a little smaller and closer, and it's been wonderful watching humans make the best of a really scary and really shitty situation.

One thing, however, that has been really tricky for a lot of us stuck in lockdown has been sex and intimacy. If you're living alone or distanced from your partner it really can be a lonely and difficult time, but it isn't impossible or the end of your sex life for the foreseeable future. And with a bit of imagination and the brilliant technology that's available at our fingertips, you really can still have a good, intimate, fulfilling sex life.

Wanna Cyber?

Who remembers the good ol' days of A/S/L (Age/Sex/Location) when the internet was a new and shiny place and MSN message systems and HTML based chat rooms lurked in the dark corners where people waited for someone to "cyber sex" with?

Yeah... Me too. It was fun and sexy and a little bit taboo... It really wasn't for everyone though, but as the internet has grown, "cyber sex" has definitely evolved into something that can be shared and enjoyed by anyone who wants to.

I’ve come up with a bunch of different ideas that you and your isolated partner/hook up/FWB can do to keep the horny sparks alive until such time as we're allowed to move closer than 1.5 metres away from each other.

Sexting or Messaging

Sometimes all it can take is a single word to get you all squirmy in the pants region and now is the perfect time to hone your skills in "dirty texting" while also staying connected to your lovers and partners. This is something many, many couples already do. A lot. Sexy texts. Sexy pics. Sexy texts with added sexy pics.  It doesn't have to be every single time you text together, and you should also carry on your every day chat and connections... But, like in all relationships long distance or otherwise, it really is important to make time and space for you both to have some alone time together... Even 1000 miles away from each other or physically distanced from the next suburb.

Note: Read our article on how to take sexy nude pics and what you can send her other than a dick pic. And don’t forget our Messenger system allows free flowing conversations which don’t expire and you can share your Private Gallery pics with the members you choose. Our Gold & Platinum Premium members can also video chat and audio chat within Messenger. 

Webcam

Every modern laptop or phone comes with an inbuilt camera so you don't even need to make an "essential" trip out of the house to buy anything. Whether you use Zoom or Messenger type apps or utilise the brilliant video chat feature in Messenger, you can fire it up and have some face to face sexy time with your lover or potential lovers. Relax! You don't have to go into a full on vibrator cam show for them. Just start slow and sultry. Maybe just in your underwear or a sexy outfit. Little show and tell peeks and glimpses... Give each other sexy little tasks to perform for each other. Watch them show off for you...

But really, just being able to see each other, look each other in the eyes and speak face to face without actually being face to face... It really will bring that sexy intimacy back to your relationship.

Note: Our Video Chat works with all devices so login and check it out and share some sexy time with other Adult Match Maker members in lockdown. Also note that Zoom is apparently unimpressed with R rated content so don’t use it for NSFW content sharing if you need that app for working from home. 

Mutual Masturbation

Completely by itself, or mixed with any of the suggestions on this blog, getting your hands down your pants while you talk dirty to your partner on the phone or via webcam is another way to stay sexually connected. You can take it in turns telling each other exactly what you want them to do to you or vice versa, and listening to your lover pleasure themselves over the phone in your ear is absolutely a sure-fire way of getting your own juices flowing.

Remote Control Sex Toys

How good is technology! We've already talked about the incredible evolutions of mobile phones, cameras and the internet but it's not just limited to computers. These days sex toy companies have jumped right into the action creating sex toys that can be used remotely via an app so that while one person is wearing it, another person, anywhere in the world, can use the controls.

Match that with a video or phone call and you can have the real-time, sexy-time play-time and neither of you have to ever leave the comfort of your own house!

Pre-recorded Videos

Similar to your webcam chats but this is something you can take a bit more time and (if so inclined and skilled) editing programs to make sultry, sexy mini porn clips to send to your partner. Stylised masturbation clips. Sexy strip teases. Add light filters. Music. A voice over if you want. Hone up your filming and video editing skills and come out of the other side of isolation with a whole new set of skills under your belt... As well as a nice, satisfied feeling there too. You can also read our blog post on how to make your own sex tape.

Virtual Reality

Still in its early stages, virtual reality or VR porn is definitely gaining popularity as the technology improves. While a little bit pricey, a few adult shops have systems available to buy and the staff should be able to give you more information on what they have and how it all works. Basically it works on both a video eyeglasses contraption and a sex toy (these days mostly Fleshlight type things for penises, but there are some programs for vaginas too), and the two work together to make it seem like what you're watching on the screen is happening to your body. Having a set for both you and your isolated partner can give you both a virtual experience that feels like you're both actually right there on the action.

Quarantine and Chill

Even if you don't have a VR set, subscribing to a good porn site and then watching the same clips while talking on the phone or video chatting is the Iso way of watching porn together. You can take turns picking what to watch and showcase to each other the styles and genres you enjoy. It's a great way of sharing fantasies together and just think of all the new things you'll be wanting to explore and try once you're able to be in the same room together.

Note: There’s some great Aussie porn on offer so check out Lightsouthern, Permission4Pleasure and some of our Australian made porn producers and local pornstars. 

It's a hard time all over the world right now and it really is important to keep not only our personal and family connections alive but also our intimate ones. While we know it won't last forever, we really don't know how long it will be until the world returns to some semblance of normality so it's never been more vital to keep the human and sexual connection alive.

Always please remember to ask for permission before sending anything too intimate (rarely does anyone like an unsolicited dick pic, even your partners) and never EVER share or post or link or show intimate photos and videos of another person to anyone else without the other person's explicit consent .... It is not only a gross breach of trust, it's also illegal.

Stay healthy, maintain social distancing, wash your hands, and stay connected. We'll get through this together.... Even if we're all a bit separated right now.

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